How did Li chase it?

"tomboy" the seed of love bravely pursues love

1in the winter of 969, Li, who was only 14 years old and was still a sophomore in No.11 Middle School Attached to Beijing Normal University, put on his military uniform and resolutely left home for Sichuan, becoming the youngest soldier in the whole division. Three years later, when Li retired and returned to his parents, his character became more masculine.

1978, Beijing Film Academy resumed enrollment. This "tomboy" who is short in stature, dressed in black cloth and has not graduated from junior high school has the idea of taking an examination of the director department of the Film Academy. Due to outstanding achievements in various subjects, he was admitted to the director department of Beijing Film Academy.

The last year of college life will come soon. The tall young man came into Li's life. I studied photography at the Film Academy one year earlier than Li. When he knew Li, he had graduated and stayed in school to teach. Li left a deep impression for the first time. At that time, she and her classmates made practice videos, and Nianping Zeng was their camera technical director. I probably saw the very complicated wiring between the camera and the power supply equipment, so I need to be especially careful. Li quietly walked over and combed the tangled wires with his hands very carefully. This whole day, Li followed the camera wherever he pushed it; In order not to affect the recording, she hardly said a word, and her expression has always been so calm and focused. Unconsciously, Nianping Zeng had a good impression on her, thinking: This girl in military uniform is quite practical.

Their first meeting was a bit dramatic. At that time, the film academy often showed some foreign classic films for teachers and students to watch, but the tickets were very tight, and some courageous teachers and students used crayons to "draw" tickets to get through. That day, another good movie was released, and Mr. Ma, who was in the same dormitory, "copied" a ticket from Li. In the evening, Li rushed to the door of the theater and saw that they were still standing outside without going in. He asked inexplicably, "Why don't you go in?"

"Nianping Zeng was afraid of being found to have a fake ticket." Teacher Ma explained.

"Then take my ticket and go in." Li Sui was a little embarrassed to give the ticket in his hand to the side. At this moment, she couldn't help laughing: This Ceng Laoshi is really shy.

Later, at a school sports meeting, Li participated in a Grenade throwing competition. At first, her grades were not good. At this moment, Nianping Zeng, a recognized athlete in the college, came over and said, "Fortunately, you are a soldier. Why don't you throw grenades? " ? Only by connecting the strength of the waist, legs, arms and wrists into a line will we not' break strength', understand? "Li won the second place in the throwing group under the guidance of Li. Since then, she has always trusted Nianping Zeng as an "off-site instructor". Li was also found to be smart, diligent and artistic. Love, like a quiet drizzle, unconsciously urges the hearts of two young people. At first, neither of them broke enough paper. In the end, confident Li decided not to be reserved, but to pursue it directly. Li's purpose is particularly simple, that is, to chase after him and marry him.

On marriage from the perspective of failed "running away"

1982, Li graduated and was assigned to Beijing Film Studio as a director, and got a marriage certificate with him. At that time, Nianping Zeng had just been admitted to the Beijing Film Academy as a graduate student, and both of them were ready to work hard in their careers.

Just then, Li was pregnant. Facing the new career, Li is ready to give up her children without hesitation. But before the operation, when Li saw the baby with her own eyes from the B-ultrasound instrument, a maternal instinct suddenly made her make up her mind to give birth to the baby.

During pregnancy, Li, who was emotionally unstable, hoped that Zeng Nianping could comfort her, but she just didn't begin to understand and always put most of her thoughts on her studies. With the birth of children, their lives become more practical. It's that graduate students earn less, and Li can't go out to film. The daily living expenses can only be controlled within 5 yuan. A woman with artistic ambition began to haggle over every ounce in her daily life. 1984 or so, it was the time when her classmates Zhang Yimou and Chen Kaige began to show their strength.

A few months later, Li, who couldn't restrain his movie feelings, left his children and went out to film. But a few days later, she collapsed and went home. She found that she couldn't concentrate on the set at all, and all her thoughts were on this "little trouble" that would accompany her all her life. In this way, Li completely surrendered to her children and became a full-time wife for three years. Li, who yearns for romance in his bones, increasingly hopes that Zeng Nianping can create a little "surprise" for himself from time to time, even if he buys a bunch of flowers for his birthday and goes to see a movie on his wedding anniversary. However, Nianping Zeng is emotionally insensitive, slow to express, and has no romantic feeling at all. In this way, contradictions naturally arise.

One wedding anniversary night, Li was busy in the kitchen for a long time and cooked a good table, thinking that Zeng Nianping would be very happy. When Nianping Zeng came back from outside, he saw a big table of food and even shouted, "Oh, my God! After today, will we be alive tomorrow? " There are no roses in his hand, only a bundle of green onions. In the evening, Li finally couldn't help saying to Zeng Nianping, "Today is our wedding anniversary." Nianping Zeng "oh", seems to understand, but there is no more below. Throughout the evening, Li was wronged and wanted to cry.

On the next wedding anniversary, I am afraid that I will forget it again. When he went out in the morning, she took special care: "Come back early, today is our wedding anniversary." Li thought, now he should understand, right? Who knows that when I come back at night, I still have empty hands. It is not as good as last year, and I still have bundles of green onions in my hand. Li was very angry and lost his temper. He ate his dinner at random and left home without clearing the table.

The night in Beijing is full of bright lights. Lonely Li walked aimlessly on the road, and large snowflakes floated on her. She looked around blankly, not knowing where to go. Especially when she sees lovers in love holding hands or hugging each other affectionately, she can't help feeling sad. After wandering for three or four hours, she was cold, hungry and tired. In the end, all the grievances turned into longing-going home.

When Li wiped her tears and pushed the door open against the snowflake, her psychology was almost unbalanced: Zeng Nianping didn't even realize that she had just "run away from home". He managed to clear the table, and the dishes were still piled up in the pool. At that moment, Li suddenly felt bored. She had to pretend nothing happened, walked into the kitchen without saying a word, rolled up her sleeves and started washing dishes ... This time, the failed "running away" completely dispelled Li's idea of relying on women's usual "tricks" to attract attention.

Be a work partner and be his woman.

1988, when her daughter grows up, Li can finally go out to film. In order to relive the feeling of first love, Li handled the first meeting between men and women after her return to work very romantically. She collaborated with Nianping Zeng, who naturally became her special photographer, on the films "Pink", "Thunderstorm", "Poems of Daming Palace", "April Day on Earth" and "Orange is Red". Every movie contains her nostalgia for her first love and her hope for love.

Over the years, intense and high-intensity work has largely occupied the space of their family life, and Li often can't coordinate the relationship between work and life. The two collaborated in filming and quarreled almost from beginning to end, arguing for several plays in a row. Li always felt aggrieved until one day, her friend and partner seriously asked, "Shao Hong, when you are not on the set, can you talk to Nianping in the tone of your wife instead of the director?"

This sentence suddenly stunned Li. She looked at her friend in disbelief. "What did you say?"

"Have you ever thought, for Nianping Zeng, you are the first wife, followed by a working partner. If you talk to him in a softer way, he will be willing and able to communicate with you After all, everyone has self-esteem, especially men. You should fully safeguard his self-esteem, instead of' pressing' him with the truth. "

The friend's words made Li feel an unprecedented shock. "Yes, why didn't I realize such a simple truth before?" She suddenly realized that what she inadvertently lost was actually the most natural thing for a woman.

Since then, Li has paid great attention to giving her husband enough respect in public. She even learned to "compromise"-if she and her husband have differences in filming, she will try to be flexible or remedy and try to avoid direct conflict. After a period of hard work, Li gradually found that life could have been easier.

In the spring of 2002, after 20 years of marriage, they continued their usual cooperation, but tried a completely different experience-shooting a baby in love.

Li decided to tell her feelings about love in a brand-new way in this film, but she tried many times without success, so that the whole cast followed her in a daze. At this time, Nianping Zeng was very calm. After listening carefully to his wife's description of his ideal "feeling", he fiddled with the camera and started a new attempt. Li looked at them one by one and suddenly exclaimed, "Wonderful!" Then a hug Nianping Zeng, too excited to say a word. Nianping Zeng stood there like an electric shock, stunned for a while, and put his arms around his wife tightly. ...

With the change of Li, the view of her is also changing. In an interview program, he expressed his thoughts: "In fact, Shao Hong is a very good woman. As long as she has time, she will tidy up the house, decorate the house and buy food and clothing. Good to me, I didn't choose ... "

Carefully cultivate happiness in the ordinary.

Since my daughter 16 went to study in Britain, Li Heceng Nianping has enjoyed life more and more. Now, whenever he has time, Li will take him to the market to buy food, as if he were making a big movie. Cucumber should be tender when it feels prickly. There should be a layer of powder on the skin of winter melon, which is just picked ... In 2006, Nianping Zeng cooperated with the famous director John Woo in a film. Li specially made a lion's head to visit the whole class. After eating, John Woo repeatedly exclaimed, "Nianping Zeng is so blessed that you can eat such delicious food." Laughed, because Li's specialties are countless. ...

Life is always unromantic, which has been bothering Li. An example she gave was: "I seldom receive gifts", "When I learned to send text messages, it took me nearly 40 minutes to finish sending the word" Happy Birthday "." Every time Li "tortured" Nianping Zeng, he shook his head and retorted, "One year, I bought you a laptop as a birthday present. Later, you used this computer to play the script of Da Gong Ming Ci! Although I don't remember every anniversary, I will send it when I remember it anyway. That's what it means. " Li helpless ...

For more than 20 years, the most grateful thing is Li's silent love for him and his family, and it is this that makes him feel the most guilty. As a director, the success of his career has given Li a lot of honor and satisfaction; As an ordinary person, she tries to play many roles, such as wife, mother and daughter-in-law. In ordinary trivial ordinary days, she carefully cultivated the happiness they longed for between troubles and contradictions.

(Excerpted from "Companionship")