What kind of thinking, what kind of life

Someone once asked in Zhihu, "What causes the gap between people?" One of the well-received answers is: "Different ways of thinking." Thinking determines the way out, thinking determines the height. A person's way of thinking is related to his way of dealing with people and the outcome of life. Only with the following five kinds of thinking can we move forward better on the road of life.

1。 Green light thinking

Once, Lincoln heard Edward Stanton, the Secretary of War, call him a fool. Lincoln didn't get angry, but calmly said to others, If Stanton calls me an idiot, I must be an idiot, because he almost never makes mistakes. I have to see for myself. After knowing the situation, Lincoln learned that he had given the wrong order, which led to Stanton's scolding. So, he went to see Stanton himself and quickly revoked his authorization.

Writer Cheng Jia put forward two concepts in his book Study hard.

When you hear someone else's advice, you will feel rejected without thinking, and think that the other person is picky. This is the so-called "red light thinking".

People with "green light thinking" will hold an open and inclusive attitude and let themselves learn from it.

Lincoln is a typical "green light thinking" person. Even in the face of questioning voices, he can listen rationally and benefit from it.

Think of Steve Jobs' famous saying: "I especially like working with smart people because I don't have to consider their dignity."

It is not that smart people have no dignity, but that they are more concerned about their own growth and can listen to different views with an inclusive attitude.

People who have opened the "green light thinking" will have more possibilities for growth and pass smoothly on the road of life.

2 turn thinking

In the Song Dynasty, a college hired a stonemason named Yu Tao to carve the statue of Confucius. When it was finished, I found that the eyes of the statue were not looking straight ahead, but looking down. The purpose of building this statue in the academy is to hope that students can study hard under the watchful eye of Confucius. So Yu Tao was asked to modify the eyes of the statue. Yu Tao was puzzled. The statue has taken shape. If you modify your eyes again, it will definitely destroy the overall aesthetic feeling.

After careful consideration, he said to the steward of the college: don't decorate your eyes, just carve a desk and a book and put it under the statue. Seeing that the sage is still studying, students have no reason to be lazy. Hearing this, the steward of the academy nodded. With desks and books, the statue becomes more charming and the people who come to pay homage are better than before. This is a trouble, but if you change your mind, things will get better.

In life, we often walk into a dead end if we are not careful.

At this time, blindly rampaging will only make you black and blue.

I have heard a saying: "Water can reach the sea because it can skillfully avoid all obstacles and keep turning around."

There are thousands of roads in life, and not all of them can reach the destination directly.

Knowing how to turn is a great wisdom. Only by changing your mind can you have a new way out.

People with turning thinking, without eternal difficulties, can always cope with all kinds of hardships on the road of life with change.

3 Narrow door thinking

There is a passage in the bible: "the door to destruction is wide, the road is big, and many people enter." The road to eternal life is narrow and small, and few people are looking for it. "

People always habitually choose wide doors, but the further they go, the narrower the road becomes.

And those who choose to enter the narrow door at first will have a wider road.

This is the famous narrow-door thinking.

I heard a story that a military academy held a soldier cross-country race.

On the day of the game, a young man had a high fever and couldn't get up all over.

Soon after the game started, he was left far behind the army.

Twenty minutes later, he came to a fork in the road. A sign on the road says "Soldier only". The road looks very tortuous and long.

The sign on the other road says "for officers only", which looks wide and flat.

The young man hesitated for a while, but chose the rugged path, but unexpectedly became the first person to reach the finish line.

Only the visible part of the original "officer-only" road is flat and open, and the road behind it becomes more and more difficult, while the "soldier-only" road is just the opposite.

There is a classic line in the Japanese drama "Problem Restaurant": "When you are confused, choose the hard road."

There is never a shortcut in this world, and even if there is, it is only a temporary illusion.

After a short period of beauty, suffering will be doubled.

Fools covet shortcuts, but wise men enter narrow doors.

Those top experts will always choose those difficult sections to cultivate their skills and improve their irreplaceable.

4 Track-changing thinking

I once saw an interview with Duan Chenglong, saying that when he first made his debut, he was not favored by the public.

He always dreamed of becoming the second Bruce Lee. In his early films, he often imitated Bruce Lee's fighting actions, but the box office ended in a dismal situation.

Mr. Gu Long bluntly said in front of everyone that his script was written for a handsome young man like John Chiang, and Jackie Chan was far from his chivalrous image.

However, Jackie Chan did not feel depressed. He changed the traditional martial arts movements and incorporated funny martial arts design into the film.

It is precisely because of this that a unique "road of kung fu comedy" has been opened up.

With Zhuyu in the front, Jackie Chan did not blindly walk into a dead end, but decided to become another Bruce Lee. Instead, he found another way and made his own way.

As the saying goes, "All roads lead to Rome."

Some people take yangguan road, others cross the wooden bridge.

When there is no way out, it is the key to break the game in time.

Changing tracks does not mean cowardice, but a mind and wisdom that knows how to choose.

Not every south wall is worth hitting.

Many times in life, letting go is more important than bearing.

Only by "changing track thinking" can we stop losses in time and reduce unnecessary self-consumption.

Broaden the trajectory of life, let yourself have more choices, and take a step further from success.

Match point thinking

Zhang Yimou was an ordinary worker before he became famous.

He worked in Xi 'an cotton mill for seven years before he got the enrollment opportunity of Beijing Film Academy.

But at that time, he was 28 years old, far beyond the school age.

Knowing that this was an opportunity to change his destiny, he wrote a letter to the Minister of Culture, expressing his strong desire to study.

And I will carefully organize my usually satisfactory photographic works into a book and send them out together.

After seeing this, the minister was moved by Zhang Yimou's talent and courage, granted him special permission, and suggested that the Film Academy make an exception to admit him, so that Zhang Yimou could realize his university dream.

He once admitted in an interview: "Being able to go to the Film Academy that year was an opportunity to change my life."

If he can't seize this opportunity, I'm afraid he can only be a textile worker all his life.

Grasping this key "match point", his life will have a chance to turn over against the wind.

This is match point thinking. When the game comes to a decisive moment, we must seize the opportunity to fight hard.

There are countless opportunities in life, some of which are irrelevant and some of which are crucial. If you catch them, you can reverse the roulette wheel of fate.

Buffett once said: "In his career of the past 40 years, only 12 investment decisions have made him where he is now."

A person with "match point thinking" is like a potential stock.

Even if they miss the opportunity, they can always try their best to usher in a turning point in their lives when the next match point comes.

Wang Wei, founder of SF Express, said:

A person's first success may be accidental, but if he can succeed for a long time, it must be unique. He may be different from others in thought and behavior. "

The height of thinking determines the height of life.

What kind of thinking a person has, what kind of fate he will have.

Only by constantly pushing down the wall of thinking can the road of life get wider and wider.