How will you live your life after 30?

Text | Jiapeng

It’s your own choice

Some time ago, I drove to pick up my nephew from kindergarten. When I was waiting at the traffic light, I saw a middle school student. An advertising sign holder who looked like a young man stood at the intersection wearing a mask. When the cars stopped at the red light, he held up the sign in his hand.

At this time, my nephew asked: "Why is he standing outside holding a sign on such a hot day? Why don't you go home and eat cold drinks while blowing the air conditioner?"

I returned : "He wants to work to make money and support his family, so he chooses to come out and hold signs."

"Then why doesn't he choose to work in a restaurant, supermarket, or toy store, where there is no need to show off his clothes?" "The sun." the nephew asked doubtfully.

He stands here, and this is his choice. The choice I am talking about is not the choice now, but the choice six months ago, or even a few years ago.

Where they want to stand now, or where they have to stand, are all decisions made before, coupled with their own efforts and the accumulation of time. It's not like you can do whatever you want at the moment.

I know that my nephew doesn’t understand much about what I said. However, many adults who have been around for a long time don’t seem to understand this truth at all.

Ninety percent of the young people in their twenties that I have met and heard from live in the dream of their own world every day and do not prepare cotton-padded clothes for tomorrow's cold winter.

Is it great to have a stable job?

I have been working for five years. Most of my colleagues, friends, or colleagues of friends think that it is great to have a stable job. At least they feel that they are better than those who have stable jobs. People who rely on their parents for survival are much better.

No matter what occupation they are engaged in, whether it is an administrative assistant or a technician, as long as they can make money to support themselves, and if they are good, they can also save some money to support their family, they feel that they have reached the ranks of white-collar workers.

As for how they will live after 30, they don’t know and are not worried, but they are sure that their future will be better than now.

However, in my opinion, although I have a fixed monthly salary, food and accommodation, and occasionally have dinner, go shopping, karaoke and other entertainment, there is almost nothing left every month, and even some If you are overdrafted, you will stay at home and rely on instant noodles to wait for next month's salary to be credited.

How different is this kind of life from that of prisoners? They have no personal freedom, but you do not have financial freedom, and you do not have the freedom to escape the prison and enjoy a variety of lives.

If you don’t have this understanding now, in 3 or 5 years, you will still be the same person you are today, living in your own cage, looking at the successful people outside the cage, driving luxury cars and living in A luxurious house or a life of high quality and taste, lamenting the injustice of the world.

I have considerable experience in my job

Everyone knows that IT practitioners are a high-paying industry, but it is also the most stressful industry. Especially for technicians, unlike doctors, their experience in monetization increases with age. The knowledge in the IT industry is updated too fast. Not to mention resting on their laurels, even if they sleep more than others, they will be left behind by others. What's more, How to talk about relying on experience to make a living.

"I have 5 years of working experience in the field of electrical equipment. Even if I resign immediately, I can find a better job quickly." A good friend said about his current job when chatting with me said dissatisfied.

I know his specific situation. We joined the company together. He worked very hard in the year before we started. I admire his attitude towards work and life. He is very positive and hard-working. However, after a year, he was frustrated. The influence of others slows down or even stops progress. He has had work experience over the years, but it can only be said that he has been living with the experience of the first year in the past five years.

Do you always do non-cumulative work but expect your boss to give you a salary increase? Does this phenomenon refer to you who are reading this?

Diligence is a necessary condition for success, please don’t rush around

The old Zen master’s disciples were very diligent, alms, washing vegetables, cooking, cleaning, chanting sutras and practicing exercises every day from morning to night I was busy all the time, but I was struggling internally and didn’t know what was wrong with me.

The master asked him to take an alms bowl to demonstrate to him, and put in walnuts, peanuts, sesame seeds, water, and salt in order (add some condiments to make eight-treasure porridge).

The apprentice seemed to be feeling something and said, "Let me make good use of my time. There will always be a squeeze, right?"

The master then demonstrated that adding salt first and then filling it with water would cause the water to overflow.

"If life is a bowl, when it is filled with things as big as sesame seeds, how can those big walnuts be put in?"

Diligence is necessary, but Before working hard, we must consider our priorities clearly. Life is short, and we should not fill our green years with trivial matters.

What is more important than diligence is thoughtfulness

A good friend with ideas, passion, and love for tossing received an interview invitation from his favorite company as he wished.

HR: "What is the book that has had the deepest impact on you, what is its content, and who is the author?"

My friend answered several points in the book, and then the author was Who can't remember.

HR: "What kind of movies do you usually watch, and what impact does it have on you?"

Friend: "I am usually busy with work and rarely watch movies."

What a high-sounding answer.

HR: "What are you obsessed with, and to what extent are you obsessed with it?"

Friend: "Besides work and reading some books, there is really nothing you are obsessed with."

< p> After the interview, he felt that his answer was a bit bad. As expected, he received a text message from HR on the way home: "After a comprehensive evaluation with your colleagues, you are not suitable for this job." He was unwilling to accept it and asked why.

"Insufficient depth and breadth of knowledge, lack of vision"

What a painful realization.

Where do you want to be after 30?

Can you afford a house, get married, get divorced, and be independent?

How many people in this age group have to face the annoyance of their parents getting older and going to the doctor, the various expenses after the birth of their children, and the embarrassing situation of being dissatisfied with the current career but having no courage to leave? .

In fact, we can completely avoid these embarrassments.

We only need to think deeply about the direction of our efforts now and move forward unswervingly.

Whether you are approaching 30 or over 30, it is never too late to make efforts to change. Many years later, you will be grateful to you for not giving up on yourself now.

You must develop at least two kinds of earning abilities, one is to work in a company, and the other is to earn money outside of work. Facing the rapidly changing market, we must enhance our brand value, not be led by the external economic environment, and develop the ability to withstand risks.

Deep thinking is more important than diligence

Prerequisites for deep thinking:

1. No matter how good the thing is, it doesn’t matter if you don’t like it. You have to find what you are willing to do. Only by doing things can you think better

2. Thinking is your own business. When I was in school, I always felt that studying for exams was for teachers and parents. After working, I realized that the gap between people is also Things gradually change after graduation, and those who regard studying as their own business will do well. Deep thinking is your own business. Everything is difficult at the beginning, but it will not be difficult after you take the first step and develop your own method.

3. The object of diligence must be the field you like. Jordan's achievements are inseparable from his fanatical love for basketball. If he were allowed to engage in football, he might also be very good, but he would definitely not have the achievements he has today. .

4. Thinking without determination will not only waste time but also make you feel more empty. If you don’t make up your mind and think today, your wasted youth will regret it sooner or later.

Methods of deep thinking:

1. Think more about a certain event, think, think, think, think, and then you will have your own thoughts. Bruce Lee once said: "You are not afraid of a person knowing 100 kinds of kung fu, but you are afraid of a person practicing a move 100 times. A hundred times of superficial taste is not as good as one time of in-depth thinking.

2. Multi-dimensional thinking cannot Think about the problem one-sidedly like a blind man touching an elephant, and try to look at the problem from multiple levels and angles.

3. Pursuing details is an attitude. If you don’t pursue details in everything, it will be difficult to be excellent.

4. Writing is to express your thoughts in words. You may not have any ideas at the beginning, but as you write, your ideas will open up. It will bring out the scattered knowledge points stored in different areas of the brain. , and then integrate your own words after writing, and the results of in-depth thinking will emerge.

The results of in-depth thinking

1. Get a conclusion that ordinary people don’t know. , can be cashed in, or can be promoted to a higher position. If you think about changing a process in actual work, you can save a considerable amount of costs, and the reward must be money or position gains.

2. Discover. Come up with your own selling points after work, and work hard to enhance your irreplaceability, thereby enhancing your bargaining power. If you realize that you can achieve something in photography, practice diligently, and your photos may be monetized. The skills may be taught to others through the Internet and can be realized.

3. Improve your depth of thinking about problems, communicate with others, and solve problems in the right way.

Three. Ten years old is not an embarrassing age, it is an age of prosperity and high spirits.

At this moment, I hope everyone will welcome it with a smile.