How to use four years of college to become a powerful person?

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How to use four years of college to become a powerful person? 》

Wen | Curly Wei 'an

Fly back to Guilin from Shanghai in the afternoon. I couldn't use electronic equipment during the two-hour high-altitude flight. It's a good thing that I took my kindle to look through books in the "library". I either watched it or got bored. Suddenly I saw a very eye-catching book published at the beginning of this year, called Diligence: How to Become a Powerful Person. ",the author is Zhihu big V copper mine.

To tell you the truth, I don't feel much about books with this name now. I always think this expression is a gimmick, but after reading this book for more than two hours, I think it is rewarding.

Sure enough, the doctor of psychology wrote well-founded, and many professional expressions and unique opinions enriched my two hours.

I have no intention of writing a book review, because I just glanced at the book. I know everyone likes to read my college advice, so I just sorted out some small excerpts I made on the plane and talked about the topic of "how to be great" in combination with my college feelings.

First of all, I don't think I am a great person, and I don't want to be a teacher. I just want to talk about my own ideas, because I have a deep understanding of many viewpoints or cases about copper mining mentioned in this book. Compared with his scientific and rigorous expression, I choose to share it in more straightforward language.

The following are some personal opinions (in bold):

"Thinking and dressing can be avant-garde,

But habits may be out of date. "

"Block popular information, or only receive it at a fixed time."

I sometimes miss my high school days. Although I don't have a mobile phone, I don't have frequent contact with social networks, I don't have popular variety shows, I don't have makeup, and I don't have all kinds of messy dry goods courses to incite our anxiety. At that time, natives always found satisfaction in magazines, podcasts and extracurricular books.

Although I am the official account of WeChat, I have little time to read the official account of WeChat, and only a few. In the era when information and opinions explode, time should not be wasted on brushing Weibo's circle of friends, not that they are bad, but because our concentration is limited and we should not be cut into too many pieces by too many things. Concentration is like sight. If you don't protect it, it will get weaker and weaker.

College students can dress fashionably, think avant-garde and act avant-garde, but I think in these four years, you can develop some relatively old habits. In fact, there is nothing wrong with being an old-looking person. Go to bed early and get up early, read magazines and books, play less games and have some tea for a walk.

Give yourself time for immersion and introspection. Instead of prying into other people's lives, it is better to sort out your own.

"To a certain extent,

You can expel your school. "

"? The key is to change your role from "learner" to "explorer".

I'm not asking you to turn against the school. There is no need to be so thankless. I mean, your vision and requirements for yourself can be higher than the school itself.

The standard given to you by the school is probably only the average standard among all students. Under the restriction of this rule, you are certainly not much better. Especially some students who are not particularly good schools, don't think that your "ceiling" is the level of the most powerful people in the school.

You must jump out of the passive state of "what the school gives me" and find the state of "what I hope the school will create for me"

Be good at using the resources of our school, the high-quality resources of the Internet, get close to outstanding people, and understand and evaluate the value of our intellectual assets.

"Beware of compliments."

The phrase "good job" makes people complacent and get carried away, especially for those talented or budding young people. This kind of evaluation will make them intoxicated with short-term or superficial success and lose the motivation to sprint further. "

That's what my mother reminded me.

We have always been wary of negative things, but it is hard to predict that those things that look inspiring and positive may also be sweet mud. It is good to do things well and get compliments from others, but you need to look at yourself from time to time. There is no need to indulge in small compliments and forget more important things.

College students attach great importance to self-identity, and any affirmation or negation from the outside world may make them ecstatic or depressed. Praise from others is a positive feedback, which is positive for the correctness of what we do, but sometimes it is not a good thing to be right blindly. Others may only see our advantages, but we must understand our own shortcomings. Standing firmly on the ground is better than floating lightly in mid-air.

In addition, there is no need to pursue social identity. Four years in college is actually a process of reshaping our personal image, not only from the external "other people's perspective", but also from our own "internal perspective". Being a person that people around you like is actually not safe. Try to meet the mainstream standards, say what you like to hear and do what you like. "In the end, you are not recognized, but ignored."

"being scolded, being gossiped,

Don't rush back. "

"One of the characteristics of a mature mind is that it can treat the opinions of itself and others impartially and fairly, and it is neither complacent nor blindly obedient. "

I cherish those moments when others speak ill of me or criticize me, really. Because to a large extent, these harsh words, though ugly, are useful information.

Because it is likely to hit the nail on the head.

Isn't there a saying: "How much praise you accept, how much slander you have to bear"? In fact, in my opinion, negative feedback is more worth cherishing, even if the process of cherishing it is painful-for example, if a person is evaluated as "looking fierce", "eccentric and unsociable", "narrow-minded" and "duplicity" ... don't rush back.

This is the product of sensibility. First, use reason to intercept the value in the "stone" thrown by the other party. If the other person is telling the truth, there is nothing wrong with forbearance. If the other party is suspected of libel, it is not too late to pick up a heavier stone and throw it back.

In my opinion, there is no need to do this kind of thing often: give yourself a degree, and don't rush to attack people who say you are not good unless you have to. I once wrote in Weibo: "Don't point at others when you don't have a brick or a tile. This won't show how powerful you are, but you have a sense of joy. When you have a lot, you are too lazy to judge others. "

Time is limited, it is better to waste it on yourself.

"Four years later, you have at least one.

The complete work, I said the work. "

"Only by doing things in a down-to-earth manner can our thinking be clearer, and we can exercise effectively and broaden our horizons."

This is what I firmly believe. Whether looking for a job or participating in any activities in the future, taking out a real job is better than saying, "How can I live together?".

This "work" has a wide range of meanings-for example, a group of photographic works, a detailed investigation report, a recorded song, several articles published in publications, a edited short film, and even a well-run official WeChat account are all your works.

Although at the level of college students, they can't do anything very professional and are often full of flaws and self-righteous ideas, but the attitude behind the word "work" is what we need.

Don't always think that I'm still a college student and I won't work until I leave the society after graduation. At that time, what you did was probably not what you really wanted to do, and it was full of the influence of leadership, KPI, market and salary.

Moreover, four years is enough time for you to get exercise through repeated polishing.

"Don't believe everything I just said."

That's all that matters. I know that many people like to read dry goods and suggestions now, as if they can step on others' shoulders to reach the top.

One of the important qualities we need to learn in college is not to blindly believe anyone's advice. Because no one will completely put themselves in your shoes, they just stand in their own position and make an optimal plan that is beneficial to them. And let you know the answer.

Only you know your situation and only you know what you should do.

I'm just reminding you, that's all

I really like a Douban user's comment on the book Copper Mining:

"The most terrible people in this world are not those who stand at the forefront and seem to be out of place. In them, you can see the expanding desire, how to squeeze their vitality bit by bit, and make them become stupid pigs in Miyazaki Hayao's works.

The most terrible people in this world are those who have been rooting and sprouting under the invisible sea and have been developing themselves. They don't care how many merchant ships, gold and silver jewelry are on the sea, and they never float on the sea with garbage like those plankton, expecting good luck to take them away. No, you can't see them. They just grow under the sea floor and grow into large coral reefs. Until one day, they built the whole coastline wall. "

It may not be difficult to be a great person, but four years in college is not necessarily enough. Many things need to be practiced for a lifetime. Many of the things mentioned above, in fact, I didn't do very well myself. I just watched it on the plane and shared some thoughts. I hope we can make progress together.

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Andrew West is still a junior, and runs his own official WeChat account Wei Anji with the team. She loves to write about the feelings of college life, about growth, about love and about self-exploration, which is loved by many readers. Her writing is warm and delicate, and rationality and sensibility coexist. She often writes about warm but not boiling growth and life, without complaining or complaining, and is extremely pious about the future.

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