Some old people know that money belongs to their children after death, but why do they just cling to it at ordinary times?

Every child has a different attitude and support to his parents. If the child is filial, it is all the same to give it early and late. ...

If it's a cold-blooded and selfish child. The sooner the elderly donate their money and things, the harder their old age will be. ...

I remember hearing a story about the past when I was a child:

An old couple has a man, a woman and two babies. The old man married his daughter one after another and gave all his savings to his son to marry his wife. After marriage, the old man didn't even have the money to buy rice. Daughter-in-law is cruel and ignores the elderly. Two old people have to work for them. In the evening, sometimes the daughter-in-law gives them some rice soup when she is happy ... The two old people have a hard time. ...

My daughter went back to her mother's house to see the situation, and she was half dead with anger (to make a long story short). Seeing that her parents' life was too hard, she came up with a solution. ...

A few days later, the daughter left, and the two old people knew exactly what time the daughter-in-law and son got up at night to go to the toilet. After a few days, the daughter-in-law and son also found that the two old people always went to the market to buy cooked food to eat, and when they came back, they also bought this and that and hid them in their own homes. In the middle of the night, the old couple whispered in their room, wondering. One night, they sneaked up the window and saw two old people sitting on the kang with a small wooden box in front of them. The old people took out silver ingots one by one.

The next day, the daughter-in-law made a lot of delicious food and sent it to her parents' house. Parents directly refused, saying that they didn't want to eat too greasy ... The daughter-in-law thought, of course not, and went to the market to buy delicious food every day. ...

Angry, he went back to the house to discuss with his son and directly asked his parents about the situation. Parents don't hide it, saying that these hundreds of taels of silver were left by their ancestors, and they are going to do some business for their son after he gets married. Later, when they saw that their daughter-in-law and son were not filial to us two old people, they simply dug it out of the backyard and ate whatever they wanted for the rest of their lives and lived hard. ...

Hearing this, the daughter-in-law and son immediately knelt down and said, give them the money, and they will be good to their parents. The parents refused directly, saying that they didn't believe them, and the young couple kowtowed and agreed.

The parents asked the young couple to find their sister and village head. After they came, the old man and the village head explained that this box of gold ingots was temporarily kept by the village head. If the daughter-in-law and son took good care of their parents before the old man died, the old man wrote a personal letter. After the death, the village chief took out 70 ingots for his son and 20 ingots for his daughter ... The village chief immediately agreed, and the daughter said her share. If her brother does well, she would rather give them all to him. ...

As a result, everyone can guess. ...

From that day on, the old man lived the life of the emperor's father. After his death, the village chief gave the box to the young couple. When the young couple got it, they saw the ingot. Look carefully, they are all very realistic tin ingots (specifically, my sister melted her tin pot, tin bowl and tin wax table to make ingots).

After reading the personal letter again, there is only one sentence: if you really raise the old man well, you will be happy, you will be respected by people around you, and set a good example for your next generation. If it's just for my treasure, take it, keep you two old, or call your own children. ...

Therefore, the wealth and things in the hands of the elderly should not be squandered. Maybe you have to rely on them to spend your old age.

Tell you a story. My uncle has three sons and one daughter during menstruation, and the children are all older. After marriage, all three sons married their daughters-in-law. The old couple had to live apart from their son. Later, my uncle opened an oil mill in partnership with others, with tens of thousands of dividends every year. My uncle gave money to his three sons. It's no use opposing menstruation. A few years later, the problem came and all three sons became suspicious.

Although the old couple did not have this kind of heart, they thought so in their hearts and buried resentment. Five years later, my uncle fell ill and needed to be hospitalized. The three sons were so depressed that they refused to pay. Later, under the mediation of my minor menstruation, they were sent to the worst hospital for treatment. During my uncle's hospitalization, my three sons went to the oil mill like wolves to divide the accounts, totaling more than 90,000 yuan, which was neatly divided by them, leaving no money for my uncle's menstruation.

It is not difficult to see from the above facts that Mi Dou did make many enemies. The most bottomless thing in this world is the human heart, and the blood relationship of heavy kissing is also destroyed in the desire for money. In the days to come, Uncle Menstruation's life will be even more difficult. His three sons will have to move within ten days of the expected date of delivery, rain or shine, without delay. At first, if you don't give a penny, or give less, and leave enough old-age security, this situation may be much better.

Older people should leave a way out for themselves. Although you love your children, your love is limited. You love them. Do you know they love you? Most of the money is gone, and the shallow love has faded. It is also a kind of wisdom to leave a love for yourself and hold the heart of hope.

There may be a phenomenon around us, that is, many elderly people around us are very rich in their later years and have a lot of money in their hands. However, there are always some old people who are never willing to give their money to their children, even though they know in their hearts that their inheritance will still be given to their children after a hundred years. Even so, they still hope to keep their money when they are alive.

There is such a real case around me. My best friend's uncle, who is nearly 60 years old, has two sons and two daughters and is quite rich. But life in the early years was really hard, and being a soldier suffered a lot. Later, he struggled to this better life step by step. He may be a typical example of what we call obsession with money. Not only did he not give money to his children, but the children also gave him part of the money they usually earned. Of course, his children never complained. Then we wondered why this uncle was so rich and so old that he didn't want to give money to his children. To put it mildly, after his death, the money still belongs to his children. Let's analyze why this phenomenon occurs.

In fact, the reason may be that on the one hand, the older generation may have suffered too much, so they also know that the money they earned all their lives is really hard-won, so they feel that only by grasping it tightly can they feel at ease. If you gave it generously to your children before your death, you may still be worried that your children don't know how to cherish and spend money, which is really a waste of their hard-earned money.

On the other hand, it may also be because there are many examples of children not supporting the elderly in society, so the elderly are also worried that if they have no money, get sick, or need to do something, they will trouble their children. Filial piety is fine, they may help their parents without saying anything, but some unfilial people may delay doing it. In this way, the old parents will definitely feel uncomfortable. It's best to have money in your hand, and you don't have to worry about this and that, and you don't have to worry about not getting support or anything, so you can live comfortably.

Generally speaking, old people have their own ideas. Maybe they value money too much, or they worry too much. But as children, we should respect them. After all, they earned the money themselves, and they will leave it to us as children in the end. Therefore, before our parents die, we should not always care about these things, and hope that our parents' healthy and happy life is our greatest happiness.

I really don't understand how such an old man thinks. My mother-in-law is such a person. That is, we get money to save money every month, and then get money to save money. In addition to giving each of the four grandchildren 100 yuan on the first day of the first month of each year, she usually spends money on cutting her hair, and we won't spend any more money. Our sister-in-law takes the initiative to buy her clothes, shoes and socks all year round, including the money for breakfast every day, and we have to give her money to buy a bag of salt occasionally. She is an educated old man. We don't understand her. Money is just a number to her. Let her go!

I once met such a young man whose father was reluctant to spend his pension. After the son's house was divided, he told his father sweetly that I bought a house. Father married Fannie and Freddie, reluctant to give the money to Fannie and Freddie, so he stole it to his son and daughter-in-law wholeheartedly. That daughter-in-law's mouth looks like honey. During that time, she walked around the old man every day, which almost made him dizzy: dad was long and dad was short. Later, the old man came down and called to say that his son and daughter-in-law should pay off the bill this year. Give me some money so that I can have this house. Do you know that?/You know what? The phone was able to get through at first, but it couldn't get through at last. As a result, the old man's house was not built well, so he had to ask for low-rent housing. This is why the old man's money belongs to his children sooner or later, but why not let go? So who will give him a pension after he is released? I didn't get the money. It was mom and dad. Who are you as soon as you get the money? There used to be a famous saying in the northwest: parents

Your heart is in the child, and the child's heart is in the stone. Why on the stone? There is a legend that the currency at that time was not copper coins and silver. Silver, in particular, looks like stone. The story goes like this: once there was an old woman who was widowed when she was young and worked hard to raise her only son, but the daughter-in-law she married was not filial to her. Later, a kind-hearted man had an idea to let the old man put some pebbles in the pillow and put them on the pillow under his head. Don't tell me, that particularly cunning daughter-in-law saw that the pillow under her mother-in-law was bulging, and she wondered if the old lady had saved money. Well, after that, the daughter-in-law was very kind to the old woman. It was not until the old man was abandoned to retire that he opened it and everyone knew what was inside. Therefore, few children in the world have said that they should give priority to serving their parents and always put money in the position of 1. Which old man is willing to give money to his children first when they are healthy before their death? Then give it to the children. If the old people are seriously ill now, the money may not be enough to stay in the hospital for a few days. Then let the child spit out the money. Which child will throw up? Old people have their own money, but they can also pay for hospitalization. If he asks the child directly, the child will not benefit. How much will he give? To put it bluntly, you have to gamble and put it on your deathbed.

So in any case, don't touch your upper lip and say that your parents' money will be ours sooner or later. Why not give it before you die? Then I want to ask: do parents owe us the kindness of raising? We are so demanding and fair to our parents, so what have we done for them?

To sum up, I'm not bragging about how filial I am, but what I said in the above article is true, which is also the consensus of many people. I think his parents' money is quite generous. It is his own will to give it to any child with difficult conditions. If you don't give it to us, you can't have it. Because sometimes parents depend on their children's filial piety to distribute their inheritance. So if you want to inherit his legacy, you should be filial to him. Don't wait for the old man to lie in the hospital, nobody cares! Don't wait for the old man to lie in the coffin, and the children will ignore the old man's body for the sake of inheritance! The story of a child who wants to raise but doesn't want to stay with relatives is one after another. Some people say that moral kidnapping is not allowed, so parents should not be bound by morality. What did you say to me? Some people will say: ethics, filial piety, affection. So, don't these belong to moral category?

This article does not include filial sons and daughters.

I am old and have no money, but I want to say why people still have money when they are old. The first time they gave all their money to their children, they gave up. Can I get it back after using it? Second, do you want to distribute the money or do you have the final say? Third, if you have no money, who will recognize you? I know an old man who is retired with a salary of over 8,000 yuan. His wife is several years younger than him. My wife turned me and my children around, and no one took care of the old man. Where to eat is up to my wife. I don't smoke, play cards, and don't want to drink. I say it's bad for my health, so I take my old age card with me and accompany my wife to buy food and bask in the sun every day.

I can probably understand that my mother-in-law is withholding money. Only when she doesn't take it out with us, in fact, we both have jobs and the income is not bad. It never occurred to us to ask the old man for money. I didn't know why I couldn't get in or out before. After all, I am an only child. Later, she let it slip and realized that her money had to be given to her grandson from her hand, not through us, otherwise it would probably be cheaper for my daughter-in-law, so that the money could always belong to their family. Oh, come on, relax. My husband also said that all my money would be given to my son in the future. No problem. His mother did the right thing. It's right to think about it. It just makes people feel uncomfortable. My daughter-in-law has always been a foreigner.

It is true that old people are reluctant to spend money. My father and mother are the same. The two of them never went out to buy their favorite food, but they all bought it home to cook for us children. Sometimes there is something delicious that they can't bear to eat. They said, your elder sister, second sister and third sister came to eat on Sunday. Speaking of which, I choked! The inheritance wind is really bad! My parents are like this. Usually, it is common for us to eat together. Often on weekends when my sisters come, my father goes to the market to buy vegetables, sea cucumbers, seafood, ribs, chicken ... all at once. When I got home, I thought of cooking, frying and stewing for our sisters, such as fried sea cucumber with green onions, sweet and sour prawns, stewed chicken with mushrooms, spicy chicken pieces ... I prepared the menu early on holidays. My father is a retired veteran cadre. In order to enliven the lives of veteran cadres, the unit can go to the university of veteran cadres to learn a hobby every year. My father signed up for photography classes, cooking classes, calligraphy classes and so on. Sometimes our neighbors, my father and my colleagues, classmates and friends come to my house to play, and my father wants to stay for dinner. "Shugan Decoction" is our neighbor Xiaowan's favorite. Looking back now, Xiaowan is unforgettable! My dad never smokes or drinks all his life, but most of his friends who come here will drink, and my dad will accompany him to the end with a small wine cup. My mother has worked hard all her life and is reluctant to spend money. My mother's housework comes first, whether it's steaming steamed bread, rolling noodles or wrapping jiaozi, it's a good dish, and wrapping jiaozi, rolling skin and wrapping jiaozi is the first in my family. My three sisters can't catch up with my mother alone, and my mother's charming children are wrapped up, like the beautiful face of Jin Yuanbao. Every weekend, elderly parents and sisters will pack a lot of jiaozi and freeze it. They can eat whatever they want. My father and mother have been ill for many years. Think about the scenes when mom and dad were alive ... vividly. May my parents in heaven be healthy and happy! Your children, grandchildren, grandchildren's daughters-in-law, nephews, nephews and daughters-in-law are all healthy, happy and fine! Mom and dad, our sisters have inherited the fine traditional virtues of our family, unity and friendship, mutual help, harmony, and children! The family is thriving!

Tell a sad story first: my aunt's four children, my uncle died after retirement; Uncle and aunt have houses in Jinhua, and children have houses and cars in different places after graduating from college; My elder sister-in-law was in poor health, and her children refused to take her to provide for the aged, so she was admitted to a nursing home. Later, she sold the house and her children asked her to distribute the property in advance, but my other uncles and aunts said that these were unfilial descendants, so don't move. When they are seriously ill and need money, they should be tested for their virtue and given to their children when they really ascend to heaven. After she was critically ill this year, the two daughters took turns to take care of her and didn't share the property until after her death.

Second, I used my high school holiday to work to supplement my family. After work, I also support my mother. She fell ill many times, and she paid for it until her death.

Third, the concept in my mind has always been that children grow up to provide for the elderly. So, I scraped together enough integers to let my boyfriend buy wealth management in his name. His parents' pensions add up to tens of thousands, and once they gave me 20 thousand. I said: I dare not discount my happiness with the old man's money. I can only give you. Really, I refused.

Why is there such a big difference in family education? I think it's all the fault of a group of old people who raised their children as "ancestors" before. You should reflect on yourself.

Because they are poor. Really poor.

That kind of poverty, that kind of hunger, that kind of lack, that kind of insecurity has been integrated into their blood and penetrated into their bone marrow. No matter what the current conditions are, they are always so "searching". Because they were afraid, "they worked hard for decades and returned to before liberation overnight."

I discussed this topic with my leader. Because both our mothers belong to this super frugal person.

My mother represents the rural elderly.

She lost her mother at the age of nine, married my father at the age of eighteen, and even borrowed the wedding bed.

My grandparents have five sons, and my father is the youngest. He gave 18 Jin of rice, and his brother above separated them.

One Spring Festival, the production team gave candy to my grandparents and parents. There were only three pieces of fruit candy for four people! My father was so angry that he almost threw away the sugar!

Every March and April, when the crops are not picked up, my mother will pick up Luo Dou and ask someone to borrow millet everywhere. After the autumn harvest, the rice was divided and almost half of it was gone.

After a year, you can only eat a little meat during the Spring Festival. Mother wants to make room for the elderly and children to eat. Only old people and children can eat pure white rice, and mothers have to eat corn rice and radish rice. It was not until the year when production quotas decided that my family would feed all the white rice. In the first year, I killed a Chinese New Year pig and insisted on eating meat!

After such a hard life, my mother formed the habit of thrift.

After the mother married her stepfather and went to town, for a long time, his stepfather led a meager pension to help the unit watch the gate and earn a second income. A mother helps someone raise a child to earn a third income. Then, it will be loaded into the unit warehouse to earn handling fees and earn the fourth income. A bag of 50 kilograms of chemical fertilizers and pesticides and a handling fee of 20 to 30 cents, they are reluctant to make this money. I also want to collect waste products and sell fertilizer bags as the fifth income!

Making money is so hard that my mother can't even eat a doll's head ice cream with 50 cents! I don't know what a doll's head tastes like for more than ten years!

It is under such diligence and thrift that we became the first rural intruders to buy commercial housing in this city! Although we have to have a place to live because we don't have a house, at least it saved us from the period of soaring house prices.

My mother, from the provincial capital, represents the old people in the city.

The parents of the leaders are all employees of the enterprise. It should be very comfortable for two people to work and three people to live.

First, her mother was laid off and became her father's breadwinner. Later, her father transferred from the city to the suburbs to work, just to get more subsidies.

Her mother does business and sells clothes on Qingnian Road. Theoretically, the income should be ok, but my leader said that she was not sure, and that kind of uncertainty always frightened her mother. She was afraid that her family would get sick, and the school urged money.

Even if you have income, you are still reluctant to spend money. When you buy something to eat, you always buy something cheap and big. As a result, leaders like eating best now, and always try their best to eat delicious food that they wanted to eat when they were young.

Even, in order to make her give up early and work early to earn money, her mother actually let her read only vocational high school, 17 years old to work! You know, the junior high school I lead is a famous provincial key high school!

Her mother is not only reluctant to spend money, but also desperately saves money. All kinds of saving money, saving money and buying a house. For example, in order to earn more interest on certificates of deposit, she even asked my leader to borrow money to make up the bill, saying that she was reluctant to move her unexpired certificates of deposit. In other words, she is not willing to sacrifice a little of her own interests, but she is willing to sacrifice a little of her daughter's interests, so she has come to this step!

Even, she took a lot of things with her when she went to the leader's house for the New Year. On one occasion, she even dug out half a bottle of my leader Shuang Shuang and left!

Is she poor? Not poor. More than 3,000 pensions per month, with at least 32 million deposits in hand, and at least three suites in the provincial capital collect rent.

However, she will always be a poor man in her bones and will never be satisfied with the poor.

So the result of our discussion is that this is not their fault, but the brand of the times.

What we can do is to take them to eat and drink as much as possible, because they obviously like delicious food, but they are reluctant to spend their own money.

Try to tell them that our economic conditions are ok and don't worry about the future.

I even bought a high insurance policy to ensure that my mother, as the beneficiary, will enjoy 30% compensation after I hang out, so as not to go to No Country for Old Men.

But even so, whenever I have to spend money, I spend money that my mother doesn't think is necessary.

My mother's mantra is still:

Are you really going to kick the money out for fun?