The friends around you will determine the kind of person you become.

01

"Xi Meng's mother chose a neighbor." The story of Mencius’s mother moving three times is well known to everyone. Mencius’s mother took great pains and moved many times in order to provide her children with a truly good growing environment, because Meng’s mother understood that a good environment can cultivate good people.

When Mencius was a child, he lived very close to the cemetery, so he learned some things about worship and played funeral games. The worried mother moved to the market, and Mencius also learned about doing business. and things that were massacred; it was not until Meng's mother later moved to the side of the academy, and Mencius learned the etiquette of bowing and advancing and retreating in the court, that Meng's mother took Mencius to settle down.

In the final analysis, Mencius learned worship, massacre and etiquette from people.

People are factors that affect the environment in which you grow. What the people around you do will affect what you do to a certain extent.

02

I remember that when I was in the first grade of junior high school, I was still a good kid with good academic performance. Every weekend, I would actively go to the teacher’s home with my classmates who had better grades in the class to make up lessons. Although my test scores were not among the best, But at least it's in the top ten.

Later, I was blackmailed by some bad students with colorful hair and cigarettes in their mouths at school, and I was beaten several times. Unwilling to be beaten, I hung out with the so-called "big brother" in the class. , seeking revenge.

Since then, I have been inseparable from several brothers in the class, and rarely went to make up classes. I learned basic skills such as smoking and drinking one by one. I thought about who to beat today and who to fight tomorrow. Where is the location more beneficial to you?

When the final exam results came in, I was so overwhelmed by my buddies’ loyalty that I didn’t care. Step by step, I became what others call a bad boy.

If I had not made the wrong friends at that time, maybe the trajectory of my life would be different from what it is now.

But life is broadcast live every day. We must not only reflect on the past but also carefully navigate the future.

03

My fifth brother who was in the same dormitory in college was good at basketball, but we always complained about his drinking capacity because he was allergic to alcohol and would drink a bottle of beer. He was also red all over, and we all mocked him as having "a man's body and a boy's drinking capacity."

At the last dinner on the eve of graduation, he only drank a bottle and a half before falling drunk; later when he went to work, the photos he saw in his circle of friends often showed him sweating profusely on the court. One drink was poured out on the wine table, but there were more and more wine bottles on the table.

Due to the nature of his work, 99% of the people in his unit are men, and the two biggest hobbies of men are basketball and drinking. Playing a ball and having a drink after get off work every day have become The routine of his life.

When we met again a year later, he had already developed an astonishing drinking capacity of "one and a half kilograms of white wine and any beer." The most amazing thing was that he even changed his allergic constitution. The target of ridicule was also changed, and he told us something similar to "Youth is dedicated to the small wine table, and you will drink it until you are drunk and dreaming."

"Those who are close to vermillion are red, and those who are close to ink are black." Your former weaknesses may become strengths you never imagined as your friends change.

(But I would like to remind readers that although drinking is good, don’t be greedy. Drinking too much is not good for your health.)

04

When I was a kid in college God has always said that the few of us have no pursuits, and he calls himself a well-rounded artistic man. When he was a freshman, he bought a SLR and jumped into the trend of learning photography. He also kept inviting classmates to appear on camera for him to practice. At first, we thought He won't learn anything at all, and he may lose interest after a while.

Confirming our initial prediction, there was really no progress in the photography technology he pursued during those six months, and he was distressed and sometimes thought about giving up.

However, Xiaotian later met a group of photography friends outside school and began to regain hope. From then on, he rarely appeared in our activities. Except for class, he basically stayed with people outside school. Friends are framing, filming and retouching pictures. Even outdoor activities are with people in the circle. On weekends, I go to a photography store to work part-time.

He rarely posts on WeChat Moments, leaving us unable to figure out how much progress he has made in his photography skills.

The second semester of my sophomore year coincides with campus recruitment. When making a resume, I need a cool ID photo. For the first time, Xiaotian said that he would ask all the brothers in the dormitory to take ID photos for free. Only when he arrived at the store did he find out what happened. Xiaotian has already opened his own photography studio in partnership with a friend.

After that, I kept seeing him posting various wedding photography and travel photography documentaries in the circle of friends. When he had no classes in his junior year, he was either filming or on the way to film, or stayed up all night. Stay up late editing pictures.

When we graduated, we were busy looking for jobs, but he devoted himself to pursuing his photography career to the end, and had already bought a house with the money he earned from photography in college, which made us envious.

Sometimes, no matter how great your personal interests are, you still need a group of like-minded friends. That kind of atmosphere makes you persevere invisibly.

05

Everyone has a different work circle, life circle and friend circle. These circles form your personal little world, and in this world, except for things that cannot be avoided Apart from colleagues and family members, the people with whom you have the most contact may be your own friends.

I will look for friends when I need help, I will look for friends when I am in a bad mood, I will share happy things with my friends, and I will make up for my friends’ time in my spare time activities.

Most people in a dormitory are taking the postgraduate entrance examination. If you don’t originally plan to take the postgraduate entrance examination, you may also join the ranks.

Everyone in a dormitory is addicted to online games. Even if you don’t know how to play games, you might still be playing online in the middle of the night.

If you are surrounded by rich people, you will also learn how rich people think so as not to make yourself too poor. If you are surrounded by people who are not enterprising, you will not be very enterprising; if people around you are hard-working, you will not become a lazy person.

Some people say that nothing is absolute, and there are always people who can be independent.

Yes, nothing is absolute. There are always a few people who can maintain their independent personality and thoughts. But all such people have a wonderful life. They are the heroes in the game of life, and they also bring their own The protagonist of Halo.

But ask yourself, are you the majority who will be influenced by your friends or are you the minority who can live alone?

Perhaps most readers fall into the former category.

I wish you to meet the most suitable friends in life and become the best version of yourself.

If you can't stay away from inappropriate friends, then please maintain your independent personality and thoughts. Being alone will make you have your own aura and become the protagonist in your life.