Customs of hometown in Suining County, Xuzhou City

For funerals: After a person dies, all relatives are notified to come and burn paper (commonly known as paper burning), and buy straw paper and give banknotes to the host's family. In about 5 days, when the funeral is held, go to the host's house to attend the funeral ceremony. Those who are close to the deceased will go home when the deceased is buried. Normally, they can leave after eating. For the host family: Give white hats or white clothes to the relatives and friends who are going, depending on the relationship. Before the deceased is cremated, relatives must wait beside the body for three days. After cremation, the ashes are placed in the coffin. On the day of burial, the younger generation should kneel on both sides of the coffin and kowtow (commonly known as) with relatives and friends to welcome the deceased. If the woman is a woman, she should greet her natal family or daughter. If the man is a daughter, she should carry it to the sacrificial table, and of course the family members. I'm going to buy a wreath. During lunch, the son of the deceased (if there is no son, a corresponding person can take his place) should salute and express his condolences to the relatives who have come, usually by kneeling down to express his gratitude. During the burial, around 4 or 5 p.m., my son and grandson have to go with me, and they have to go home during the burial and cannot look back. Counting from that night, fire (that is, burning paper) must be sent for three consecutive days, and on the third day, it must be sent to the grave. This is to illuminate the deceased so that the deceased can find another destination. The next day, women who were close to the deceased would go to the grave to burn paper, and of course they would have to cry. From there, the entire process ends. Regarding the wedding: The man's place: First of all, he must give a gift to the woman. The gift can be divided into cash and gifts. If a local is marrying a local, the gift will be wine or fruit. If it is a foreigner, it is best to use cash. If the woman's place is local and the place is local, she will buy the dowry from the man's place. On the wedding day, the man goes to marry the woman at noon. After dinner, the woman goes back with the man. In the evening, a kowtow (commonly known as) ceremony is held at the groom’s house to earn some gift money, haha. After the ceremony, they entered the bridal chamber, and from then on, the newlyweds became husband and wife. The next morning, the woman's family goes to the man's house to pick her up and take her back to her parents' home (commonly known as returning home). In the evening, the woman goes back to her husband's house, and the whole process is complete.