Notes on the courage of not being liked (1)

1- The owner of the full text is a philosopher on the outskirts of the ancient capital. His idea is that people can change. The world is so simple that people can get happiness at any time.

2- The world we see is full of contradictions and chaos, but philosophers tell us that what is complicated is not the "world" itself, but you who see the world as complicated.

3- Maybe we are all looking at the world through sunglasses, so the world we see will become dim. What we have to do is to take off those sunglasses instead of lamenting the darkness of the world. And how to take off this pair of sunglasses is to have the courage to face up to the world.

1- Once upon a time, there lived a philosopher on the outskirts of an ancient capital called the Millennium Capital. He advocates that the world is extremely simple and people can get happiness at any time. A young man couldn't accept this view, so he went to visit philosophers to find out. In the eyes of this problem of juvenile, the world is full of contradictions and chaos, and there is no happiness at all.

The world you see after taking off your sunglasses may be so dazzling that you can't help but close your eyes. Maybe you'll miss the sunglasses again. Even so, can you take off your sunglasses? Can you face up to the world? Do you have such "courage"? This is the problem.

3- No, it's not an illusion. For "you" at that time, it was an undeniable fact that the well water was warm and cold. The so-called living in the subjective world is the truth. "How to look at it" is subjective, and we can't get rid of our own subjectivity. Now, the world in your eyes presents a complex and strange chaos. However, if you change yourself, the world will return to a simple attitude. Because the problem is not how the world is, but how you are.

1-This is the introduction and the programmatic language of the book. If you read the whole book roughly, you will have a deeper understanding.

2- The purpose of reading this book is to make yourself more open-minded. I learned twelve psychological books a year from Mona this year. I have a lot of bumps in my heart. I'm going to look for answers in this book with my family, friends, colleagues at work and some related people in society, and how to change myself to make the world simpler and make myself happy.

ABC Emotional Model-After Socrates, the most famous philosopher in ancient Greece was his disciple Plato, and the most famous philosopher after Plato was his disciple Aristotle. The most influential school of philosophy after Aristotle is Stoicism. There is an imperial philosopher Aurelius among the Stoics. He was a philosopher and became the emperor of Rome in his spare time. Aurelius once said a famous saying, people are not troubled by things themselves, but by their own views on things.

This sentence inspired psychologist Albert Ellis, who is known as one of the founders of cognitive behavioral therapy. Inspired by this, Alice proposed ABC emotional model. Let me tell you about this ABC emotional model.

What is a? A is what we have experienced. What's b? B is our understanding of this matter, not our idea. What is C? C is our emotional response based on our own understanding of things.

Do you think C comes directly from A, that is, do you think your emotions are directly triggered by what you have experienced?

No, C comes from B, many times it is difficult for us to influence A, but most of the time we can change B, and B can directly influence C, which has the greatest direct impact on our quality of life. By changing B, we can improve our life. But how can we change B? Then you should always review your life.

Please seriously think about this truth. It is important to understand this.

Socrates said that life without introspection is not worth living. But you may be more serious. Can you find the meaning of life after the exam? If I have to tell the truth, I have to say, I'm really not sure. This will lead to many philosophers' arguments, and you will hear them all.

Well, let me put it in a simpler way. After examination, you may find that you can control your life more freely. To this end, you should also listen to Socrates' teaching and take good care of your soul.