Parent-child reading as soon as possible, master these methods and skills, and leave the rest to "persistence"

Parent-child reading is now well known to most parents, and many parents even often read with their children every day. It is precisely because modern parents know the importance of reading that they will incorporate parent-child reading into their busy lives. Although most parents already know that reading is very important and parent-child reading is good for children, not everyone has a deep understanding. Most parents should stay in the stage of knowing, not understanding, let alone in-depth understanding. In fact, parent-child reading is not so profound, as long as you insist on reading to your children every day and firmly believe in the power of reading.

Summary of my two children's parent-child reading

Dabao and I have been doing parent-child reading since he was 8 months old and insist on it every day. Maybe it's inappropriate to insist. This has become our habit. Adults and children like this very much. We have been studying with Dabao for almost six years. Now I have Bauer. He started reading Parents and Children when he was three months old. Most of the time, he read nursery rhymes in bed after feeding, fell asleep and read Tang poems, and began to read with literacy cards instead of black and white cards in 4 months. I noticed that Bauer liked it very much.

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Why do parents and children study as early as possible?

Anyone who has raised a baby knows that the older the child, the more he has his own ideas. It is easy for a baby who is a few months old to learn, and it takes a lot of guidance for a 6-year-old who has never read. It hardly takes much effort to introduce parent-child reading when the baby is a few months old. As long as you know the basic methods of book selection and parent-child reading, and stick to your actions, children will naturally develop reading habits.

Classical books on psychology and education usually mention that people's childhood experiences have a patterned influence on the whole life. What do you mean by patterned influence? It is a variety of habit patterns formed at the beginning of life, which is not easy to change in the future and has a far-reaching impact on life. The ultimate goal of parent-child reading is to make children fall in love with reading, and one day they can read independently and form the habit of lifelong learning. This habit is easy to form in the early life, which is of great help to children's growth, has a positive impact on children's psychology and spirit, and makes children's brains more developed.

When the baby is a few months old, what he can do is very limited. He can't even hold things with his hands or start work. Reading to the baby at this time can enrich his life. Unlike older children, they have limited free time and are occupied by homework, cartoons and mobile games. Reading to the baby will make the baby happy and think that adults are playing with themselves. Therefore, parent-child reading should start as soon as possible.

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Three most important things in parent-child reading

If you are a novice parent, you can try simple principles. Keep in mind that there are only three things, the three most important things in parent-child reading, and put aside other methods and skills. These three things are persistence (about equal to every day), collecting books at home and setting an example.

Keep in mind three "big things", regardless of other skills.

This is for novice parents who are not familiar with parent-child reading. After reading several articles and learning a lot of skills, I am still at a loss. At this time, the best way is to do subtraction, do three important things well and put other skills aside. Do three "big things" well, and parent-child reading will have a great chance of smooth sailing, and children will fall in love with reading.

(1) insist

There are many ways and skills to accompany children to learn, many of which are actually not that important, and you don't have to force yourself to copy according to other people's models. If we have to find out the most important thing about parent-child reading, then I think persistence is the most important thing. If you don't insist, there will be no compound interest effect. If you don't insist on everything, it won't have much impact on children.

Persistence is a very important kind of all good habits, and only persistence can achieve everything. Buffett's most admired compound interest effect is the result of persistence. Reading to children every day will have a compound interest effect, and doing the same simple things every day. One day, you will suddenly find that children have read a novel, and one day in the future, you will find that children learn so easily and show their strength in the college entrance examination. This is the compound interest effect produced by reading every day. Taking time out to read to children every day will bring surprises to parents and children in the future. Teacher Yin Jianli, a famous educator, said that children who study are children who are pointed at by wands. In short, persistence will lead to miracles.

② Collection of books at home

Books are collected at home to create an environment for children. In a certain environment, children will automatically acquire materials for growth. It can be understood that life has an internal motivation, which is the driving force for children's self-growth and self-improvement. As long as the external environment is desirable, children will get useful materials for their growth in the environment.

The collection of books at home creates an intelligent environment, and it is only a matter of time before children get nutrition from books. Only at a certain point in time, driven by something or a certain emotion, will children fall in love with reading and the shortcut to acquire wisdom. If there are parents' guidance and role models at home, children will fall in love with reading faster.

There must be no less books at home. There is no standard of truth. We can roughly judge how many books are hidden at home, which will have a great influence on children. Studies abroad show that children with more than 500 books at home have significantly better grades. My own experience is that children will be familiar with about 700 books if they buy 1000 books, and they will read about 70 books if they buy 100 books. This is basically the case with my family's study in Dabao. I bought 1 100 picture books and other children's books for Dabao, 75% of them have read them, 50% have read them more than 100 times, 15% have read them several times, and 10% have read them only once. It can be seen that the more books there are at home, the more books children will read. If there are only 50 books in my family, children can't read too many. (My Dabao's reading is parent-child reading, and I read it to my children. )

③ Set an example.

Children's habits and behaviors are cloned versions of parents' habits and behaviors. No amount of preaching is as powerful as an example. One or both parents have reading habits. With a little guidance, children will probably inherit their parents' reading habits. If you want your children to develop the habit of reading, as long as you read to your children when you were young and your parents often read, you will succeed more than half.

Setting an example has another advantage. Parents who have their own reading habits will be better at choosing books for their children and more capable of leading them to explore reading.

Observing babies who are a few months old, we find that they are always imitating, imitating adults sticking out their tongues, fingers, swinging their bodies and so on. It is not so obvious that older children imitate adults, but imitation has been going on. Parents often have a book in their hands, and children are likely to learn well.

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How to choose books for parent-child reading

① Choose books for 0- 1 year-old baby.

There is a general order to choose reading materials for newborn babies, although it is not absolute, but according to this order, novice parents don't have to rack their brains any more. This order is black and white cards → torn paper books (cloth books) → simple large-screen color picture books.

Black and white cards can exercise your baby's eyesight. Besides using black and white cards, you can also use black and white literacy cards. Chinese characters such as "one", "two", "water", "big", "middle" and "people" can be used as black and white cards for babies to read. It can not only enrich the graphic content, but also enlighten the literacy. Babies can read when they can't talk, and these experiences will be remembered when they are "connected" in the future. Bai Juyi began to study in six months, which promoted his wisdom. So you can boldly show the baby the black and white card, and everything will be fine if the baby feels happy.

② Choose books for 1-2 year old babies.

If the baby hasn't seen the black-and-white card before 1 year old, there is no need to "make up lessons". School-age books can stimulate children's interest in reading. 1-2-year-old baby's reading materials can be children's songs pictorial, big-screen picture books, and ancient poetry reading literacy cards. Explain that showing the literacy card to the baby is not for literacy, but for enriching reading materials and liking Chinese characters in the future. Everything paves the way for independent reading, and the function of literacy is reading. Don't force your baby to read utilitarian, which may kill your interest in learning.

Children's songs and ancient poems are catchy, and most babies like to listen to their parents. Choose an award-winning classic picture book. Try not to go to stalls and supermarkets to buy books like 5 yuan 2, because there are basically no classic picture books in these places, and the content quality is not high. Spend the same time, it is better to choose books with intelligent content. Children's picture books that have won the grand prize contain human wisdom and strong logic, which is equivalent to children's masterpieces.

③ Choose books for 2-3 year-old babies.

Mainly in Chinese and English picture books, plus some reading of Tang poetry and Song poetry. If parents can't read English picture books, they should only read Chinese. English can only be enlightened by electronic products, which is not bad. There is no need to pursue perfection. 2-3-year-old baby's picture book is best to choose the award-winning classic picture book. Pictures don't need to be too detailed and bright, and babies of this age like them.

Male babies of this age are likely to like picture books related to automobiles and machinery, while female babies are likely to like picture books related to characters. Boys and girls may like picture books related to animals, eating and drinking Lazarus, etc. In short, babies of this age like picture books closely related to their own lives, because their understanding ability is limited, and reading what they have experienced in their lives is more in line with their psychology at this stage.

④ Choose books suitable for children aged 3-6.

At this stage, children have many ideas and are already familiar with various electronic products, occupying a lot of time in their lives. When choosing books for children who have not developed the habit of parent-child reading at this stage, we should not only consider whether they are classic books that have won prizes, but also vote for their own interests. The bigger the child, the better. For example, the baby likes dinosaurs these days, so buying picture books related to dinosaurs can stimulate children's interest in reading. If children like to play video games and buy a set of introduction books, they may read them dozens of times. Children with fixed reading habits, it is best not to buy introductory books, otherwise they will be more interested in games. Decide according to the specific situation of your family.

It is worth noting that children who have not developed reading habits in kindergartens should choose books, and do not use "learning" books to start parent-child reading, such as learning literacy, pinyin, mathematics or preaching good habits. Children can certainly read such books if they like. If children are disgusted, try not to use such books and develop reading habits. Parents can rest assured that starting from their hobbies, after several years of habit formation, they will naturally read classic and nutritious books, and readers will eventually read in-depth and nutritious books. It's only a matter of time. Take your time.

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Is parent-child reading "speaking" or "reading"

"Speaking" means not speaking in written language, but being spoken or translated by parents in vernacular. For example, I am afraid that young children will not understand "indecision" and say "I can't make a decision for a long time", which means.

"Reading" means reading the book word for word.

There is no standard answer to "speaking" and "reading". Let me talk about my own views and experiences for your reference. I've always thought reading is better. From the time my child was eight months old, until now he's almost six years old, I read every word from the book. Why is this happening? I think it can increase children's vocabulary, and it won't make any difference to read it several times. Moreover, it is easier to read it from the book, as long as parents will read it, but not everyone can say the benefits. Reading is very tiring, so you need to use your brain. I'm not lazy but unwilling to use my brain, but parent-child reading takes many years. The workload is huge. I want to read to my children for at least 3 years, maybe 6-8 years at most, or even longer. I had to find a simple and sustainable way to read to my parents and children, so I chose to read to my children instead of reading.

Another advantage of following the script is that it will not be "out of tune". Many books have metaphors, which are not very good in vernacular. Reading in written language, children and adults understand that nonsense is unnecessary. In short, it is best to read it in written language.

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What time do you study with your children every day?

The answer is anytime. If we have to compare, it is best that parents have time and children are interested. It is worth noting that some 1 year-old babies are always moving when they are not sitting quietly, so we should carefully observe when the baby can be fixed in the seat or bed, and use this time to cultivate the baby's interest in books. My observation is that the baby is the quietest lying on the dining chair, bed and toilet.

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Time for parent-child reading every day

"Feeding older children with storybooks" counts the actual time parents spend reading for their children. The real situation may be less than that in books, which means that most parents spend less than half an hour reading for their children every day. If the parent-child reading time can be extended to half an hour, more than 80% of parents will read. The author himself spends more than 2 hours reading to his children every day (preschool).

Scare away the Wolf is a children's picture book, which mainly tells a variety of ways to scare away the wolf, guide children to face the seemingly powerful opponent bravely, and there are many ways to solve the problem. The last two pages of the book are several parent-child reading suggestions for parents, in which it is mentioned that it is enough to study with children 15~30 minutes every day.

My own experience is that it is ok for a baby to read a picture book 15 minutes, and it is often not enough for a child over 4 years old to read a picture book 15 minutes, preferably more than 20 minutes, with no upper limit at most. My family's Dabao spends an average of 1.5-2 hours a day on parent-child reading before he is 3 years old, and about 1 hour a day on parent-child reading when he is 3-6 years old. You can set the time according to your own situation, and 20 minutes or more is better.

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How to easily adhere to parent-child reading?

As long as parents deeply realize the importance of reading, it is easier for them to stick to it. Yin Jianli, a famous educator, said in A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher that "children who read a lot are children caught in the battle of magic". Charles Munger, a partner of Warren Buffett, a famous investor, once said: "There is no smart person I have met in my life who doesn't study every day-no, none."

To deepen understanding, you can look at reading manuals and biographies of celebrities, and you can find motivation for children to keep reading.

After mastering the skills and methods of parent-child reading, the only thing left is to insist on reading to children and wait for the harvest of the results. It may take ten or eight years to see results. Please be patient. Reading to children must be a profitable thing, which is of great benefit to their growth.

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abstract

This paper shows that parent-child reading has become very popular, and points out that the earlier the parent-child reading, the better, starting from the baby's 3 months. The three most important things in parent-child reading are persistence, collecting books at home and setting an example. The book selection methods of babies of different ages are listed respectively. Generally speaking, classic picture books are for babies, and the theme picture books of interest are for children over 3 years old who have no reading habits. Parent-child reading is a "huge project". Reading by book is simpler and more suitable for many years. It also shows that reading at any time every day is good, and reading for more than 20 minutes every day is the best. After mastering these precautions and methods, as long as you stick to it, you can wait for the flowers to bloom. Supporting yourself to stick to it mainly depends on a deep understanding of the importance of parent-child reading.

I am the mother of two children. Bauer is only three months old now, and he is completely breast-fed. My experience and previous study may be of reference value to novice parents, so I wrote this article. If there is anything wrong, please point it out, let's discuss it together and make progress together on the road of parenting!