Divorce my daughter (I left home clean with my daughter)

A few days ago, I wrote an article "Many families are unhappy because their wives are unhappy". There is a sentence in the article: "If the wife is unhappy, the family will be unhappy. A woman is a mirror of a man. Her husband's attitude determines her temper, and her temper determines her husband's luck. Being together is called fate. Men are the pillars of the family, but women also hold up half the sky. The old saying goes well: if you lose your wife, you lose all your money; Filial piety, everything goes wrong. "

After this article was published, a male reader retorted: "First of all, you should find a gentle, virtuous and reasonable woman, otherwise it will be difficult for you to change a person after marriage."

I replied to him at that time: "No one forced you to get married. In fact, women are more afraid of marrying wrong than men. A good husband comes first, then a good wife. If a man is considerate to his wife, a good husband and a good father, then you will also get preferential treatment from his wife. If your wife doesn't know how to cherish and is arrogant, then you have nothing to regret about getting divorced. But as long as your wife is a kind and good woman and you are good to her, she will only be better to you. "

A wife is really related to her husband's luck. Whether a family life is smooth really depends on whether the wife is happy. Men must understand the above truth, that is, remind you to realize the importance of your wife, instead of being too arrogant and not knowing how to cherish it.

Reader Tao Zi also left a message with me, telling her story. She is a woman in her forties. I have been divorced for more than ten years now. Since leading an honest and clean life and divorcing her ex-husband, Tao Zi deeply realized how correct she was when she divorced.

"Fortunately, I'm divorced. Since my ex-husband doesn't know how to cherish me, what's the point of me being with him? When I was divorced, many people told me that divorced women had a hard time. As a result, whose life is hard? It is my ex-husband, not me. "

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"I left home with my daughter clean and divorced, and my ex-husband's life is getting worse every day." Tao Zi said that when she first married her ex-husband, his family was laughing and laughing every day, because her husband was an old man, and when Tao Zi got married, her in-laws had retired. In-laws opened a mahjong room at home after retirement. Tao Zi can't play any cards, so he just pours tea or something, or changes some money to help make lunch at noon.

At first, the business of mahjong hall was really good. Coupled with Tao Zi's kindness and diligence, all the guests praised her in-laws for having a good daughter-in-law. "Your family is so nice, so blessed and so prosperous." Tao Zi's in-laws naturally walked over.

But in the third year of Tao Zi's marriage, everything changed quietly. My husband is a old boys, spoiled, doing nothing all day, just muddling along. My in-laws thought that as long as he got married and had a wife in charge, he would be all right in the future, but who knows he is still the same as before. When I first got married, I knew how to restrain myself. After two or three years of marriage, all my bad habits have appeared.

The husband started to stay out at night and yelled at Tao Zi. After Tao Zi got pregnant, she didn't accompany him to the birth check-up all day. Tao Zi vomited for six months, and pregnant women knew it. When Tao Zi finally gave birth to the child, her husband still didn't know how to be considerate and caring. Tao Zi said she was not feeling well, and her husband said, "Didn't you just have a baby?" Why can't you touch cold water? Why do you have to lie in bed and rest every day? "

The next month, my husband still came back very late. One day, Tao Zi couldn't stand quarreling with her husband, but he slapped her, and Tao Zi was chilling. Tao Zi's eyes were still bright when he first got married, but after only three years of marriage, his eyes lost their luster and they didn't laugh as much as before.

In this regard, my in-laws just complained to her: "Daughter, he has a bad temper and has been spoiled since childhood. Please forgive me. "

Tao Zi wanted a divorce very much, but considering that the child was still young, she put up with it.

When my daughter was three years old, her husband let Tao Zi go out again, and Tao Zi really took her away. In-laws don't want them to divorce, threatening that "if you leave, you will have no money, and you should leave home cleanly." Tao Zi doesn't know where he got the courage. He shouted to his in-laws, "If I leave home cleanly, I will leave. If you don't want my daughter, I'll take it with me. Your son Jingui, let him find a new wife, anyone will do. I won't be with you. I don't want a penny, stay away from me and my daughter. "

Tao Zi successfully divorced, and the house belongs to her in-laws, so naturally she didn't get any points.

After six years of marriage, my husband has never saved any money, and neither have they. For Tao Zi, after six years of marriage, she lost her youth and money. Fortunately, she has a daughter with her. My ex-husband didn't even pay alimony. People like him are divorced. What alimony can I give you?

Tao Zi feels lucky to be able to get away from such a marriage.

However, what is strange? Since the divorce with Tao Zi, the ex-husband's family has been getting worse every year. Ten years have passed, and Tao Zi's daughter has entered junior high school, and her academic performance is also very good, but her ex-husband still hasn't found a wife. Not only did her ex-husband not remarry, but their mahjong hall also closed. Her former father-in-law once fell and left that day.

Now, my former mother-in-law is 90 years old. As far as Tao Zi knows, the family is deserted, and the ex-husband is still mixed up as before. Tao Zi later went to see her former mother-in-law, but she was not confused. Instead, she said, "It is fate to suffer from you, but our son is not worthy of you."

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Losing his wife, poor fortune; Filial piety, everything goes wrong.

This sentence is really true. When a man marries a good wife, you must cherish it. The woman you finally marry should be heartbroken. The so-called pain refers to helping her share some housework and children. If you treat her well, she will know. But if you make a woman suffer too much and don't understand her hard work, then she will be unwilling to pay for this family one day.

Men always say that marriage is a besieged city and a cage, but who is actually trapped in marriage?

Marriage is a besieged city, but it does not surround men; Marriage is a cage, but it has nothing to do with men; Marriage is surrounded by women, and they are also women. Do not believe you see, which married man is different from that before marriage, and what about the woman? They are all bound by children and families.

In this way, women have given everything in marriage, and some men are still not satisfied.

The last sentence is for men: "Don't believe it, you are bossing your wife around with no respect, and you are breaking up the family. If you don't know how to sympathize with your wife and make her unhappy, then you are also cheapening your good luck. When your good wife really leaves, you won't realize that your family is separated. Know how to cherish, especially to marry a good wife and treat it well. "

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