Love is opposed by parents. What kind of sadness is behind such a relationship?

Love is opposed by parents. What kind of sadness is behind such a relationship?

An An has been in love with her boyfriend for three years. They are first loves. How bumpy the road to love is when parents disapprove. She is a frank northeastern girl. She would tell her boyfriend what made her uncomfortable and then they would work it out together. My boyfriend’s family is urging me to get married. He went to see his parents with a face and his parents were very satisfied. Both people are very happy. When An An arranged everything and brought her boyfriend home, her parents came up with the idea of ??making him their son-in-law. When An An heard this idea, she was surprised. She had no idea that her parents would have such feudal ideas.

But I don’t care much about faces. After all, her parents usually love her very much. If anything happens, just act coquettishly and let it pass. But this time, my parents had a tough attitude and refused to give in at all. They always talked about the benefits of "son-in-law" to their faces. An An is impatient. Now she has been patiently talking to her parents for a long time but has not seen the results she wanted. He went back to the room angrily and slammed the door. The parents never expected that their daughter would become like this. Seeing my daughter so stupid in the room. From the parents' point of view, they were afraid that An An would be wronged after getting married, and they did not want to separate their daughter from themselves, but they ignored An An's feelings. Parents always hope that all the choices they make will give their children the best return, but they often choose the wrong way. I was frozen for three or four days, hiding in my room while working. The parents still love and protect their daughter and make concessions, but still insist on keeping their child safe.

An An chatted with her parents for a long time. Knowing they wouldn't budge this time, she reluctantly agreed. I told my boyfriend about this when I went to see him that evening. The boyfriend then refused. She can completely understand her boyfriend's mood now, but her parents have no room for maneuver and can only do her boyfriend's ideological work. The two chatted for a long time, and the boyfriend knew from An Ran's story that she worked hard, but to no avail. After thinking about it, my boyfriend felt that the child had nothing to do with Anyang. It's their child anyway. He finally agreed, but didn't tell his parents. Everything was going in a good direction, and An's heart was relieved, and she breathed a sigh of relief quietly.

The parents of the two families have not met yet, but there seems to be no surprise on their faces. On the way to work, An An saw a wedding photography shop that she had always liked. After discussing with my boyfriend, we decided to take wedding photos in Sanya for a month. The parents of the two families got to know each other quickly and had a great time chatting. Unexpectedly, at the end of the conversation, the two families started to quarrel and get into trouble. An An knew that her boyfriend did not mention his parents' surnames. In this situation, she didn't know what to do and had to go home with her parents first.

Two days later, her boyfriend broke up with her. Due to the request of An An's family, her boyfriend's parents were very angry. Now I am firmly opposed to two people being together. An An often calls her boyfriend, but her boyfriend says this. "My parents said that if your parents agree with the child's last name and mine, they will agree to this matter. An An had to go home to discuss it with her parents, but her parents completely disagreed. An An was upset and quarreled with her parents. As a result, she ran out alone. After that, An An suffered from insomnia and couldn't eat. Her parents really couldn't bear it. They took the initiative to find the man's parents, but flatly refused, saying that they had already prepared a new partner for the man.

Originally happy. The marriage resulted in heartbreak for both of us. Growing up, our parents’ opinions were very important to us. Today, when we grow up to encourage free love, many people’s thoughts are also affected by the idea of ??“doing everything for yourself”. The words always ring in our ears. In the love for their children, all parents hope that their children will have a good living environment. We often meet people who think that "people who are opposed and broken up by their parents are not loved enough." People who break up after listening to their parents choose to compromise because they don't want to hurt their parents. But in fact, it is very important to be filial to your parents and listen to your inner voice. You cannot regard marriage as everything. There are differences. In the face of such differences, communication and understanding are particularly important. "Use actions to prove that you are suitable." When love is in trouble, actions often speak louder than words.