True love is: knowing all your faults, I still love you

01

One of my visitors, Xiao Ai, told me her story. She had just ended a five-year sister-sister relationship plus a long-distance relationship.

Xiao Ai and her boyfriend met while working part-time when they graduated from high school. The two of them are in love as siblings.

At the beginning, Xiao Ai disagreed. Her boyfriend was too young and felt unreliable.

The boy was surprisingly serious and told Xiao Ai that even if you are a few years older than me, in my eyes you are just a little girl who needs protection.

Just as he said, during the days when he was pursuing Xiao Ai, the boy insisted on calling her to wake up every day, reminding her to eat on time, greeting her with greetings, snacks and toys in various ways to make Xiao Ai happy... …

He would immediately share anything interesting with her when he encountered something interesting. He would always respond to her WeChat messages instantly. When she couldn’t sleep, he would stay up all night with her...

He He really doted on her like a little girl.

Gradually, Xiao Ai was moved by the boy's enthusiasm and got used to being around him, used to being cared for and doted on by him. In this way, she chose to go to school behind her family's back and despite the opposition of almost everyone. Be with him.

In the past five years, although she has experienced a lot of ups and downs, Xiao Ai never thought of being separated from him.

In her junior year, the boy came to the city where she went to college. He wanted to stay longer, but he didn't bring much money.

They rented a small house in a nearby urban village. After adding in the rent for water, electricity, pots and pans, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, the two of them spent a lot of money. Xiao Ai At that time, the monthly living expenses were only 700. During that period, in order to save money, she only ate one steamed bun and vegetables every day.

Xiao Ai said that when they were together, they were often so poor that they couldn’t afford to buy clothes when going shopping. They only had food from street stalls. She couldn’t afford expensive gifts during festivals, so she bought colored paper and folded stars and paper cranes. Give them to your boyfriend. There are hundreds of them in a stack, with different blessings written inside.

In the year of graduation, without any warning, Xiao Ai received a breakup text message from her boyfriend, "Let's break up, I've fallen in love with someone else."

In order to prevent Xiao Ai from getting entangled, he also sent photos and videos of his new girlfriend who looked like an internet celebrity to Xiao Ai.

He said, look, my new girlfriend is younger, more beautiful and fashionable than you, has a good figure, and has good taste in clothes, so please stop disturbing us,

Besides, my parents also think that you are older than me and we are not suitable for each other...

At first, it was Xiao Ai who couldn't accept that her boyfriend was too young, but now it was the reason why her boyfriend disliked her.

Xiao Ai still doesn’t understand why she doesn’t love her boyfriend even if he says he doesn’t love her, and changes when he says he wants to change? Could it be that she also dresses like an Internet celebrity and has European-style double eyelids? Maybe her boyfriend can still Change of heart.

I told her,

Because most people who love each other will selectively ignore the physical and appearance shortcomings of their lover, and failed love will always mean not cherishing and No effort and no trust...

02

There is a fat girl in the United States, Jenna Kutcher, who is a wedding photographer.

When she posted the photo with her husband on the Internet, she received a lot of blessings and comments, but also encountered many malicious attacks.

Jenna’s husband is a fitness trainer with a handsome appearance and six-pack abs that make countless girls lick their screens, but Jenna is an average-looking girl who is a little fat.

Some people said: "Where did you find such a handsome husband? It's fake, how is it possible!"

Others said: "Let this guy go. You are so fat, you are not worthy of him!"

Some people even directly attacked: "Sister, wake up, he is only with you for money, no one will really love you with a figure like yours. You."

Jenna is a true-hearted girl. Although she is fat, she never posts pictures because she likes her true self.

But those who hate her and laugh at her figure will still appear in the comment area, especially the malicious remarks about the incompatibility between her and her husband, which once made her very frustrated.

Later, as more and more discordant voices came out, she became very low self-esteem: "Is it true that I am not worthy of my husband?"

Nor did she. Then post a photo of yourself and your husband.

While she was feeling sad about this incident, her husband stood up.

Not only did he open ins, he also announced to the world: "I am Jenna's husband..."

He expresses his love for his wife without hesitation every day. Spread plenty of dog food to netizens.

Perhaps with the encouragement of her husband’s love, Jenna bravely faced the keyboard warrior and launched the most loving and powerful counterattack:

She spoke frankly about her heart Quotes:

"I often feel insecure, partly because I married this man with 6-pack abs. I ask myself, why did I, a fat girl, get such a good guy?

I will keep telling myself in my mind that I am not thin, I am not worthy, I am not worthy of having...

But it is this man who has recovered his health in the past 10 years.

He hugged every curve, every patch of fat, kissed my dimples and pimples, and always reminded me that no matter what struggles I was having inside. , in his eyes, I am the most beautiful..."

In the world of love, there is no such thing as a good match. As long as you fall in love, the other person will be the most beautiful person in your eyes.

Chinese people often say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," which probably means the same thing.

03

Back then, when Tony Leung Ka Fai faced movie fans who questioned that his wife, Kong Jianian, was old, ugly, haggard, and out of shape, he stood up and said, "In this world, No matter how beautiful a woman is, she is not as attractive as my wife."

The dark-skinned and fat Asian lady next to Zuckerberg has also been criticized by countless people.

Psychologists recruited 83 college student volunteers (32 males and 51 females) to lead the laboratory and asked them to evaluate their appearance according to the scale.

Subsequently, psychologists sent emails to their lovers and friends based on the email addresses provided by the volunteers, asking them to evaluate the appearance of these college students.

The results of the survey show:

1. Lovers’ evaluation of our appearance is significantly higher than our friends’ evaluation of us, and it is also higher than our own evaluation of ourselves.

2. Although our lovers think that we are "as beautiful as Pan'an" or "as beautiful as a fairy", lovers themselves also know that our evaluation of ourselves is very average.

3. Although lovers think highly of our appearance, lovers also know that our friends don’t think so highly of us.

French writer Romain Rolland once said, "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, which is to still love life after recognizing the truth of life."

Applying the above research results, it can be said that there is only one kind of love in the world, which is that after I understand all your shortcomings, I still choose to love you.

Whether it is Jenna Kutcher, Jiang Jianian, or Priscilla Chen, although they are far different from their husbands in terms of status and appearance in the eyes of ordinary people,

But in the eyes of their lovers , they are the most reliable objects in the world, the most unforgettable scenery, the most unparalleled beauty...

Love is like drinking water, you know whether it is hot or cold.

There is a line in the movie "Juno": I think it is best for you to find someone who loves you for who you are, no matter you are good or bad tempered, ugly or beautiful, whoever is right People will definitely feel that sunlight can radiate from your butt.

I hope you and I can both marry love...

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