My girlfriend asked me for a gift of 120,000 yuan when I got married. What do you think of the sky-high price of the gift?

1. First, let’s explain what a betrothal gift is. Betrothal gift is a folk custom that originated from the Western Zhou Dynasty in my country.

The ancient book "Etiquette" said: "There are six rites in the evening, including receiving gifts, asking for names, accepting gifts, accepting invitations, asking for appointments, and personally welcoming." This was created in the Western Zhou Dynasty and was followed by all dynasties. The traditional custom of "six marriage rituals". Among the six rites, "nazhi" is the gift of betrothal wealth, which is equivalent to the "betrothal gift" we talk about now, and is also the source of the custom of "betrothal gift".

So I think betrothal gifts are acceptable, after all, this is China It is a traditional custom, but the amount depends on the family situation of the other party.

2. In recent years, with the development of the economy, the price of wedding gifts in rural areas has been rising, and even sky-high prices have appeared. In Luliang, it usually costs more than 100,000 yuan to get married, which makes many families overwhelmed and worried when they think about getting married.

One of my neighbors asked for a bride price of 120,000 yuan plus a house when they got married. This is the neighbor's family. Farmers, it is impossible to come up with so much money at once, and the two of them are in a free love relationship with a good relationship, so the boy's parents want their son to discuss it with the girl, can it be less?

But? The girl had no idea and told her parents, but the girl's parents disagreed.

In those days, the uncle and aunt had been borrowing money from others in a humble manner. In the past, they would have finished eating. I usually watch TV after dinner, but in the past few days, my aunt said that she was annoyed when she saw TV.

Later, she pieced together everything and finally got enough to help her son get married. , but in just a few days, I saw that they were much older and had more gray hair.

Therefore, I think it is okay to ask for a betrothal gift, but it must be reasonable and not overpriced, otherwise the price will become sky-high. It has become a high threshold for love, and traditional customs have become vulgar. I really don’t want to see marriage kidnapped by money. Everyone has a son. I hope you can put yourself in my shoes. Now you are asking for a lot of money. If What will you do if one day it is someone else's daughter's turn to ask you for a wedding gift?

3. It is a custom to ask for a "wealth gift" when getting married. Contrary to this situation, there is another practice of zero gift. A couple in Handan, Hebei Province were extremely disgusted with the practice of high-priced betrothal gifts in rural areas. They held a wedding with zero betrothal gifts. The bride said, "No betrothal gifts are needed because love cannot be bought. Marriage cannot be maintained by money. A happy life depends on yourself." "Create it with your own hands."

I do not advocate sky-high betrothal gifts, nor do I advocate zero betrothal gifts. After all, when a girl who has been raised for more than 20 years marries a man's family, a certain amount of betrothal gifts is a benefit to the woman's family. Respect.

4. I think that to break these bad habits about betrothal gifts, we must start from both the parties and the government. The parties must take the lead in saying no to sky-high betrothal gifts, and at the same time convey the thoughts of the new generation to their parents. Tell them that I will live happily even without the high bride price, so don’t worry.

The government should introduce some relevant policies, change customs, change the backward wedding concept in rural areas, and implement some measures to alleviate poverty and benefit farmers. policies to fundamentally change the economic status of farmers.