Young man, don't let your temper exceed your skills.

My little sister Jing, who was in charge of taking me in the internship, talked to me, the new intern she just took.

"The ability is not so good, but the temper is not small." That's what she said about interns.

I am also curious about what makes her usually gentle say such heavy things.

It turned out that she went out to run the scene a few days ago and asked the new intern to go with her, which was both helpful and knowledgeable.

As a result, the intern was very harmonious, followed him around the scene, then left without saying hello, and later let Sister Xiaojing have a good look.

Sister xiaojing called to ask where he had gone, and he replied that he had nothing to do with himself and went back first.

Sister xiaojing felt particularly speechless at that time, but because of her work, she didn't spend much time talking about him.

After the task was completed, Sister Xiaojing modestly told the new intern on WeChat that his performance that day was not very good, and asked him not to do this in the future.

"Whether you are free or busy, everyone should go back together. One is out of courtesy, and the other is out of a sense of responsibility. "

Sister Xiao Jing didn't say anything radical in her conversation with him.

"Well, I see." The intern answered after half a day.

"Don't do this next time." Sister Xiao Jing was afraid that he would be sad, so she specially matched several symbols of "love".

"It won't happen again, I won't do it again ..." The intern threw this sentence to Sister Xiaojing indifferently.

Sister Xiaojing thought that the intern was just blaming herself, so she typed a long string of words and wanted to communicate with him more.

As a result, at the moment Xiao Jingjie's message was sent out, WeChat showed "You are not his friend yet, please send a friend to verify ..."

Xiaojingjie said that she has been working for more than three years, which is the first time for an intern with "personality". This really opened her eyes.

I advised her not to care about ordinary couples, she said with a smile, there is no need.

Sister xiaojing said something, and I feel the same way. "It is good to have a temper, but you must give yourself the ability and capital to end your temper."

Now some young people are too impatient to stand a little criticism.

People with a big temper often think they are "cool", but they don't know that in the eyes of others, such behavior is actually quite stupid and naive.

Personality can be imperfect, but you have to know how to make the background color, so as not to be reduced to the five big three thick in the eyes of others.

02

This reminds me of a girl I know. Everyone calls her orange.

Sister orange is a senior one year older than me. She has graduated for a year now, but her job has changed n times.

How do I know? Because every time she goes to a new working environment, she will send a circle of friends to "encourage herself".

Once, I didn't mean to mention Sister Orange to another senior, and my evaluation of her was simple and rude.

"She is just an imbecile who can only lose her temper."

In fact, the senior is not aimed at her, but I get along well with this senior in private, and we are "outspoken" in front of each other.

When I graduated, Sister Orange and Senior Sister were in the same company. Because they are alumni, just entered the company and are unfamiliar with others, the two naturally become close.

But over time, orange sister's bad temper was exposed.

Going out for dinner, my aunt served a little late. If she happens to be in a bad mood, she will scold others from head to toe.

When life is not going well, she will take it out on her seniors. Although I will apologize afterwards, I can't take back those sad words I said.

At work, she claims tasks more actively than anyone else, and the error rate is higher than anyone else. The point is that she made a mistake, and her first thought was not how to make up for it, but how to lose her temper. Take it out on people around you.

After making a mistake, orange sister gave her boss a "fire" and then went to find her next home "smartly".

One to two, orange sister can't stand criticism every time because of her mistakes. After losing her temper, she packed up and left.

Nowadays, many young people are similar to orange girls: they have a lot of ability to make trouble, but they have no ability to clean up the mess. When they have a little trouble, they start to get angry.

"All human sufferings are essentially anger at their own incompetence."

I deeply agree with what Wang Xiaobo said.

Temper is greater than skill, in the final analysis, it is a sign of cowardice and incompetence. Those who only know how to lose their temper when something happens are actually just trying to hide their inner weakness with superficial toughness.

And those who are really strong inside never need to bluff with the help of the superficial noise. Their strongest self-confidence comes from their ability to do things.

A big temper is nothing to show off. Ability is a kind of strength.

03

Du once said such a sentence: "A master is capable and has no temper;" Middle class, capable and tempered; People with low self-esteem have a temper and no ability. "

As we all know, Du is a legend in the Republic of China. His legend is mainly embodied in two points.

His temperament. He is not a scholar, but he shows the elegant and noble temperament of a scholar. He has a variety of teachings, does not haggle over every ounce, and does not get angry easily. This is his character.

His position. From the social Yamaguchi group to the political man of the hour, black and white take all, travel around the country, and write a magnificent chapter in history. This is his skill.

Good character, cultivate temperament.

Very capable, capable of starting.

Du was born in Jianghu, but he was not as rough as Jianghu, and he was never arrogant to people. Great reputation, but modest attitude.

Have skill and character, but no temper.

French writer Dodd said: "Good temper is the best service a person can wear in social activities."

I was lucky enough to interview a fairly successful female entrepreneur, and now there are several international travel agencies in Xiamen.

She went from a small tour guide to the present position of founder.

She recalled that when she was young, she suffered a lot of "bad temper".

Once at the airport, I was torn apart by a joke with a taxi driver.

As a tour guide, she has developed a smooth tongue, so it is natural for her to quarrel.

In front of everyone, she severely scolded the rental master, which made him lose face.

She lost dozens of taxi drivers' tourists because she spoke fast. For a long time at the airport, she couldn't receive a guest and almost lost her job.

Finally she went back to apologize to the driver and calmed down.

She deeply tasted the consequences of her bad temper and slowly learned to control her bad temper.

She said that whenever she wanted to lose her temper, she would ask herself: Do you have the ability to clean up the mess afterwards?

She lost her temper after her brain calmed down.

It is good and rigid for young people to have a temper. Just, don't let your temper exceed your skills.

Otherwise, you have to turn around and smile in the end. Make a bigger joke.

Everyone has their own bottom line. What's inside the bottom line can't be touched, and what's outside the bottom line is what he needs to control.

Don't let the so-called "bad temper" block more possibilities in your life.

Life is not long and there are not many happy days. It's not cost-effective to let bad temper control this life.