I know that learning is very important, but I still can't learn. What should I do?

These are the words of a mother who educates her children.

Son, I ask you to study hard, not to compare your grades with others, but to have the right to choose in the future. Choose meaningful and time-consuming work instead of being forced to make a living. When your work is meaningful in your mind, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your job gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have dignity. A sense of accomplishment and dignity bring you happiness.

First of all, you know that learning is important, but why is it important? Personally, I think that a large part of learning can pave the way for your later life. It is not an exaggeration to describe it in today's society. You know, no one will be responsible for your future poverty, and no one will help you for your future poverty and incompetence. When you grow up, you will have to take on greater responsibilities than when you were studying.

Nowadays, it is useless for many people to brush their diplomas, and they are all striving for strength. But in society, according to my personal experience, the first requirement of many companies is basically college or undergraduate graduation. Before you want to show your strength, they are often stopped by diplomas. Of course, I don't deny that many people with low diplomas have reached the peak of their lives by their own strength, but we can imagine the hardships they have endured. I have met many friends who study and study in the society while working. Therefore, knowledge will not be out of date in any era.

I hope you can cultivate a sense of hardship, don't be complacent, and learn to pursue high standards and a better life. Vision and vision are a very clever quality. Learn to think independently, make choices independently, and be diligent. Don't rely on other people's words or push forward. The only person who can save you is yourself.

Let's talk about when I don't want to study myself.

If I can't read or don't want to read by myself, I will look at the life of people who are worse off than me and tell myself that my parents may be bullied like migrant workers now, and I don't want this life. Of course, I will also look for the life I want and tell myself firmly that I must live the life I want in the future and work hard for it.

Sometimes when I am too tired, I will listen to music and watch a horror film or a tear film alone. You know, no matter what you do, when you devote yourself wholeheartedly to your feelings, your mind will be much broader.

There is also reading your favorite novels, such as romance, thriller and grave robbery, or writing some fragments yourself, which all take time unless you really can't spare the energy.

There are also books that are completely different from my usual thinking, such as zero resistance, logical thinking philosophy and so on.

Or painting, I like it very much, but I don't have much money.

There is also a person who goes for a walk by the river, rides a bicycle around different street corners and looks at other people's lives, usually when he is in a mood.

Everyone decompresses in different ways. I read an author in Zhihu that every time I feel sad, I turn off all the lights at home, close my eyes, grope slowly from my room in the dark, go to the kitchen, go to the toilet and then go downstairs, and then open my eyes to start over.

Everyone has a downturn, but everyone deals with it in different ways. As a student, I hope you read more books.

Here I recommend my favorite book in middle school called Youth Because of Pain.

Oh, by the way, Frank Records is also a good book.

There is always no harm in reading more books. Life is different. I hope you can find your goal in life and fight for it.

Cultivate a small interest, such as painting, shooting, watching movies, or meditating and walking. But remember to stop at the right time and don't be too addicted.

Small interests are just a way to relax when you are tired on the road of life.

Of course, the most important thing is that you have a goal, whether it is near or far, small or big, you must have your own beliefs and goals.

I can't describe that feeling in words, but after I cried helplessly and anxiously, my belief has never been realized. I finally gritted my teeth and forced myself to pick up my broken heart and move on. It's like a feeling of rebirth. After penetrating my heart, I saw through the present situation, then I understood life, and finally I understood life. Of course, I'm not always so passionate, sometimes it's boring, and some are ordinary.

However, in my opinion, this boring peace is not the same as mediocrity and inaction. Some people live a boring life. They are really short of heart, physically and mentally annoyed, and their eyes are more tired and stagnant. When they have a goal and fight for it, life is a bit boring, but the meaning is different. I feel different, too. I can always find the little pleasures in life. Ah, I think frustration is the normal state of life, so I should be grateful for every little thing that deserves happiness.

With a goal, you can move in this direction and rekindle the hope and courage of struggle when you are tired and sleepy.

Also, stay diligent and don't use powerlessness as an excuse for laziness.

At the same time, it ends with a few words in the recommendation book.

Laziness is actually depression, or vice versa.

Although many people keep saying how they hate lazy themselves, they actually enjoy their lazy state and are unwilling to change at all. Attitude shows that you want to get out of laziness, but you are actually enjoying the process.

If you are also enjoying laziness, enjoying the lazy state that has lasted for a long time and you are too lazy to change, please read here and leave. I will send a good word to those who read only here: "In fact, the downturn is for tomorrow's rising charging period." Is it okay? Are you feeling better? Please go.

In fact, this auspicious statement is deceptive. If a person is lazy for a long time, he will rot, and your beautiful body and soul will become more and more numb and sad. What a pity! I hope you can make up your mind to really get out of depression, no, get out of laziness.

Usually, when a person is lazy, he always wants to accept some kind of stimulus from the outside world to cheer himself up and get back on track. Some exciting events, intimate suggestions from friends or predecessors, or things suddenly realized in a gray morning and in a muddled state after drinking a lot of soju ... Before encountering these, people often lack the courage and determination to repel laziness. Many people are waiting for a clear sky to wake them up.

But let me say something, okay? In fact, that kind of stimulation may not be effective. The decisive power always comes from oneself.

Because of pain, it is called youth.

There is a normal state, that is, I feel passionate in my mind for a while and I will work hard for a while. There is also a normal state, that is, I want to do a major event that changes the world before going to bed, and I am too excited to sleep, but I can't even get up early the next day.

Set yourself a goal from today and protect it.

As the saying goes, the authorities are fascinated. I didn't expect these few words to change your present situation, but every word is my experience of blood and tears.

I hope you can benefit from it, and then learn to change your thoughts and mood. Slowly, slowly, better and better.

Many friends privately believe me that I feel something after reading it, but I still don't know what to do.

what can I say? People's thoughts are all their own. The world is so big, isn't it?

Here is my own experience. How can you say you don't like the design industry? Even when I was a student, I firmly believed that I would never engage in design-related industries in the future, but in life, there is no such absolute thing, and I even get slapped in the face from time to time.

I lived the work of boiling frogs in warm water every day until the end of the intrigue between the office environment and colleagues, the calculation that I like to step on others' superiors. I have no skills and a low diploma, but I can't do it. That kind of environment exhausted me physically and mentally, and I finally chose to resign. I have been looking for a job for two months, but I haven't found a satisfactory one.

I was a little girl at that time, and I didn't have much savings after graduation for many years. The conditions at home are not very good. I have been unable to find a job and have been addicted at home for nearly two months. Finally, due to economic pressure, I chose a job that is relatively easy to get started, art design.

Well, many people say that art design is the lowest level design, and it doesn't even match design. What do you think of this? It depends on the individual. Some artists imitate and copy, and some artists are still learning to design their own templates to surpass their peers.

But I just want to find an artist apprentice, and no company wants me. Many of them charge tuition fees in the name of apprentices, and most of them are informal. I almost want to give up, but I still want to find a skilled job.

So I took out a little of my savings and signed up for class, studied for a month, and then started looking for a job. I thought it would be easy to find a job as an artist after learning. As a result, what people want is to be experienced, proficient in ps, capable of making videos, modeling and hand-drawing. How interesting

At that time, my heart was broken and I even wanted to give up, but I spent money on it and didn't earn my tuition back.

So I still crustily skin of head interviewed a company and told people that I had been an artist for almost half a year. Of course, the boss asked me to join the company, but two months later, I found out that this so-called company is a leather bag company. Before I could react, the boss ran away. But I went to the neighborhood office and the labor bureau and applied for labor arbitration. In the end, it is all because of various legal will.

This illustrates a very serious problem. I spent a lot of living expenses in these two months, but I didn't learn anything. Just a stereotype. Of course, I can't get my salary back. You can only hate it if you use it. This is the primary stage of the socialist system and its imperfection.

At this time, I started my slow job-hunting journey again. Because of two months' experience, although I haven't learned anything, my mind is much more stable, and I'm not as nervous as I was at first. I interviewed an AliExpress company. Well, their requirements are very low and their wages are very low. The point is that I don't have any skills. I thought about it and decided not to go.

We started to submit resumes again. Our life in this second-tier city is still relatively comfortable, and we are not as busy as big cities. However, it never occurred to me that one day I would rather go to work by bus for more than an hour, sit in the development zone as an art assistant and go to work at eight o'clock. This means I have to get up around six o'clock in winter. After my resume was approved, I really felt bad.

But God never shuts one door but he opens another, and sometimes I still feel that life is not thin for me.

Just as I was leaving, I found that another company nearby was also looking for an assistant. I submitted my resume with trepidation. Well, the supervisor of the interview said it was a new team, and the requirements were not high. Plus the salary was ok, so I went.

Then go to work at eight o'clock every morning and work overtime until six or seven or even eleven o'clock in the afternoon. I work overtime almost every day for a week. I can dream that I am doing details, typesetting and selling points.

I did this for another two months. Almost all the details in the shop are ready. At this time, the boss said that he would lay off employees, and there were still ten days before the Chinese New Year. Unfortunately, an artist and three assistants were fired. Of course, there are many reasons. Some companies have various reasons when you work overtime to help them finish their work. I can understand this truth, but I am very angry that it was years ago. At that time, the agreed welfare ended up with nothing, even the food expenses were refunded, and then people were asked to work overtime for free, and finally they were dismissed when the Chinese New Year approached, and there was no compensation. I remember this company selling thermos cups. Its name is Qijia Trading Co., Ltd. Haha, something is wrong.

Although the company is inhuman, it will take a long time to deduct two months' salary and dismiss others, but I did learn something.

Artists can't rely on others. I should give up my idea of being an assistant and learning slowly by others.

Maybe it's because I did the details for two months, and I'm ok and have a good attitude. I took my work to other homes years ago and was lucky to pass.

But I am an amateur and a little liar, which still makes me a little uneasy.

I am the only artist, and I only know that dw ps simply decorates the shop.

My boss asked me to make a video, which is even higher and I want to be a model, but that's another story, and I didn't know it until later.

After my nervous work, my boss said that the click-through rate was not high and I was looking for an artist. I was under a lot of pressure at that time, and even thought it was because my boss thought my salary was too high and deliberately embarrassed me. But there is no way, crustily skin of head, the boss did not say that he did not do well. I know this is because the boss is kind and may have given face.

However, the boss sometimes loses face, that is, he told me that my color scheme was too rubbish at the beginning of making the car map and asked me to learn from other people's color schemes. Attention is to say directly, stop me with an anime wallpaper. So-and-so, look at this This color scheme is more or less beautiful. You should learn from others. Your color scheme is too spicy.

The next day he asked me if I had studied art. . . .

I am messy in the wind. . . . .

I was devastated at that time, and I could only say that I would study hard.

Later, my boss asked me to make a video. Well, I'm going to do 3/4 that I haven't done before. What they did was11,which stumped me, so I was rejected by Baidu again and posted various questions.

However, knowledge is not free, as it has been since ancient times.

So I can only download and install the software step by step, how to make it work, step by step, and follow the trend. But I was afraid that the boss was in a hurry, so I worked overtime and stayed up late. In the end, the boss didn't say anything, but I think it's still not good enough.

Later, the boss asked if he wanted to take pictures. Well, I can use a camera. Does it count? . .

My boss and I went to the studio and couldn't even pose. I was in a mess, and the boss didn't say anything.

Thinking that I was rejected several times, I finally met someone else's boss. .

But every few days, the boss asks me with a very tall video and animation, and I take back what I just said.

Anyway, it's slowly stabilizing now.

But I still don't like the art industry, but don't worry, I have a bigger goal here, so I won't say what it is.

How to say that the current state is to go home from work to learn some painting, and then go out to relax occasionally without watching video tutorials on weekends, which is also quite good, but my family always urges me to find someone, which is a headache.

Anyway, art design is not what I want to do in the future. I want to do great things. I have been fighting for him since I answered this question. As for what it is, well, I want to say that when you have a dream, you should protect your dream.

Well, I really didn't like this job at first, especially when I dreamed of painting. I began to be afraid, even disgusted, and wanted to give up. But how did I persist? Maybe I didn't want to go, but I was forced to go.

Be hard on yourself, and sometimes you realize that you can still tap so much potential.

Of course, we should also learn to decompress and find friends to skateboard and study when we are free. . . Simply put it on the plate. . 、

Besides, painting. Now I'm learning sketch. Well, it really takes a lot of time. The key is meditation.

No one is perfect, we don't have to be too demanding of wealth, but we can't be mediocre and persuade ourselves to be ordinary and valuable.

Everyone has a downturn.

If you are a teenager here, after reading this passage, I still want to recommend a book. The one I mentioned before is called Youth Because of Pain.

This book helped me through the trough of my student days and found my goal in life, which still had a great influence on my later mentality.

At that time, I thought it was written by China people. Later, I learned that it was written by Koreans, which made it difficult for me to accept. Later, I slowly stopped watching. But I still want to recommend him. Don't ask me why. I study international economic law and have no feelings for this country. Plus I can't accept it in modern history recently.

Of course, it brought me pain. It's really hard to fight for your dream, but you are willing, which makes people love and hate.

If you are an adult, a word to you will wake me up-I can't read any more, and I am impetuous and anxious, all because I am old, don't believe in the right way, and pay too much attention to utility.

This paragraph was updated on March 7, 2020.

I read the comments. Many people know in their hearts that learning is very important, but they just can't learn. Maybe I have said so much before, and more emphasis is placed on inner mentality, because I think you will only do it if you want to. If you don't want to, you won't get up and study, knowing that learning is very important. If so, I suggest you get yourself moving and set yourself a small goal, such as getting up, opening a book and reading a page or two, or doing a problem, or sorting out your homework, or memorizing a few words, or copying instead. Of course, if you still don't want to move, there is no need to stay at your desk all the time. You can take a little study when washing dishes or doing other housework (but this can only be used in the early stage. Remember that a small goal doesn't need too much, just do a little better than yesterday, and you can get a lost gain. In this way, you won't spend too much energy, but you can get a small gain at the lowest cost. This kind of physical and mental pleasure will only persist if it is rewarded.

This may not be straightforward enough, but I will give you some inspiration based on my own learning experience.

I can't settle down to study, and I often have to solve these two problems because of anxiety and impetuousness, because I have a deep understanding in my own learning process, which is solved by the above two methods, because this small goal is only to help you develop habits first.

Get into a habit Even if you don't like it very much, get into a habit, at least you won't reject it, and you can do it calmly every day.

Because last year I said it was difficult to find a job, this year is not very good, but I have made great progress compared with my peers. When I first started doing it, I was also very anxious, so I have been studying. Last year, I only got 4 thousand's salary, and this year it has risen to 5 thousand. In our city with low GDP, the salary is ok, at least I have enough to eat and wear, but compared with those excellent peers, I feel like a middle and lower reaches.

Therefore, learning is also necessary. Those powerful bosses all have their own skills, such as ps pr ae, ai c4d, just so-so.

Now prepare to learn c4d. After a rough investigation at first, I know that the system is very complicated. It takes 1-2 years to get started, and at least three years to master it. However, I am not at a loss because of my own technology, and I also feel the pressure from society. I didn't graduate from an ordinary class, and sometimes I really feel that I can't keep up with the progress. Those professional theories just make me doubt myself. If I don't have the professional knowledge of graduating from ordinary classes, I will definitely affirm it in the future, or I will stick to it. Nothing is difficult in the world, just like I often tease myself whether I am not diligent enough, and bad people can always do bad things. Many times, when the protagonist or the good guy is resting, he is still trying to forget to eat and sleep. They are trying their best to use all kinds of resources and contacts to do bad things. I must show my determination to do bad things to do this good thing.

However, the self-taught exam is c4d, and there are few learning resources in China, so I still stick various stickers in the mile and then join the group to get a general idea first.

At first, c4d was full of boring tool applications and some theories. It's just that I really feel like a student again, and I can doze off as soon as I listen. I couldn't sleep well for a while, so I put these basic knowledge in my headphones to hypnotize myself.

I really don't read much when I doze off, but it's good to know the general usage of this tool. For example, you need to know the pronunciation and spelling of words. But rote learning is too painful

So I will watch and listen to videos when I go home from work to cook, or sweep the floor when I wash clothes. After listening to it several times, you will naturally think of the same thing. Of course, it doesn't matter if you can't remember. I don't put too much pressure on myself. I only cultivated contact with c4d in the early stage, and I will miss him if I have more contact. For example, I met a boy on the road, who was ordinary in all aspects, and I passed at a glance. Of course, if the next morning is different or the same as the fourth afternoon. Of course, it's just an analogy, which is to cultivate the habit of contacting him in the early stage. Needless to say, I have to learn something today, and it is ok to meet. After all, many girls are slow to heat like me.

Anyway, I later found that practical modeling was quite interesting, so I stayed in the company after work every day, listened to a class every day to make a very simple small model, and persisted in learning a little every day after a long time. Later, I found that I couldn't get on the company's computer at the study progress, and the configuration was too low to get on this large software. Coupled with work reasons, I was interrupted for a while. Later, I remembered that I forgot a lot of my previous knowledge. I made some clearly built models, and I don't know what the effect is. I have to go home for the New Year, so I might as well scrap them. Then the wonderful 2020 kicked off with a bat, and I was bored at home. However, I am also a restless person. I watch my sister get up early for online classes every day and don't let me sleep in the afternoon, so I usually get up before noon and sit next to my sister and draw. She watched me draw, so in order not to affect him, I basically hid under the covers to draw sketches, and then I got bored and suddenly thought of c4d, but I still didn't want to watch online classes until I went to work. We started work in February when the epidemic was not serious.

Going back to the company was boring, so I signed up for a ps course on light and shadow theory. Because I do this myself, it's easy to learn. Compared with c4d, I don't want to open that page.

Moreover, I mainly rely on ps to go to work, so c4d is completely self-taught, but when I think about it later, I can't abandon my original study, so I can't focus on c4d. Many times, I will also sign up for a 7-day, 1 1 day free experience course. Of course, the longest is 2 1 day, board painting, meticulous work and graphic design. These also occupy a considerable part of my energy and time. I also tried two skills to learn together and persisted for five days. I am really tired. I basically go to work during the day and can only study at night or in the morning. I am really tired. I didn't go home until ten o'clock every day for those days.

This is probably the reason why I don't want to touch c4d, but the most fundamental thing is that I feel like a primary school student. I have to learn English in high school and open the first page of the vocabulary. Then I began to recite a few words in the first few lines, and then someone gave me a stack of words to recite. This kind of psychology makes me start to stay away from c4d, and another kind is to learn slowly in the future. Anyway, there is still time before I need to make a product. But my photos have always been poor, which reminds me of modeling, and then I began to reflect on myself. I think I'm too impatient and utilitarian. After all, not everything can be achieved with a little effort. What's more, such a huge system can't be learned overnight, nor can it be mastered by listening to several online classes. Then I posted it again and saw that many novices were learning, and there were many situations with me.

Later, I joined a self-study group. Mom, opening the door to the new world, sometimes I feel lucky that I can get help from some people. After all, no one in my society can teach me for free after school, and I am glad that several people can mention me. So I hope everyone will be gentle in the future. Maybe your words will bring a ray of light to those who are studying. I read some modeling materials and modeling questions they sent.

So I decided to work hard during the day, learn ps skills in my spare time, and prepare to focus on c4d at night. Of course, this is the plan, because all the money I saved last year was given to my parents, and I don't have much money left. A minimum assembly machine costs 6000 yuan, more than a month's salary, but I still bought it! I hate dead bats. It is said that the distance is only about 5,000, but it has just grown to more than 6,000. I just need to pay off my debts in the next few months. I really hope that Ma Yun's father can let me win a prize without returning the flowers. Don't say bitter tears.

Of course, I am not encouraging you to spend money. I think your study expenses are much lower than mine. For example, I met several seniors who wanted to learn c4d, and they only asked me for the fees before they taught me some questions. Of course, only a few people are still very enthusiastic about helping me. For example, I met a little brother who helped me choose the assembly machine. I think the whole world will help you when I struggle for my ideal. Frustration is just a small process to sharpen me.

Well, if you can't learn by yourself, you can find some classmates to supervise the punching, or open a video beside you. No matter what he is doing, just finish the task by himself. At first, I really had to video with my sister every day. He was taking an online class, and I endorsed it because I also took a college entrance examination, which was a bit hypocritical. Let my sister accompany me through this transition period first. I only need one credit. It's just a pity that the thesis is only 72, and it takes more than 75 for Zhejiang University to take the self-taught undergraduate course to get a degree, so I can't get a degree from Zhejiang University. It can only be a student status, but it is also very good. After all, I graduated from high school and took the college entrance examination.

This experience is to tell everyone that everyone should be tired of learning. We should learn to adjust ourselves, just like doing bad things, and try our best to make ourselves fuck him. Even if you don't want to, but you give me a way, think of an idea to learn to make the body move, and when the body moves, the brain turns.

It is good to have a companion, of course, it can't be influenced by external factors. The company I'm referring to here is a witness company, not having the same goal as you. If people can have the same goal, they will get twice the result with half the effort, but most of my experience is to stick to it and give up, so I didn't ask a company that works as hard as me. I think students should find some. After all, they all want to learn. After leaving school, many people are useless.

Witness the essence of companionship, for example, I sometimes read books, my roommate is playing games and watching TV, and I feel very peaceful. Of course, I would be happier if he could study with me, but I didn't force him, because he said he would take an accounting exam, so I asked him to go to the library with me to read. Afterwards, I asked him if he planned to go to the library to study, and how did you read novels? I felt that your motivation was not great. She said the others had long wanted to leave.

At that moment, I found it difficult for a person to get a spiritual voice. Many times we hope to use another diligent and inspirational person to motivate ourselves, but there are very few diligent people. It is the most dangerous to comfort and encourage ourselves with others, because you never know how to adjust your emotions, often because you will give up halfway.

Therefore, the witness companion can be a friend or himself, and it is not necessary to work hard on the same channel. He does his work, you do yours, as long as you finish it separately. Here, it is more of a witness. I'm not the only one who witnessed my efforts. My roommate is with me. No matter what he is doing, someone is with me to witness my efforts.

Ok, let's continue the previous follow-up and share some happy things. When I first joined the league, my seniors told me that it takes two hours a day a year to get started. That's great, but many times I'm also an emotional person. This news makes me very happy. Excited, I spent a sum of money to decorate my bed. Because I live with my best friend, she has the lower bunk and I have the upper bunk.

Sometimes she plays games or watches TV, which is a little noisy. In addition, sometimes she turns off the lights at 10. In order to save electricity, of course, in order not to affect her or let him affect me, I deliberately surrounded my upper berth with shelves and curtains to make it a fully enclosed small house. I like this feeling. Studying in your favorite environment will make you feel very quiet. However, sleeping on the upper berth is really expensive. If I had a choice, I would definitely choose the lower berth, which is a bit expensive. In the next few months, I don't think I can see meat, so I can only eat carrots and vegetables every day.

Although it is difficult now, I always believe that when you feel that you are carrying a heavy load, you must be going uphill.

Because of poverty, there is no internet at home, so I have to download data from the company's computer with a mobile hard disk every day, then take it home and copy it to my own computer, and then watch how to model the downloaded online course on my mobile phone. Although it is a little troublesome, it is still very gratifying, at least it is rewarding.

Now in the special period, there are also many examples that move me. The disabled and determined takeaway brother insisted on not donating money and wanted to make money through his own delivery work. Because the stars at the foot of the mountain are not good, his parents set up a small tent at the top of the mountain where the temperature is very cold but there is a signal for him to take online classes. These examples really make me feel ashamed, because my conditions are really much better than theirs, and they are all struggling in such a difficult environment. What reason do I have?

Also, it should be mentioned that many times, due to external reasons, our gains are not proportional to our efforts, that is, if you have worked hard, you may get little or even lose money.

But please don't be sad, this is the normal state of life, but we still have to believe that accident is inevitable in the dark, and it is inevitable again and again.

Of course, we should also learn to calculate the harvest ourselves. For example, I borrowed a flower shop to buy a computer when I knew I didn't have much money on me. At this time, I haven't learned c4d. If I give up, it will be even worse. So I have to learn to reduce losses at this time, so I decided to bring my own food to work every day, also to save a sum of money. Then I must watch a video every day or make a model of my ability. If you don't learn, you lose. I can't lose. I'm already poor.

Of course, I think this is an investment.

For example, if you study, you cannot lose money. Set yourself a goal. When you finish writing, you can reward yourself with a pen or a notebook that has always felt good. If you want to do a good job, you must sharpen your tools first.

Of course, it can also be something you like. I recommend not too expensive. It should be within your ability. It's okay to have a good meal. You should learn to be content and be grateful. You know, I can't afford meat and vegetables. Every day, I am an old godmother to make soy sauce.