If something goes wrong, I will only cry to my mother about how the child is so weak.

Tuzantu Baby Chen Xiao Iowa Children Photography/Photography Mom sings bad face Why doesn't Dad sing bad face work? When Chengda and Ma Cheng discussed it, both of them agreed: one sang bad face and the other sang bad face. However, now that she is more than three years old, Cheng thinks that this practice has made her baby more and more lawless, and she began to reflect on whether the "red face and white face" method is correct. Cheng Cheng usually lives with his parents and grandparents. In the process of education, mom and dad also exchanged ways and means, and both agreed that one should be a good policeman and the other a bad policeman. However, slowly, Cheng found that this method made the baby more and more lawless, and she began to reflect on whether such a "red face and white face" was wrong. According to the division of labor, mother usually plays the role of "white face" and criticizes Cheng Cheng when she is right or wrong. Cheng Cheng's father plays the role of "red face" and has always acted as an umbrella for Cheng Cheng. Mom said, I remember once, Cheng Cheng deliberately messed up the toys and refused to clean them up. She was fierce, so she gave Cheng Cheng a reason and ordered him to clean them up. At that time, my father was there, and the love affair hid in his arms and remained silent. Later, my father spoke: "Mom is so fierce that we ignore her and will beat her in the future. You don't have to clean the toys. Dad will ask grandma to help you clean up later. " The eccentric child immediately turned his face and smiled defiantly at his mother. There are many such things. Cheng feels that his children are getting more and more lawless, and discipline is useless at all, but dad feels that he is playing the role of "red face", which is right. -I have something to say. Playing a good COP is not just about protecting children. The distress of being a new mother has made many mothers sing bad songs. A good policeman and a bad policeman are recognized by many people as a way to raise children, but how to sing is very particular, and you should definitely not sing like Dad Cheng Cheng. Qing Qing's mother's experience is that when it is necessary to reason with her children, she is usually the only one who stands up and tells them that after the problem is solved, other family members can join in and can't question her mother in front of the children. If you have reservations about your mother's behavior, find a time to discuss it in private. More mothers say that it is often themselves who play the bad COP at home, and grandparents are the main ones who play the bad COP. They educate their children, but family members may not cooperate. Some old people spoil their children very much and often become their safe haven. At this time, it is still necessary to communicate more about the concept of parenting, explain clearly to them the importance of educational methods, and tell them that the attitude of family members towards children should be consistent, and there is only one standard. Under this general principle, the role of education can be further divided, and the methods of singing well need to be considered. For example, you can't stand directly opposite the white face, calm down for a while and then touch the child, change your expression and so on. Take Cheng Cheng's littering with toys as an example. Maybe the father of a good policeman can say: Cheng Cheng, dad knows you don't want to pack your toys, but mom is right. You should learn to pack your toys. Tell you, this time, dad will clean up with you, and then we will apologize to mom, okay? In this way, dad is still a good policeman, but he also retains the "authority" of a good policeman, making it easy for children to accept. Eggs that have just turned two years old are very smart and rarely worry their mothers. They can read books and play with toys at home and go out to play with children without getting into trouble. Recently, however, the mother found that when the egg encountered problems that could not be solved, she cried to her mother, and she was stubborn and insisted that her mother help him solve them immediately. She cried loudly when she didn't solve it. One night, mom and dad went downstairs with eggs to play with other children. When Danny and a younger child were playing with a small toy car on the ground, the child took the toy car aside. Danny immediately cried loudly and threw himself into his mother's arms, saying that the car had been taken away. Seeing the appearance of Maruko, the adults next to him quickly urged the children to return the car to Maruko, but Maruko still cried. There are many such things these days. For example, if you drop something in your hand, you will ask your mother to cry and ask her to help him pick it up. Any conflict with other children, the first time the ball is crying for mom. Mother egg is very upset. How can a boy be so cowardly? Is there something wrong with your usual way of education? -I have something to say, encouraging children to solve problems by themselves. The problem with the ball is actually very typical. When they encounter problems, they hope to get help from adults. Many times, adults help children solve problems inadvertently. Some parents are even overprotective, and children are in charge of everything. Slowly, children have a strong dependence and feel that adults have to help them solve any problems. Bao Xiao is also a boy. Bao Xiao's mother said that she had the same distress as her mother. Other children will guard their toys, and Bao Xiao will only be robbed. After being robbed of toys, he will only ask his mother for help. Sometimes at home, Bao Xiao will encounter difficulties. For example, if the building blocks can't be built, he will cry and ask his mother for help. Later, Ma tried to let the children solve the problem by themselves. Slowly, the children looked for her less and less. "I usually tell Bao Xiao that if you like your toys but don't want others to play with them at all, you should tell other children. If it is taken away by accident, you have to find a way to get it back. Crying to my mother can't solve the problem. " For questions like building blocks, Bao Xiao's mother said that she would try to inspire Bao Xiao, for example, telling him that maybe that building block is more suitable and you can try it. This method was very effective, and Bao Xiao gradually got used to finding his own method. We specifically asked a father's opinion. He has a three-year-old son. The father said that his son was robbed of toys and ran to him to cry. He told his son: As a man, you should protect your things. Dad won't help you get it back, but dad supports you to get your toy back. Of course you can't hit people. With his encouragement, my son can always get his toys back smoothly when negotiating with children.