Does praise require innovation?

Only when there are new discoveries can there be good praise. In the process of interacting with others, especially in business dealings with customers, praise is important, but using the same compliments, or just using a few fixed words and fixed methods, will not achieve the effect of praise, and it is easy to use Life is boring. Because your words are too plain and fail to arouse the other person's emotions, it is impossible to win people's hearts.

In the process of praising others, some people often complain that they don’t know what to praise others because they seem too ordinary. But in fact, no matter how ordinary a person is, there must be something unique and shining that he can cherish, but others have not discovered it. Therefore, when praising others, you must be good at changing your perspective and discover the advantages that others have not discovered. Only by doing this can you be called a true compliment master.

A person may not have any special characteristics at work, but he is very good at playing billiards, or he sings well, etc. You can praise him, because few people will notice these small advantages. . As the saying goes: rare things are valuable. The rarer the content of your praise is to the praiser, the more valuable it is. It is a recognized fact that a girl is beautiful, just by chance. You find that this girl has a pair of cute little tiger teeth, so you praise her, then she will be very happy.

During the Spring Festival, Xiao Li’s uncle who lived in the countryside took his 5-year-old child Maomao to stay at Xiao Li’s house for a few days. Due to her introverted personality, Maomao doesn't like to talk when meeting strangers. Especially when she is with Xiao Li's daughter Dandan, one seems smart and the other seems dull, which makes the uncle feel uncomfortable. One day after dinner, Xiao Li and his uncle took their children to the park when they suddenly heard Dandan crying from a distance. It turned out that Maomao accidentally fell and her knees were still bleeding, but Maomao couldn't bear to cry. When the uncle saw that Maomao was in trouble, he was very angry. Just as he was about to teach Maomao a lesson, Xiao Li hurriedly helped Maomao up and praised him: "Children in rural areas are very able to endure hardships. They can be injured like this without saying a word. They will definitely be promising in the future." . Unlike our Dandan, who would be scared to death even if he saw an ant, children in this rural area are different. These words made the uncle feel much happier.

From this case, it is not difficult to see that Xiao Li’s uncle only saw the superficial appearance and did not discover the child’s potential advantages. Xiao Li is able to discover the advantages that others have not discovered and praise them in a timely manner. He is truly a master of praise.

A photographer was taking pictures of a female star. The female star looked a little unnatural towards the camera. The photographer said to her more than ten seconds before taking the photo: "Miss, your ears are so beautiful. I have never seen such beautiful ears." Female celebrities are usually praised for too many things, and they are used to it. However, when she heard someone praising her ears, she didn't even notice it before, so she quickly touched her ears. When she lowered her hand naturally, the photographer's shutter had already been pressed. It is really powerful for a photographer to praise what others cannot see at the critical moment, especially when facing clients.

In fact, what the photographer does is to use his keen eyes to catch things that others have not noticed, avoid the sharp edges, bypass the focus of people's attention, and get "winding paths leading to quiet places, clever words" "Sincerity" is the best result.

American steel magnate Carnegie wrote in an article called "Stimulating Human Potential Noble Motives": "Each of us is an idealist and likes to find a good name for what we do. Therefore, if you want to change others, you must arouse their noble motives. "He also said: "It is not enough to report the facts in a straightforward manner. The facts must be presented in a more vivid, interesting and dramatic way to be effective. To attract the attention of others."

When facing the people around us, we should use new and detailed praise to dramatically report the facts to them and arouse their noble motives, and then we will win by surprise. .