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Growing up, someone always advised you not to do anything special and not to be a special person. They tell you that everyone else lives like this, and everyone else lives like this.

Yes, it is true that others live like this, but they ignore it.

That's not me after all, and it's not worthy of me after all.

If life can muddle along, how helpless is it?

Life is not long, please be arrogant.

In the past August 15 days, the number of business trips was as high as 12 days, and the plan for the second half of the year is not optimistic. After such a long business trip, the only thing that makes me happy is that I can get together with my old friends when I arrive in a city.

Today, every exam must have passed the band's 12 years. We looked so weird at that time, and finally we reached middle age. We have done so many unreliable things in those years, and now we look so lucky.

12 years is not a long time, but it is enough for us to gallop all the way forward.

Even if middle age is greasy, it is also the fate of running away all the way.

The tortoise on my head ...

People come and go at Pudong airport, and the waiting time is boring.

Think of Qingyun calmly told me about his life last night, suddenly have a feeling:

Fortunately, we did a lot of unreliable things when we were young.

These things make our life so rich at the moment.

0 1. Busy Qingyun

I made an appointment at five o'clock. At seven o'clock, I finally saw the middle-aged version of Qingyun, which was pulled by the customer, appear in the parking lot and waved to me.

Qingyun's first sentence was: Hey, Xiao Lihe, have I changed?

I said to myself, "It hasn't changed. Don't you have any in your heart? " ?

Even if it's not too early, there are many people on the Bay Island. This is the rhythm of Shanghai. We finally sat down safely, and like all old friends we haven't seen for years, we talked about each other's lives as usual.

Qingyun, like me, is very busy in middle age:

Jump from the company that has worked for eight years to the current company;

At least 50 emails requiring strict reply every day;

Endless business trips like all middle-aged business travelers;

Tongji MBA class thesis preparation is extremely compact;

Try to take time out of your busy schedule to learn English and improve yourself;

Start-up startups are still operating;

Now I don't drink alcohol and tobacco, because I don't have time to let my body fall down;

At this point, he suddenly changed the subject.

Break off your crab legs, eyes flashing light said:

Well, I play the piano and sing in every troupe.

Then looked up at me:

The "Hometown" I am playing now is exactly the same as the original.

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Do you look tired? A little bit.

But do you think it will happen again? I will.

02. A slow journey

Ten years after graduation, in addition to Qingyun, I also met Mr. Cheng in a hurry in Beijing.

That business trip lasted only two hours until noon.

Teacher Cheng also faced the handover before the holiday that day. There is a meeting at three o'clock in the afternoon, which is a bit busy. Besides, we only have an hour on the road, and most of the time we chat in the taxi.

Compared with Qingyun's serious expression and slight plus-size figure forever.

Still thin, Mr. Cheng is as comfortable as ever:

Daughter-in-law is expecting a baby in America, just like when she was the boss: Teacher Cheng has already asked for leave, and she will fulfill her father's responsibility and accompany her seriously in a few days. It seems that the day of immigration is not far away.

I forgot that a few years ago, it seemed that the excellent teacher Cheng was doing some strange research in a very serious institution in the country and had a patent or something.

In a word, I have a bad memory and can't remember the real situation at all. There are many meaningless elements in my works.

Doing an enviable idle job and living an enviable rich life.

In the year of graduation, Haibin and Koala were in Jilin, Qingyun went to Shanghai, I went to Guangzhou, and Teacher Cheng went to Beijing.

Different from our busy mode, Teacher Cheng's ten years are very fresh:

I love photography and shoot a pseudo-professional level.

Love snorkeling, diving and get a diving license.

Love fishing, fishing has become a middle-aged uncle.

Love freedom, love love, thinking about starting your own business.

But none of this can stop me from scolding him. We are in such a hurry, and Mr. Cheng is still slow, just like when I first met him 12 years ago, the whole person was half-clapping, one step at a time.

Trapped on the way to Beijing, I asked Mr. Cheng a question in a taxi that only a life coach would ask:

Hey, what are your plans for the future?

Teacher Cheng sitting in the front row cocked his head and looked out of the window. He thought for a moment.

Neuropathy generally answer:

Oh, I didn't plan anything a long time ago.

The appearance of time

Because of the gathering with Qingyun, a small opportunity, we finally decided to have the first large-scale gathering on October 11th 12. There are Cai Xiao, who has never met before, who drinks red wine and eats duck, koalas who bask in happiness and hold their babies, and the seashore who always loves her with music. This makes people look forward to meeting again after so many years.

It's great to be together again.

03. Warm chicken soup

This is certainly not a narrative, but a chicken soup.

What I want to say is:

When you are young, if you have the opportunity to do something that seems unreliable, then do it;

When you are old and have the opportunity to do something that seems unreliable, you should do it even more.

A person can eventually become a better self, perhaps just doing a bunch of seemingly unreliable things at the right age.

The passion for life in your bones will never stop.

Others are studying and we are rehearsing.

Others are learning and we are creating.

Others are studying and we are playing.

Others are studying and we are performing.

At that time, the seemingly deviant choice and persistence was the most fortunate thing for me at the moment.

The life you once thought was unreliable is full of things you don't have the courage to do.

Except for studying, it seems that I do all the unreliable things very well:

The lead singer of an unknown band, a female rogue who can put up her middle finger, a female anchor who plays rock on the radio, a street vendor in the night market, a coder in a women's magazine, a frequent visitor to various competitions, and a loser in a large-scale draft.

It is these that have made me who I am today, instead of asking myself: can I do it?

Always like this.

Mr. Cheng is a person who seldom turns every hobby into a major around me.

There seems to be nothing wrong with Mr. Cheng when he went to school:

Play roller skating, play, and you will become an athlete if you are not careful.

Draw cartoons, draw cartoons, and you'll be fine. Draw a poster for the band.

Play the bass, play it, it will be the one that all teams want to pry away.

Write an article, write it, write an article. A group of small fans below.

Love chatting, chatting and chatting, the most beautiful girls in the school can be provoked.

The last one was ignored, and I let it slip.

Qingyun spent four years in college endlessly tossing about life at that time:

Freshmen organize a group of men and women to perform and sing at the party and send their old classmates away with great fanfare.

In his sophomore year, he had a tile-green second-hand speaker and a weird electric guitar.

When I was a junior, I kept talking about my schoolwork and didn't delay various parties and groups.

In my senior year, I went to Shanghai with a firm goal and made an exception without hesitation.

I want to laugh every time and sleep so beautifully.

20 1 1 Qingyun and I took a group photo on the Bund. At that time, Qingyun had her hair cut, but her eyes were still young. He drives the car provided by the company and thinks about how to form a team in Haila, Shanghai every day to continue playing the piano and singing-although it has not been realized so far.

Yes, although we seldom meet each other after many years, we still love to toss and turn as usual. I'm glad that I didn't waste all my time studying, but that doesn't mean that I persuade you not to study.

At least I didn't fail the exam. I have advanced mathematics, you know.

If you study well, we won't abandon you, at least you have to prove:

Besides studying hard, I can also kill the audience with something.

It seems that everything has changed, but it hasn't. That year, we were extremely persistent in doing what others thought was useless, which supported me to move on for many years to come.

We made up our minds at that time, and now we are still going against the wind. Everyone has chosen a road that is not easy to walk but extremely firm, so that life can be enriched.

Now that people are middle-aged, you and I are still young and energetic.

I remember Mr. Li talking about his friends. Both husband and wife are in third-tier cities, and both are in state-owned enterprises. With a salary of 7 thousand, they can eat whatever they want and play whatever they want, which is also envied by others.

Yes, that's good, but you must allow someone to be different.

Everyone has a different definition of life. There are always people who want to make life richer and more dazzling, and some people are willing to choose the hard mode.

I know what you're trying to say, what's the big deal:

As long as I want to, "I can".

The most worthless thing is: I could have done it, I should have done it, I could have done it.

How do we move towards mediocrity step by step? Because we have been saying three mysterious logical sentences to ourselves:

1, wait until ... I will ...

2. If I had ... I would. ...

If it weren't for ..., I would. ...

Admit it, you just don't have the courage to do it.

Every change worth looking forward to is slowed down by your numerous hesitations and retreats.

Any industry is the same, there are many people, but as long as you work a little harder, there will be many fewer people.

Take the stars as the goal and extend life to the whole sky.

If you fall, you can still fall on the treetops;

But if you just stand there, look at the stars and stand still,

Then you will stay in the dirt forever.

Life is very tired and sweet. In his bones, he is still the stubborn boy who lived in that year.

Many people teach us that:

Life is too short for young people to do anything unreliable.

But I said, life is short, young lang, you must do something that seems unreliable.

Do not follow, live spontaneously; Don't flatter, be yourself.

In this way, you can create a better life by yourself.

Although born ordinary, may you and I remain the same.

A unique limited edition

If you can't see your face, you look best.

I asked Qingyun if there was anything in particular you wanted to do but didn't do.

Qingyun replied: I want to be a lead guitar.

I looked up at his eyes and Qingyun was sincere.

I thought to myself, you can only discuss this with the seaside.

Anyway, C's performance will always be mine, and the rest, please feel free.

Look, I accidentally said my emotions again.

Shh ~ it's a secret

Speaking of which, it rained heavily for a week, and I'm on a business trip and going out for a run. Let's leave now.