Old customs and etiquette of rural weddings

In ancient China, there was a saying of "Six Rites", and now some areas also have this custom. Six gifts are receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, collecting taxes, inviting dates and welcoming guests. In fact, the wedding customs agreed by people in various regions are not completely restricted by these six kinds of gifts. It simplifies the process of blind date and engagement, such as the date of invitation (wedding date agreement) merged into Najib (gift engagement). But more attention is paid to the ritual process of tying the knot (the bride and groom drink a glass of wine), making trouble in the bridal chamber and "returning to the door" after marriage.

The first step: matchmaking

Generally speaking, you should go to the matchmaker first and find the girl you like. The two sides haven't met yet. Then you can know each other's situation through the matchmaker, and then decide the next step, which is called blind date, if you have the will.

Step 2: Meet relatives, which is a bit like blind date now.

It is through the time agreed by the matchmaker and the two parties that the man brings a gift to the woman's house to meet. The date of the blind date is set by the matchmaker in advance and notified to both men and women, so both sides should be prepared. The man should prepare a little gift according to the hobby of the woman's parents; Women should clean the courtyard and get ready for guests. As parties, both men and women should try to dress elegantly and resplendent, so as to leave a good "first impression" on each other. It is also an opportunity for both parents to understand each other's family situation. In rural areas, parents' life is still very important, which is also a crucial step, because we can't meet privately at ordinary times, and we have to convey something through the matchmaker.

Step 3: gifts.

The first step of "Li Guo" is that the matchmaker sends the man's birthday to the woman, and the woman's eighth birthday to the man. Some superstitious parents think that they are responsible for their children's marriage, and often ask the fortune teller to calculate after receiving the red post to see if the "date of birth" of both parties is consistent, if not; Marriage will be reconsidered. Fortunately, most modern people don't believe this, so even if red posts are exchanged, they are often just a form, and some even avoid the form of changing posts. Giving gifts is also a key step. If the parents agree to this marriage, the two sides have already agreed on the bride price and the bride price, and the man will send the bride price money at this time, and the marriage will be settled. Similar to the present engagement, he can choose an auspicious day to get married.

Step 4: Get married.

Wedding customs vary from place to place. Generally, the man goes to the woman's house to marry the bride with the wedding team on the same day. Brides are very particular about going out, and wedding etiquette is quite complicated. Fortunately, it is simplified now.

Nowadays, free love does not need a matchmaker to match the bridge, nor does it need to propose marriage. At most, the two sides should discuss how much the bride price is, and then set the wedding date. After the negotiation, the banquet was simply held. Some places are also held in hotels, and traditional rural wedding banquets are also very particular. Usually three days, three days for the woman, and three days for the man after marriage. At that time, there were also teams to bid farewell to the bride and welcome others. In a traditional wedding, the woman will also bring a dowry. In the past, things like TV and wardrobe were often brought by women, but now they are rare, and most men have done it.