Taboos and concerns about marriage

Marriage taboo and pressure, marriage is very important to everyone, after all, people can only get married once in their lives. The traditional wedding in China has certain stress and debate on many links and issues. The following is the sharing of marriage taboos and pressures.

Wedding Taboos and Precautions 1 The bride's menstruation should be avoided on the wedding day.

On the day of a woman's wedding, all relatives and friends can send the bride out, but the bride's aunt should avoid it, because "aunt" is homophonic with "orphan" and "sister-in-law" is homophonic with "sweep". Loneliness is loneliness. Everyone knows that there is a word called "sweeping out the door", which means unlucky, so the bride's aunt should avoid it on the wedding day.

The bride will cry on the wedding day.

When a woman marries, she leaves home, and then her husband's family. After she marries her in-laws, she will serve her in-laws, and she can't be as headstrong as before. It is inevitable that she will be sad at the thought of leaving her parents and brothers and sisters. In some rural areas, women's marriage is called "crying marriage". The more the bride cries, the better, because crying means "the more she cries, the more she gets home."

Avoid eating wedding cakes.

Wedding cake is a symbol of happiness. The custom of distributing wedding cake is intended to share the joy of the wedding and convey the news of the wedding to every relative and friend through the wedding cake. The man usually sends the wedding cake to the woman's house, but the bride must not eat the wedding cake, which symbolizes the joy of eating her wedding.

Avoid sending pregnant women.

On the wedding day, pregnant women can't send them off when the bride goes out, because in ancient times, people thought that pregnant women symbolized lotus flowers and seeing them off would bring bad things to the couple, so pregnant women should avoid them when the bride gets married. Pregnant women are not suitable to appear in the wedding procession, which is not good for the bride or the pregnant women themselves.

Avoid marriage. You can't get married

If the yellow calendar says that marriage is forbidden on that day, then that day is not suitable for holding a joint banquet. I believe parents will also remind you of this. Although everyone thinks that these things are a bit feudal, we still have to respect each other when we meet, so it is best not to be on this day.

China people have so many complicated steps before getting married, one is because of the sense of ceremony, and the other is to get blessings. So choose a good day, which is also the way you reap the blessings, and you reap the blessings of life.

Marriage taboo and pay attention to 2 1, don't go back. On the wedding day, the wedding motorcade should not go back. It is necessary to plan the route in advance and avoid unlucky places such as hospitals, crematoriums and funeral homes. It's better to go around a little more than to go back.

2. Pay attention to fragrance. Marriage should be pious and pay homage to ancestors. Then you must not tilt or drop the incense sticks. You must insert it carefully once. You must not feel crooked and then pull it out and plug it in again, let alone break it. This will be unlucky, so be careful at first.

3, taboo bride's dress can not have pockets, the bride's wedding dress can not have pockets. This means that when the bride gets married, she will take away the wealth and good luck of the woman's family, so generally speaking, no matter Chinese or western dresses, there can be no pockets.

4. Take care of your relatives & when celebrating the wedding, aunts should avoid it. From the traditional point of view, as an aunt, you should avoid it, otherwise it is unlucky, mainly because the homophonic sound is not very good, so these people had better avoid it.

5. Pregnant women &; White related personnel, in addition, for pregnant women and people who have white affairs at home, or in Dai Xiao, it is best not to attend the wedding banquet and the wedding banquet on the wedding day, and it is best not to go to the wedding room of the couple, let alone touch the wedding bed of the couple, which will be very unlucky. Although the couple can't say it directly, they should pay a little attention to it themselves.

6. The bride can't eat the wedding cake on the same day. On the wedding day, the bride can't eat the wedding cake. If she is hungry, she can fill her hunger with other foods, but don't eat the wedding cake. This is very unlucky, which means that she will eat her happiness and blessings, so it is also one of the prohibitions.

7. On the wedding day, even if the couple is tired and hard, the bride can't lie on the wedding bed casually, which is not good for the future marriage. Lying down as soon as you get married is a very unlucky action and behavior, which is not good-looking in the eyes of your in-laws, so the bride should pay attention to this.

8. On the wedding day, you can't step on the threshold and the groom's shoes. The threshold is because it is very unlucky to step on the threshold on some important occasions and ceremonies. Stepping on the groom's shoes means disrespect for her husband, so on the wedding day, the bride should pay attention to her walking. You can't step on the threshold and the groom's shoes.

9. No one can use a fan on the wedding day. The homonym of fans means "scattered", so fans are generally not allowed to appear on the wedding day, so as not to be unlucky, suggesting that the couple later dispersed.

10, when getting married, you should avoid the ghost moon, the wedding day should avoid Tomb-Sweeping Day, Mid-Autumn Festival and winter solstice, try to avoid white things to visit the grave, and don't choose June and a half with a half-moon wife, which means that the couple won't be away for long.

1 1, the traditional crying marriage is an auspicious performance. Some people say that the more you cry, the more developed you will be in the future. However, when you get to your husband's house, don't cry any more. Whether you are moved or too excited, you just can't cry anymore, which will be a bit unlucky.

12, you can't forget three return visits, and the bride can't forget three return visits. You should prepare gifts in advance, arrive at the bride's house in the morning to complete the return visit ceremony, and return to your wedding room before sunset in the afternoon.

13, never say goodbye on the wedding day, which means goodbye in the future means second marriage, so on the wedding day, everyone should avoid the word goodbye.

14, before and after marriage, you must never give your wedding room to others or let others sleep in your bridal bed. This is unlucky, suggesting that there will be an invasion by outsiders, which is not good for newlyweds.

15. On the wedding day, the couple's clothes must be brand new, both inside and outside, and they must wear new shoes. It was unlucky to wear old shoes in ancient times, so we should pay attention to avoid them.

Marriage taboos and stress 3. First, attach importance to marriage.

1, confirmed the wedding day, and began to book hotels to arrange banquets. Now it seems that I have to book the banquet one year in advance. I feel dizzy. Everyone will get married on a good day.

Then we must settle down first. Of course, the man is responsible for buying a house and decorating it. The renovation will take at least two months, usually after the engagement. After the renovation, all the furniture in the room was bought by the man, and the rest was dressed by the woman. Everything with plugs and decorations, as well as kitchen cabinets and bedding, is handled by the woman.

2. Take wedding photos. Choose a good time,

March is the best time to take wedding photos. The weather is good and the scenery is good. Book early, because everyone is rushing to go at a good time. Now 3W, antique photography, fashion spring, Zhongtian private photography studio (just heard recently) are all good, which has changed the rigid style of Vivian's bride. It is best to make an appointment while doing activities. Send more things, and the price will be relatively cheap. When taking pictures, it is recommended to follow your own preferences. Don't listen to the makeup artist's advice easily. They are all beneficial, and there is generally nothing to recommend. Another thing to note is that when choosing a photo studio, the number of clearly registered photos (generally 50, some 40 are too few) is still very different from the unit price of each additional photo studio. The high 50 and the low 30 will eventually lead to the difference in total price.

3. Wedding dress.

Nowadays, many people buy wedding dresses. It's good to have time. After all, it is much cheaper to buy in Suzhou and Shanghai, but it should be noted that the quality in Suzhou is generally not good. There is also a lot of travel expenses for a trip. Let's compare which is more cost-effective to rent or buy. If you rent it, the distribution of several shops in Wenzhou is like this: some shops like Broadway and wedding dress workshops are expensive, and some wedding dress workshops are unique, that is, the price is expensive, and beautiful evening dresses generally cost more than 3 thousand. Three pieces add up to more than 10 thousand. Some Broadway ones cost tens of thousands. Just one night, so expensive, this money is really wronged. I feel that there is a dream palace wedding dress in Chaiqiao Lane, which is not bad, affordable and good. You don't have to worry about the toast procedure on the wedding day. The photographer of etiquette company knows these routines like the back of his hand, and he will guide you how to propose a toast while shooting. Follow them.

4. A gift from the woman to the man's family.

(1) Sweet potato ye sweet potato niang. You have to buy presents for both the sweet potato master and the sweet potato girl. In summer, I bought a crocodile T-shirt for the sweet potato master and a necklace for the sweet potato mother. Buy a pair of shoes for sweet potato master and sweet potato mother, especially sweet potato mother, and put a pair of socks in the shoes. The homonym of "shoes and socks" in Wenzhou dialect means that she can help you with housework in her spare time.

(2) The brothers and sisters of Sweet Potato Niang are also uncles and aunts of the man. Usually everyone buys a quilt or quilt cover and other bedding, and the price is generally two or three hundred yuan.

(3) the man's brothers and sisters. People with brothers usually buy a shirt or other clothes. Sisters are usually rings or necklaces. Spouses of brothers and sisters are regarded as brothers or sisters.

5. Preparation for a few days before marriage.

(1) Photographing car rental fireworks, but these have nothing to do with all-inclusive etiquette companies now.

(2) Master of ceremonies. Please see your personal preferences without invitation. I always feel that you have too many parties, and the emcee has to be busy for half a day. Don't think about it until 12 pm. You wait, others can't wait. It's ok if the master of ceremonies is good, but if the level is too poor or something else, it will ruin the wedding atmosphere.

(3) make an appointment with a makeup artist.

The night before the wedding, the bride only needs a facial treatment and exfoliation. If she wore makeup, she wouldn't have to get up so early on the wedding day. Now the beautician comes directly to the door to do hair and nails after 9 o'clock, and then eats. After this lunch, the next meal will be at lunch the next day. Here, I want to remind you that you still have to eat enough, hehe. . . Then the makeup artist will spend more than an hour putting on her wedding dress, shawl, makeup and hairstyle when she gets home at one o'clock. I would like to remind you that you should inform the makeup artist in advance what color and style your wedding dress is, so that she can prepare headdresses of the same color and style.

The man is similar, and there is no trouble for the woman. At 4 o'clock, the groom and the best man will leave for the woman's house to pick up the bride (it's getting earlier and earlier now, because many couples usually get married at the same time in hotels, so it's not bad to arrive early. In order to get feng shui, the bride arrives early now, instead of waiting for the bride as in the past. When the bride arrives, the bridesmaid will try to embarrass the groom. In the end, of course, the red envelope will be fixed before opening the door. Let's talk about getting off here. When we rent a car here in Wenzhou, we have to pay cigarettes, otherwise some bad drivers will deliberately drive fast and slow, so there will be no queues and the video will not look good.

Next, another bus will drive to the hotel, then there will be a lion dance, and then red envelopes will be distributed (red envelopes 1 person 10 yuan, a total of ***60). Next, some groomsmen will spray the newlyweds and bridesmaids with that ribbon. The bride is advised to put down her veil, and the bridesmaid is advised to prepare an old dress with a hat and put it on before going in, hehe. The last level is of course a toast. That's all that matters. Of course, it varies from person to person. Let's play with each other, so we don't need it here. Also note that the bride in the middle needs to change her wedding dress and hairstyle. Also note that now it is the man who gives the woman four tables of banquets, including red envelopes. The extra banquet is the woman's own responsibility, and the red envelope is of course collected by the parents.

Second, marriage taboos

1, avoid eating wedding cakes

Wedding cake is a symbol of happiness. The custom of distributing wedding cake is intended to share the joy of the wedding and convey the news of the wedding to every relative and friend through the wedding cake. When giving a big gift, the bride should remember not to eat the wedding cake given by the man, because it symbolizes eating her joy and should be taboo.

2. Avoid secondary incense

Many traditional families will tell their ancestors or gods to burn incense before they marry their daughters. In addition to offering cakes, the woman should also pay attention to incense and try not to insert the incense head askew. If it is crooked, don't pull it out and insert it again, because Erxiang means remarriage, which is unlucky for the newlyweds.

It is forbidden for the groom to sleep alone on the wedding bed.

New quilts, new pillows, new bedding ... impeccably dressed wedding beds should be placed on the eve of the wedding night. In this process, it is forbidden for the groom-to-be to sleep alone in the new bed, because it means loneliness after marriage, which is very unlucky. If the groom really has no other place to rest, he can find a big zodiac to sleep with an underage boy, such as the dragon in the zodiac.

Step 4 avoid saying "goodbye"

When relatives and friends leave after the wedding, the couple and their relatives and friends can't say "goodbye" because the word "goodbye" means parting and parting, which is very bad for the newlyweds. Therefore, when the couple sends the guests off, they should nod or wave goodbye.

5. Avoid visiting

The taboo that brides don't need to visit relatives and friends on their honeymoon has been handed down from ancient times. Because most people have a taboo psychology towards the bride during their honeymoon, and think it is unlucky for others, and this ominous feeling will not be eliminated until after January, so the bride can't stop by during the honeymoon. In particular, some relatives and friends with elderly people should pay special attention not to visit during the honeymoon period.

6. Avoid sending pregnant women.

On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, pregnant women can't see her off, because in ancient times, people thought that seeing her off would bring lotus disaster to the couple, so pregnant women should avoid it when the bride gets married. Moreover, when the bride goes out, fireworks are often set off. There are many people, the scene is crowded and noisy, and the air is turbid. For the sake of pregnant women's health, they should not be allowed to join the farewell party.

7. Avoid staying at home within three days after marriage.

In the traditional custom of China, the groom will accompany his wife back to her parents' home three days after marriage, which is called "going back to her parents' home". It should be noted that on the day of "returning home", you must return to your husband's house before sunset to avoid the husband and wife staying at home together, because it is generally believed that this will bring bad luck to your family. In case you can't go home for special reasons, the couple should sleep separately to try to resolve the sense of foreboding.