Singapore attaches importance to cultivating children's excellent qualities.

Singaporeans attach great importance to family moral education and strive to cultivate children's good qualities.

First, cultivate a kind heart.

Among the many characters in the works of Singapore woman writer Kang Peishan, there is a dark-haired girl who lives in a small town. She independently takes care of two poor and sick adoptive parents with her young and weak body. This masterpiece "Black Hair" has won great praise in Singapore, because from this teenage girl, people see the great strength and infinite wisdom brought by the kind spirit.

Ms. Chen Xinyi, the former director of education in Singapore, believes that parents should not only love their children with full love, but also teach them to love others. Children should be taught to love their parents, their elders, their teachers, their classmates, their schools and so on. If a child only accepts others' love since childhood, but never knows how to treat others with the same love, then he will only become an emotional idiot and devil when he grows up, or he will only accept others' love numbly and never love others at all. Such children will only bring misfortune to the family and society in the future, and will eventually be rejected by the family and society.

Ms. Chen also said that parents should teach their children how to express their feelings through their words and deeds. For example, once, her two young sons were playing the game of "trapeze". They excitedly ran around every room, jumping up and down on the sofa, screaming and cheering loudly, and refused to sleep until late at night. Ms. Chen Xinyi didn't go up to the children and reprimand them as usual, and then dragged an order to go to bed immediately. Instead, she quietly turned off the TV, turned off the headlights in the room, crept up and began to pick up the messy toys, pointing her middle finger at the children? Shh? He whispered with tears: Dad works hard, so he should go to bed early tonight. Can you stop playing games for a while and let dad have a good sleep, so that he will be very motivated to go to work tomorrow? . The two children nodded inexplicably, but they were obviously in high spirits and reluctant to part with the game toys around them. So Ms. Chen promised not to put away the toys in a hurry, but to put them in a big box and play them tomorrow. They also strongly praised their thoughtfulness and filial piety. So the children happily went to say to their father? Good night? , obediently returned to his bedroom.

Ms. Chen's advice to parents is that parents should cultivate their children's feelings of loving their parents and others, and give them opportunities to express these feelings. For example, let children know that their parents are busy and tight at work, and playing at home can't affect their parents' rest; We should care about our parents' health, respect our elderly grandparents and do something for them. When you play with your peers, you can take photos harmoniously and help each other. Willing to do good for neighbors and companions, and so on.

Second, cultivate children to be disciplined and orderly.

China has a saying:? No rules, no Fiona Fang? This is also one of the important principles of family moral education in Singapore. Parents in Singapore often cultivate their children's awareness of norms through small things in daily life or various forms of games, so that children can know these norms and consciously act according to them.

Mr. Chen Xingang, a famous professor at the National University of Singapore and dean of the School of Business Administration, said with deep feelings when he recalled his childhood: At that time, my brother and I were both very young and not very sensible. But our parents try to let us know that everything has certain rules. At home, my mother let us know that all kinds of things and objects in the house are in a fixed place, and they should be put back after each use. Every day, she wants us to go to bed and get up on time, eat on time and do all kinds of exercises and homework on time. At that time, my brother and I were very obedient, not afraid of being beaten, but afraid of disobedience. My mother will tell the teacher about our performance, so that the students will know that this is a shameful thing. ? He also described the game between his father and himself when he was a child. Once, a father and son played chess. Chen Xingang was very competitive and wanted to beat his father. Open your eyes and concentrate on thinking about every move, and the pieces in your hand are wet with sweat. Finally, he came up with a sharp attack, and he took a step forward proudly. Unexpectedly, at the moment of moving, he suddenly found that he had miscalculated. This move was tantamount to taking the initiative to enter the tiger's mouth, so he hurriedly shouted that he regretted the game. At this time, my father, who has always been kind and gentle, became serious. He is not allowed to regret playing chess carefully, although it is only an informal chess game. Teenagers are only secretly dissatisfied with their father's unreasonable behavior, and even have no such father for a long time? Small-minded? . It took him many years to realize that this year? No regrets? His ditty is full of his father's kindness. Any game has rules, and rules are the guarantee for playing the game smoothly and achieving the purpose of the game. For children, the rules of the game are necessary constraints on their own behavior. As for playing games with children, the father urges children to strictly abide by the rules, precisely to cultivate their self-control, train their discipline and lay a solid foundation for them to become law-abiding citizens in the future.

Third, educate children to be polite.

Singaporeans attach great importance to politeness. What do you think? A person's courtesy is a mirror that reflects his portrait? Advocating civility and politeness undoubtedly reflects the friendly relationship of mutual care and respect among people, and also reflects the cultural and educational level of citizens themselves. In this respect, Singaporeans and China people have many similarities and differences.

Cultivating children's civility and politeness means asking children to learn to be kind, gentle and humble.

Singaporeans attach great importance to polite language. They teach children to address their parents, teachers and other elderly people on any occasion. What about you? , but not a name; When asking for help from others, say it sincerely? Thank you? , but can't take it for granted and ignore it; When you hinder others or cause inconvenience, you should speak up? Excuse me. 、? May I trouble you? You can't help saying you're sorry, let alone saying it? Serves you right. ; When someone apologizes to you, answer? It doesn't matter? Or? It doesn't matter. , and can't be unreasonable, but can't be ruthless and unreasonable; What do you want to say when you meet your peers and elders in the streets? Hello? Don't bow your head and pretend not to see it; When you say goodbye to others, you must say it? Goodbye? , and can't go away, there is no said.

Elegant speech must match Hugh's behavior. Therefore, while teaching children to use polite language, parents should also make unremitting efforts to cultivate their children's decent and elegant manners; The code of conduct that children need to know and abide by is: stand with chest and abdomen, shoulders flat and not shaking, arms drooping and not shaking; When entering other people's rooms (including parents), you should knock gently first and get permission before entering. You can't just push the door. Visit people in advance, and pay attention to the time, generally do not go during meals and naps, and try to avoid interfering with their normal life; Never wear underwear or pajamas to visit people or receive visitors at home in any season; Guests should take the initiative to give up their seats when visiting, offer them with both hands when pouring tea, sit up straight when receiving guests, don't lean left and right, don't cross your legs or cross your legs, and don't sway.

When talking with people, don't pick your nostrils, ears, teeth, itch, take off your shoes and socks, and pick your toes; When eating, don't move chopsticks in front of guests and elders, don't rummage in the dishes, handle the tableware gently to reduce collision, and don't make a chewing sound when eating; In public, cover your nose and mouth with a handkerchief when coughing, sneezing and spitting, and don't aim at others, etc.

It is worth noting that parents must set a good example for their children in cultivating their manners. At least in these aspects, children can be given a correct demonstration.

In addition, the parents' ways of Singaporeans also include educating their children to be thrifty and housekeeping, to act according to their abilities from an early age, to tell the truth, not to tell lies and so on. There is a short story in Singapore's children's moral education textbook: Xiao Lixin loves painting very much and asked her mother to buy her a box of colored pens many times, but her mother didn't take it to heart and never bought it. In order to get this long-awaited colored pen, Lixin began to lie to his mother: "Our kindergarten teacher said that everyone will take a box of colored pens to the kindergarten to draw tomorrow." Mother didn't dare to disobey the teacher's request and bought a box of colored pens. Xin Li finally achieved his goal by lying. Lies like this happen to many children from time to time. In fact, parents can avoid it as long as they pay proper attention. Many parents in Singapore have realized that their reasonable requirements for their children should be met as much as possible. If you can't satisfy it for a while, you must also explain the reason to your child. If children's wishes and demands are ignored or rejected indiscriminately, it is easy for children to lie or do bad things behind their parents' backs.

Einstein said in memory of the famous scientist Madame Curie. When a noble person like Madame Curie ends her life, we should not just be satisfied with the contribution her work has made to mankind. The significance of first-class figures to the times and historical process may be greater than pure intellectual achievements in moral quality. ? It can be seen that the outstanding achievements of talents are closely related to noble quality. As a parent, if you want your child to become a talented person, you must pay attention to cultivating his good moral quality. It is worth learning that Singaporeans attach great importance not only to family moral education, but also to social moral education. People green the country and take the initiative to care for the surrounding environment. In Singapore, there is one tree for every four people on average. Singaporeans love the land where they live and breed. They decorated this beautiful place with their own practical actions? Garden country? .