Pickup Techniques

Many of our brothers don’t know what to say when they are with a woman, especially a woman they like. My mind is full of thoughts about what to say, but I still can't say anything that satisfies me. The atmosphere suddenly felt awkward. I started to feel a little anxious. The more anxious I became, the less I knew what to say. This feeling is very uncomfortable. Like you, I've had it many times before. But don't blame yourself for being so useless. Because we all know that once we return to the familiar buddies and brothers, we will talk and laugh again, and there will be no such problem of being unable to talk.

But why do many guys don’t know what to talk about when talking to the girl they like? Why can't I talk to my brother as easily as I do?

The simple superficial reason is that we care too much about what this girl thinks of you. In front of this woman, I became very careful about my words and deeds, always thinking about what I should say and what I should say to make her like me. This is a sign of caring too much about the results. Then some people don't understand and will ask, "I like this woman, of course I care about the outcome of the conversation with her, and of course I care about whether she likes me." How is it possible not to care?

When I say I don’t care, I mean I don’t care emotionally. For example, you like a girl. Of course, if you can attract her and make her like you, you will feel happy, but if you fail to attract her and make her like you, you will feel sad. If you think about it carefully, you have given the power to determine your mood to others. Every move of others, the glance they look at you, and their failure to text you back can all determine your mood. This is definitely not a characteristic of a charismatic man who attracts women. A man who can be manipulated by others is not a man who attracts women. We all know this from life experience.

Women are naturally sensitive to detecting such men. Women do have a so-called sixth sense, which most men don’t have and have never known about. However, this sixth sense can be cultivated and learned. We will talk about this later.

Here, what I want to say is that if you care too much about the results and are emotionally involved when talking to a woman, it means that the woman will realize that if her words and deeds can affect your mood, then she will Attraction to you, even if it existed before, will plummet. Because, for women, this is a sign that you can be manipulated by others. Women detect this signal unconsciously and automatically. This is a natural ability of women.

However, for many of our brothers, it is easy to say that we don’t care about talking to women, but it becomes difficult when we see that beautiful woman. I understand very well. I've experienced this too. Even though I have this knowledge consciously, I just can't do it in practice and can't control myself. In the end, I still didn’t know what I was talking about with her. After long-term teaching and practical research, I found a method that can solve this problem very well.

For now, I will call this method Chuanqing.

There are two types of words, one is shallow level and the other is deep level. The shallow level is easier to learn and is very suitable for beginners. When chatting with women and you don’t know what to say next, this shallow level keyword technique is very useful. However, those veterans who have experienced hundreds of battles should have been doing this unconsciously, because after all, this is a very simple normal conversation and exchange; at a deeper level, it seems very simple but involves the manipulation of the other party's emotions, and is powerful. It's very big and should not be used indiscriminately without knowing the consequences. Only socially responsible people with a relatively mature mind can use it after you have accumulated considerable experience in social conversation, have a deeper understanding of people, and are mentally mature. Otherwise, it will be fun and powerful at the beginning, but later it will definitely become an obsession and will never be a joke.

The levels of conversation building relationships and emotions are divided into 4 levels. 1 to 3 are shallow level words. Level 4 is a deep-level conversational connection.

1． Simply agree or sigh. This is the last word said by most of our brothers who don’t know what to talk about next, and we don’t know what to say after that. For example,

The woman said, "I am so tired from class/work today."

The man said, "Really, take a good rest."

In this case, if the woman doesn’t speak, the man won’t know what to say next. After saying, "Yeah, let's take a good rest." The man began to think about what to say next. However, this sentence "Really, take a good rest." is a very normal conversation and will also increase the relationship a little bit. But start learning the next level of conversation.

2. Keyword Tips. The second level is to grasp a certain keyword in speaking to the Fa, and then talk about yourself or others based on this keyword. This conversation goes one step further than the first level.

For example,

The woman said: "I am so tired from going to class/work today." (The key words here can be, I am so tired from going to work/class, you can do whatever you want. Choose one, or both.)

The man said: "Really, it's like I didn't go to work today." (Seize "work" as the keyword, you can also use "class", and then Tell me a story about yourself at work.

Women, including you, will also be curious. After you say this, you will leave the other party with many questions and ask you questions. )

The woman asked: "Why do you go to work as if you didn't go to work?"

The man said: "(You can just tell me something about you going to work) I went to attend a meeting this morning. The intern’s graduation ceremony was held at a restaurant on Nanjing Road. I didn’t arrive at the office until 4 p.m. and got off work at 5 p.m.” (This simple little story about you created a lot of questions for women, such as, what? Intern, what school did you go to for dinner at Nanjing Road? etc. Women are more likely to ask you naturally and continue the conversation. At the same time, note that here are women asking men questions. It means that a woman is interested in what a man says. If she asks too many questions, she is interested in the man. She will ask because she is interested in what the man says.)

The woman asked: "What?" The school’s intern, the graduation ceremony is still on the road to Nanjing?”

The man continues...

Of course, if there is an abnormal situation, the woman does not ask. At this time, according to the above There are many open topics to pick up and talk about again. For example, a man can ask, "Did you be lazy yesterday, so you have to do more at work today?" Or a man can continue the topic he mentioned above and continue talking about the intern, etc.

To give you an example of keywords,

Woman: This coffee is not very tasty. (Keywords: coffee, not tasty)

Man: (Use the coffee keyword) This coffee does not boil for enough time. It is about 5 minutes behind. If it is boiled for 5 more minutes, it will be Top quality.

(After saying this, the woman is left with room for questions: Do you know a lot about coffee? How do you know it? Why do you know it? Why do you think it will be top quality if you bake it for 5 more minutes? etc. . After you answer any question, she will ask you more questions. The topic will be endless, and it is impossible to have no topic to talk about.)

You can also use it. "Delicious" is the key word. The man said: "Have you ever drank a drink called Hongle?" The worst drink I've ever had.

(After saying this, the woman is left with space for questions: What is Hongle? What does it taste like? Where did you drink it? Why did you drink it? Why have I never drank it myself? )

Here I give you something: I made up the Hongle drink myself. I used to joke about this with women, saying, this is a small island in South America called Nigua. The original name of viva de cheeva is viva de cheeva. My friends and I call it red music because it tastes like low-quality red wine and flat Coke.

This is the keyword technique. To put it simply, take out a key word in the other person's words, and talk about yourself or something else, a sentence, a question, etc. around this key word. In the training class, I ask students to do a lot of various exercises to practice this keyword technique to speed up their mastery of this technique. For those of you who haven’t practiced yet, just take every opportunity you have to talk to others to practice this skill, especially beauties. There is nothing wrong with this technique, it just means continuous practice after understanding and mastering it.

3． Word Block Opportunism Technique. Just

Man: Besides dancing, what else do you like?

Woman: I am very interested in photography.

Man: Really. Like Lebowitz or something like that or more like Mancat or something? (Here is the use of the block opportunism technique)

Woman: Oh, more like Mancat or something! (The woman feels she has found a soulmate and is excited. The two find the same topic and start a marathon chat.)

The opportunistic technique of talking blocks is to focus on a topic and drop a little "color" to make the other party feel You have the same topics, interests, etc. Having the same topics, having the same interests and hobbies equals an intimate upgrade in the relationship. The conversation block is a channel for deepening and upgrading the relationship.

Let’s continue to read... We will continue to deepen and expand the scope of the above conversation.

Man: Interesting. Have you ever heard the saying that a picture is worth a thousand words?

Woman: I’ve heard of it!

Man: Maybe it’s just me, but I think a photo is equal to a thousand feelings. When I look at a painting or a photo, what usually impresses me the most is that the photo can The feeling it gives me. Reminds me that they had to use a camera to capture this scene, because there are no words to express the feeling that this scene is trying to convey...

Woman: Wow! ...

This conversation goes deeper than keywords and involves the communication of feelings and emotions.

Okay, that's all. Good luck to you