The second-married woman talks about her sadness (the second-married woman’s post-marriage remarks)

Article | Xueluo Wuchen

After going through marriage, divorce, and remarriage, Yu Xiao finally understood her true emotional needs.

Only after she got divorced and remarried did she realize that who you will spend the rest of your life with is already destined.

Yu Xiao is a straightforward woman. Once she knows what she wants, she no longer engages in unnecessary entanglement and simply requests a divorce from Xiao Yuan.

"You have finally made up your mind. I thought you would have to struggle for a while before making a decision. You brought it up so quickly and let the boot upstairs fall early, which made me feel at ease." ."

Xiao Yuan didn't seem surprised at all that his wife Yu Xiao proposed divorce to him. It seemed that he had expected the matter and was calm and calm.

To put it bluntly, it seems that Xiao Yuan, a husband, doesn't care at all whether his wife Yu Xiao stays or goes.

Doesn’t it feel quite hurtful? After all, the two have been married for four years together and conceived their children together. How could they be so heartless and unjust?

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In fact, Xiao Yuan and Yu Xiao can really be called a model couple in the eyes of outsiders.

The two rarely quarreled or quarreled. They seemed to have a good relationship and were quite loving. No one was betraying the other, so why couldn't they live together?

Outsiders may be puzzled by this, but Yu Xiao and Xiao Yuan, who are in the game, both understand the reasons for their success.

When the two of them first fell in love, they looked at each other through high-power filters. Even if the other person had completely different personalities and ideas from me, they thought it was okay and thought it would be good to complement each other.

But after the two got married and had children, and experienced the trials and tribulations of life together, they realized that some differences were like a huge gap, so wide that neither of them could cross it no matter how hard they tried.

Xiao Yuan has a laid-back temperament. He doesn't like competition and competition, and he has no career ambitions. He usually works in the workplace just to make a few taels of silver and support his family. He really doesn't have any big pursuits.

Drinking tea at work, reading leisurely books, playing chess with neighbors after get off work, chatting about mountains, bragging, raising fish, and growing flowers. The age of thirty-something and the lifestyle of eighty-year-old are just the picture. A comfort.

Yu Xiao is different from Xiao Yuan. She always feels that time is running out and she wants to do something to reflect her own value and have a sense of life satisfaction.

So, in addition to being busy with work during the day, Yu Xiao also had to take online courses after get off work at night, study economics by herself, and made several thick notebooks of notes.

It is difficult for Yu Xiao, who is so diligent and motivated, to have the same topics to talk about as Xiao Yuan, who pursues comfort.

Usually, one is studying hard in the study and inspiring life, and the other is staring at the short video on the screen of his mobile phone in the living room, haha.

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If two people can do their own thing without interfering with each other, it’s okay for them to do their own thing, but a motivated person hates others wasting their time. Yu Xiao can’t stand Xiao Yuanzheng. Tian is degenerating with the "milk bottle" of adult entertainment in his mouth.

Yu Xiao asked Xiao Yuan to learn something during the eight hours after get off work. Don’t waste your time. Don’t make jokes while working. Do your job well and strive for promotion and salary increase.

Xiao Yuan was unwilling to listen, let alone do this. He felt that the most important thing in life was happiness.

Whether it’s working hard to make more money or working hard to get a promotion, isn’t it all about making yourself happy? He is happy even if he doesn't do this, so why bother himself? Isn't that stupid?

Yu Xiao didn't feel like she was stupid. She had been working hard since she was a child. In order to make herself better and stronger, she overcame many difficulties and felt particularly fulfilled.

She does not want to be a "salted fish" herself, nor does she want her husband to be a "salted fish". She hopes that the two of them will work together to become people that they can be proud of.

Unfortunately, no one wants others to impose her will on themselves, and it is impossible to change the other person in marriage. Xiao Yuan felt that the two of them would not live together for a long time.

Before getting married, Yu Xiao felt that Xiao Yuan had an optimistic personality and could not take anything to heart, which was good. Moreover, he still had a childlike innocence and could watch ants moving for a long time and found it interesting.

After getting married, Yu Xiao discovered that their life goals were so different that conflicts and disputes suddenly arose.

Xiao Yuan hopes to live in the present and be comfortable and happy; but Yu Xiao wants to seize every day and strive hard to give life more possibilities.

In the final analysis, the two had different life concepts and could not live together. It was Yu Xiao who had the courage to stop their marriage in time, so as to avoid having to fight each other ferociously one day.

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The divorce was stopped in time, and the two of them could get together and relax without breaking up and hurting their relationship. It was good as it was now.

"Go and work on your career. Don't worry about the child. I will take good care of him. If you miss the child, you can visit him at any time."

Xiao Yuan He doesn't say bad words after divorce and helps his ex-wife solve her problems. He can be called the best ex-husband in the world.

"Thank you, Xiao Yuan.

I know you love your child more than me, and you will definitely take good care of him. For this, I will always thank you!"

Yu Xiao also sincerely thanked her ex-husband Xiao Yuaneng. Help her take good care of the child.

If there is any regret, the thing that Yu Xiao can’t let go of is her child. She feels guilty for her child and cannot give him a complete family.

There is no way, you can’t have your cake and eat it too

After the divorce, Yu Xiao made great strides in her career. She quit her nine-to-five job and returned to her hometown to open a B&B. , attracting guests from all over.

Yu Xiao’s hometown has beautiful mountains and rivers. There is a river in front of her B&B house and a mountain behind the house. There are large peach blossoms planted on the mountain. Every spring in March, the grass is really delicious. The fallen flowers are colorful and beautiful!

In order to live up to the beautiful scenery, Yu Xiao taught herself photography. The scenery she took of the B&B not only promoted the B&B to the outside world, but also won a grand prize in the photography competition, gaining both fame and fortune. .

This is nothing, Yu Xiao helps the villagers find a way to get rich, making local specialties and snacks, and Yu Xiao helps sell them through the Internet to promote local economic development.

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While receiving the government award, Yu Xiao met Cui Junyi, a man who was more powerful than her.

The two of them were very compatible and interested in each other. Yu Xiao could marry freely. Cui Junyi was never married at all. He was a golden bachelor, fell in love with each other, and soon got married.

Unlike Yu Xiao and her ex-husband Xiao Yuan, who didn't talk much when they were together, Yu Xiao and her husband didn't talk much. Current husband Cui Junyi stays together, and the two have endless topics to talk about.

Cui Junyi's food factory is large in scale and very profitable, and he is a large local taxpayer.

Cui Junyi himself. He is particularly diligent and studious. He has studied in a famous foreign university and has rich theoretical and practical experience in running a business. In Yu Xiao's eyes, he is like a treasure trove of knowledge.

Yu Xiao lacks specific management experience, and Cui Junyi has no specific management experience. He has given her a lot of guidance and has benefited her a lot. She is grateful and admires her husband Cui Junyi.

She feels that her husband Cui Junyi is the only person in the world who can hold her. < /p>

In front of him, Yu Xiaocai felt at ease, not feeling tense, and very relaxed, because there was someone to lead us forward together instead of fighting alone

Every night, the two of them were together. After a busy day's work, people read books and discuss issues together in the study room. Even if they don't speak to each other, they will be very relieved to see each other when they look up.

There is a like-minded lover who understands them. It was great to be together, and Yu Xiao was conquered by Cui Junyi, who was much better than her in career.

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Everyone has a "strong" mentality, especially Yu Xiao. , she has liked boys who are better at studying than she has been since she was a child. Her crushes in school were basically the best in study.

After experiencing marriage, Yu Xiao understands her emotional needs better. She likes men who can surpass her in every aspect, but this does not mean that Yu Xiao is powerful.

Just because she is not greedy for the money and fame brought to her by a strong man like Cui Junyi, she simply wants to find a lover and ally who can overcome obstacles and ride the waves with her.

This is Yu Xiao's emotional need. This need comes from the kind of person she is. The partner she is looking for in love and marriage is the epitome of herself.

She was very lucky that she made the right choice and found the right person after going around a lot.

This is also the post-marriage speech of Yu Xiao, a second-married woman: If your marriage is unhappy, divorce as soon as possible, otherwise you will not meet the right person.

So, who you will spend your life with has already been decided. It is useless to think about it, so it is better to work hard.

The "destined" mentioned here is actually telling us that the partner we really want to find in marriage actually depends on what kind of person we are, or what kind of person you will attract. people.

In the final analysis, whether we are getting married, divorced or remarried, we all need to know enough about marriage and understand what marriage means, so that we can avoid being impulsive when choosing a partner. Wrong person.

If you want to understand marriage comprehensively, then read the book "The Psychology of Marriage".

This book will tell us, what is marriage, and what does it mean to be a husband and wife? How can two people live a good life together? And what kind of conflicts and problems we will encounter in married life, etc.

Only when we have enough understanding of marriage and are confident enough before entering into marriage, we will usually have a greater chance of happiness and it will be easier to live a good married life.

In any case, marriage has never been a child's play. If you don't want your marriage to encounter too many setbacks, then read this book. I believe it can help you understand marriage and then manage it well.