Why are there fears of getting married?

What are the reasons for being afraid of getting married?

Men and women fear marriage for different reasons.

woman

(1) Afraid of becoming a housewife and losing freedom.

For enterprising women, independence and freedom will be more important than marriage. Marriage means that women lose their independent attributes and cannot have a free and relaxed living environment. Parents' short-term management and housework will stifle enterprising women's expectations of married life.

(2) Fear of handling family disputes

Marriage is a matter for two families. When two different families are combined, there are naturally many contradictions. Dealing with endless family conflicts, big and small, will make the woman afraid of getting married or choose an easy life.

(3) Don't want to be a mother

If you get married, you have to have children, which is what is called "learning" in today's society. If anyone has been married for a period of time without children, even women with normal reproductive function will have all kinds of rumors outside. However, it takes time, energy and money to give birth and raise children, which are all pressures for women. Giving birth to a child means that the freedom of this life is gone and will be tied to the child.

(4) Worried that marriage is the grave of love

When you are in love, you are a gentle, considerate and obedient man. However, whether men cheat after marriage, are too lazy to make progress, or something else, these are all issues that women care about. However, if you don't get married, you don't need to consider this extra burden. Just fall in love freely and easily.

(5) Fear of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really an "eternal problem". Under the influence of all kinds of negative news between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many women have regarded mother-in-law as the biggest imaginary enemy in marriage. A large proportion of women are unwilling to get married because they are afraid of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

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male

(1) Worried about freedom after marriage

Men want to have their own private space when they are in love, and they need freedom even more after marriage. For most men, the wife's bondage and demands are a kind of bondage and burden, which means losing freedom.

(2) I am worried that I can't bear the responsibility of marriage.

After marriage, men are the "backbone" of the family. If you can't take care of the whole family, it is likely to cause marriage failure and men will be hurt. So when a man is not mature enough, or when the economic conditions are not enough to support a family, he will go to fear of marriage.

(3) Worried about the economic pressure after marriage.

After marriage, men have to face a series of problems that have to be considered, such as work, children and parents. These economic burdens naturally fall on the shoulders of men. Even if the wife can give support and help, few men can accept it. And because the current marriage requires a house, a car and a stable job, these men who can't meet the standards are afraid that they can't get married.

(4) Marriage will restrict career.

Most ordinary men should not only support the material needs of the family, but also undertake the trivial matters of the family, and also deal with the sending and welcoming of relatives at home, and do a good job in all kinds of complicated relationships between home and outside. The short-term treatment of these parents usually makes men exhausted, so the career and life are naturally out of balance. Most men whose careers are still on the rise will naturally be afraid of the obstruction of marriage.