Love is like a bad cold

This is a line from the movie "Twelve Nights" - Love is like a bad cold, it will be fine after you get over it.

I can’t remember the plot clearly, but what I remember is that the lead actress Cecilia Cheung had a misty expression and clear eyes when she was in love. The last time I saw Cecilia Cheung was because her roommate on the lower bunk was watching a variety show. She talked about the way she educates her two children and the happiness she feels now.

Cecilia Cheung's marriage seems to have been discussed all the time, and she is discussed as a weak party. Senior artists thought that she was too trapped in feelings and neglected her career, and even embarrassed Hong Kong artists. Media colleagues added insult to injury and clung to the past at all times. Even when Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse's romance broke out again, Few media deliberately put together the news about Cecilia Cheung being alone in the hospital for intravenous infusion; too many onlookers are not a bad thing. It seems that because they took photos for Photographer Chen, all their excellence and hard work have been wiped out, and the rest It only reflects the dirty “black history” in your hearts.

But this woman is strong. She knows that she likes household chores, so she cultivates her children without any regrets and happily. She knew she had to move forward, so she continued to smile beautifully and try her best to be a good mother. Although there may not be love in life, it is still full of sunshine.

Today in the family sociology course, the teacher asked a true or false question. The question probably went like this: With the openness of society and the diversity of values, more and more people are choosing singleism. It is estimated that only 60% of people worldwide will choose to get married. I don’t know where this sentence comes from, but I vaguely remember that Li Yinhe mentioned similar words in an article about singleism. The teacher asked her classmates to express her judgment. A girl said it was impossible because people have to reproduce through marriage; a boy said that people have to meet some needs through marriage. I have always been elusive. It is nonsense to judge the level of a data without actual comprehensive investigation. The teacher’s final answer was that this ratio was too low, because in a survey of 400 college students in the United States, 98% of college students chose to get married in the future, and 96% of college students chose to have children of their own in the future. Therefore, whether in developed countries or elsewhere, anti-marriageism cannot become the mainstream and can only be an exception.

Thinking about it now, such an argument is quite ridiculous. First of all, the sample of 400 people is too small and too random; secondly, he only planned to get married during college. Will he really get married in his future life?

In fact, we all understand that if we can meet the person who makes you feel loved and suitable as expected, who fills your life with marshmallow-flavored happiness, and who can manage your life like poetry, there will be no People will reject the happiness that love, marriage and family can bring to them. So many people choose not to get married, not to reject the happiness of love, but just to escape the misfortune of marriage - compared to those who hastily married in the eyes and saliva of others, they live more casually and smoothly. .

Today, an old friend who I haven’t contacted for a long time came to chat with me. I teased her in my spare time and asked her if she was planning to get married.

She said, no way, she doesn’t even have a boyfriend.

In fact, she said it was not very big, but in her hometown in a third-tier city, a girl in her twenties and seventies was not too young.

When Mr. Orange and I were together, she almost witnessed with her own eyes the process of hooking up with Mr. Orange. Among the many voices that were not optimistic about us, she said, I am so envious of your mutual liking. She is an older but innocent girl.

She later complained to me about a middle school teacher whom she met on a blind date. He was meddling with her even before the relationship was formally established. He thought the things she usually bought were too expensive and that she traveled too often. She angrily complained, I spend the money I earn and it doesn’t matter what he does. Later, the two separated without any sadness or nostalgia.

Today I said that now I also feel that it is too difficult to meet someone who is completely compatible with me.

She agreed and said that she should try her best to be happy.

Because things like love are ultimately uncontrollable. Its appearance, arrival and departure times, and the ups and downs of a certain period of time are all about "in the dark".

Instead of summarizing empty experiences in one another’s stories, imagining romantic complexes like idol dramas, lamenting and enduring the gap between ideal and reality in life and the scorching fireworks, it is better to simply be a People who don’t expect love.

Just like Mu Zimei said, it is not a bad thing to be prepared for the worst when it comes to love and marriage. And lifelong love is not a standard necessity, but a lottery ticket. Very few people win.

You are wonderful, just to make yourself happy. Even no less happy than when two people are together.

It’s not for that “stranger” who didn’t make an appointment in advance and didn’t have an appointment guarantee.

So even if love can only be like a bad cold that makes your insides turn upside down and your heart hurts so much that you can’t control yourself, it’s over.