Chatting with boys for the first time

Chatting with boys for the first time also requires certain skills, otherwise it is easy to appear the embarrassing situation of silence, especially when chatting with boys for the first time. Because they are unfamiliar, many girls don't know what to say and what topic to talk about is more appropriate. I would like to share with you what I said when I first chatted with boys.

Talking to a boy for the first time is 1 1, the "mirror law" on the spiritual level.

This is a kind of behavior that reflects the other person's mood, not by imitating the other person's expression, habit or action, but by producing the same mood as the other person.

When you are happy, will you feel happier if the people you are with also show happy expressions? If you are happy, but the other person puts on a gloomy feeling, then your happy mood will disappear instantly, right? Or, when you are depressed because of a sad thing, the other person looks happy. Maybe you will find this person annoying?

Therefore, we should know how to cooperate with each other's emotions, stand in each other's position, show the same emotions together, and create a * * * voice. If you do this, it's hard for the other person not to open up to you.

In addition, no matter who they are, they also have an urgent desire to "hope each other to know themselves". If you want to catch each other's information, do what they say and imitate their psychological state! There are other different techniques in the "mirror rule". Let me explain them in detail.

2, copy the atmosphere

This is an act that conforms to the other person's mood. Whether it is a cheerful atmosphere or a dull atmosphere, please match each other's footsteps one by one according to the size and strength of the voice, the speed of speech and the rhythm of conversation, and create a consistent conversation atmosphere.

3. Doubt each other's values

This is an act of integrating the parts that both sides feel agree or deny.

Everyone's preferences, ideas or interests show their own values. Please find out the part of the other person's values that you agree with, so as to produce a * * * sound with the other person. However, if there are totally unacceptable parts of your own values, please mention them as little as possible. It's best not to tell the truth until we get to know each other better and develop further relations.

Step 4 imitate each other's emotions

When chatting, grasp each other's emotions and let yourself have those emotions. Nature can show similar behavior. When the other person laughs happily, he laughs happily; When the other person feels sad, he should also show his sad eyes and listen to him carefully. When the other person talks about things that hurt him, you also show an expression as if your part was hurt.

Talking to a boy for the first time II. What is a good topic to talk with boys?

1, beauty (female star)

Girls like male stars, and there are male gods, but boys are the opposite. They like female stars and have goddesses in their hearts. You can see if there are any clues about his favorite stars in his circle of friends and space.

2. Computer games

Boys like games very much, whether it's stand-alone games or online games. Some games you have to study, such as the popular League of Legends, such as the classic Diablo, the legend of the Sword and the Chivalrous Man, and so on. You are not required to play. It is good to know the characters and plots inside, and you can achieve your goal by chatting.

3. Delicious snacks

If women are interested in clothes, boys will be more interested in food. He must know your local food street and new restaurant like the back of his hand. Go and see him, and then tell him that I believe he will take you to a hearty meal.

4. Animation

Now more and more boys and girls like anime, most of which are Japanese anime, especially some series, such as One Piece, Detective Conan and so on.

5. cars

Many men like cars, but girls don't need to do more research. To know the common license plates, meet for the first time, talk about each other's cars, and ask some common knowledge about car maintenance and driving.

6. Photography

If in the process of chatting, you know the other person is a photographer. You can also show great interest and ask him to teach you some tips for taking pictures with your mobile phone. You can take pictures, and you must know a little about taking pictures on mobile phones.