Take strangers home? She is too bold.

Imagine walking down the street, how would you react if a stranger came to talk to you?

I believe that many people will subconsciously dodge and refuse, just like fluttering.

Dodge and keep a physiological safe distance.

Refusing to guarantee a psychological safety distance.

This is the social normal of most people.

In the face of strangeness, we are used to using indifference as a bullet to isolate all unsafe factors.

It happened that someone tried to break this situation.

I will not only chat with you, but also follow you back to your home to chat.

It's about a recent documentary-

Can I go home with you?

(hereinafter referred to as "accompany you home")

The setting of "accompany you home" is very economical.

The program group searched the streets for passers-by who were ready to go home, and paid the fare in exchange for the opportunity to take pictures at home together.

The setting also sounds "dangerous".

Chatting with people is not over yet, but also stepping into the private space of the interviewee to chat.

Sure enough, it was difficult to find the interviewee from the beginning of the program.

Just ask a few questions and you can't keep passers-by.

Let alone come straight to the point and ask, "Can I come home with you?" .

One by one, resist as much as possible.

Sometimes it takes more than two hours to find someone who is willing to open the door.

The first person interviewed was a girl who had just finished playing games and came out of the game hall.

The girl just heard the program group asking to go home, and her face was covered with: I'm afraid it's not crazy, is it?

Shocked, subconsciously refused.

Later, the girl couldn't bear to discuss it with the program group again and again. After consulting her family, she took the program back.

On the way home, the program group asked the girl's parents. The girl was indifferent: Dad was not in China.

My mother died of illness when I was very young, and my father has reorganized the family. This girl has been growing up with her grandparents since she was seven years old.

I don't remember mentioning my father. I am not around at ordinary times, and there is almost no communication.

On the girl's birthday, her father didn't say anything, so he gave a red envelope.

The program group listened to "adding fuel to the fire" and asked, do you feel a little sorry for yourself?

The girl didn't fall into sadness, just said: more is a happy place.

The best grandmother in the world.

It seems that there is no conventional problem of "intergenerational support" in these two grandchildren.

Grandma is very trendy.

I don't like watching some mother-in-law TV dramas. I watch spy movies when I have time.

I'm used to staying up late, and I like listening to the high Xiao Shuo before going to bed.

The program group was very surprised to hear this, "grandma can do it."

When you are in a bad mood, unlike the usual older generation, they like reading novels instead of dancing square dance and playing mahjong.

There is no generation gap between grandparents and grandchildren in the process of getting along. It is said that grandparents and grandchildren are actually more like girlfriends.

Girls love to play games, and grandma never stops them. I just don't think it's safe for girls to go to Internet cafes at night, so I specially called my son to buy a computer for his granddaughter and put it at home.

The girls listened patiently to grandma's nagging and complaining.

Grandpa and grandma met and got married in the army. When they mentioned that year, grandma couldn't help mentioning the problem of the house:

After 75 years of work, the house has not been solved.

The girl listened to the hey hey smile, and grandma talked with her about this topic every day.

Looking down, you will find that the girl's good listening should be influenced by her grandmother.

Grandma is also a good listener. She never asked her granddaughter about many old views of the older generation on marriage and love.

Grandma knows all about the girl's emotional experience.

Even ambiguous boys send WeChat, and girls will ask grandma: How to reply?

The failed emotional experience, in grandma's view, just hasn't met a suitable and reliable person yet.

(Ex-boyfriend) Four commissions?

What new and interesting things happen every day, and what interesting jokes are there? Both of them should get together and talk before going to bed.

The girl's optimism and cheerfulness comes from the open and inclusive love given by her grandmother.

Don't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, because grandma gives you enough sense of security.

And another financial lady interviewed in the first program, most of her progress was explored by herself.

The program group asked her if she could follow her home. At first, the girl hesitated, and finally, because she sympathized with the program group that had been waiting for two hours on rainy days, she wavered.

On the way, she was still full of embarrassment and twisted her fingers and said, "The main reason is that the place to live is not very good."

Miss Xie's family is in Jiangsu, and she came to Shanghai to work hard alone.

In Shanghai, a place with an inch of land and gold, the rental budget is 3000 yuan. If you want to ensure enough personal space, you must sacrifice the quality of the house to some extent.

Although it is a single family, it will still be affected by bad weather.

The disadvantage is that it sometimes leaks a little.

Although the accommodation conditions are average, there is no way to improve the whole, and I will care about this in my heart.

But I didn't make do with it, and I still managed my life with my heart.

Some walls of the house fell off, so she bought paint and painted the walls herself.

I have a toolbox at home, even in hot melt glue gun. If anything at home is broken, I will repair it myself.

There is something wrong with the computer. Girls like CPU and video card sound like big problems, and she can solve them.

When it comes to the last emotional experience, my little sister's eyes are red.

At the stage of talking about marriage, the parents of both sides got together to talk about it, and the result ended in discord.

The man's parents think that girls climb because they are not locals; Because the man's family attitude is not good, the girl's parents are not satisfied.

The frustration in love made her see clearly that the decision to get married for stability was putting the cart before the horse.

Therefore, she began to rethink what kind of life she should live.

She bought a lot of outdoor sports equipment and will make an appointment with her friends to participate in various outdoor sports on weekends.

I participated in many competitions, and many medals, large and small, were hung on the wall.

She took part in an outdoor sports event in Hong Kong, the whole journey 100 kilometers, which lasted for 28 hours. She also gritted her teeth and walked down.

Although life is not satisfactory, she has been groping for progress.

Give yourself the life you want within your ability and try your best.

Although this program has just appeared in China, in fact, this program form is not new.

As early as 20 14, Japan's Tokyo TV station has started to do this program, with a douban score of 9.5.

(hereinafter referred to as "going to your home")

The Japanese version also set up guests to observe the visit process.

In February, the program group also invited Kim Jae Jung as an observer.

The guests were invited, and we didn't get many shots. Most of the time, they appear in the small box in the upper left corner of the screen.

The camera is aimed at the passers-by being interviewed.

Teachers with disabled children drank a little smile and it was sweet for a long time.

I love to laugh, because my brother says she smiles brightly and cutely.

Because of his brother's praise, Mi Jiu smiled and cheered for himself every day.

However, there is a sad story behind the smile.

Mijiu's brother is disabled.

My brother is kind and careful, and always puts others before himself, but he died of a flu shortly after Mijiu's birthday party.

After my brother died, Mijiu was hit hard and often blamed herself.

"Because I have always been loved by my brother, I will love others in the future." With the beauty of this idea, I chose to be a teacher for disabled children.

By helping those children who used to be like my brother, I tried to go out slowly.

There is also 60-year-old Ito, who adjusts his hand position with the change of seasons.

Ito lived alone in a shabby apartment for ten years.

My salary is 250,000 yen a month, my rent is 75,000 yen a month (about 4,500 RMB), and the rest is used for eating and drinking once a day.

Seemingly decadent, not self-motivated, in fact, just because I am willing.

Ito has changed jobs many times in his life, and the fields involved are also varied. Recording engineer, star agent, bar owner, bartender, insurance salesman, Guandong cook, Korean chef. ...

Changing jobs is not because of how much money you can earn, but because you are interested in unknown fields and unknown worlds.

You don't know if you don't do it, do you?

There is also a 20-year-old college student and hostess, Li Yang.

Li Yang's eloquence is great, and he feels a little crazy. After watching so many programs, only she talked to the photographer the most.

Talking about the topic of preparing for plastic surgery, the photographer replied: It doesn't matter if it's not neat.

Li Yang pointed his finger: You know it very well. Very interesting and not too grandiose, and the observing guests followed.

However, many people may not understand the choices made by Sun Yang.

I choose to be the hostess because I can make money, drink and, most importantly, be happy. I didn't study hard when I was in college. I went to college only to reassure my parents.

What university to enter, that is to achieve the goal.

The goal has been achieved, and I have a happier job, so I have hardly been on campus and don't want to graduate.

But as soon as the camera turned, the photographer found many things related to the hospital in her home.

It turned out that there was no abnormality on the surface, and Sun Yang was diagnosed with uterine cancer a year ago.

The guests and photographers were surprised, but after Li Yang revealed the fact of illness, he did not feel depressed and the atmosphere did not become dignified.

Sun Yang still talked about her plan with a smile, because she still wanted to have children, so she didn't choose to remove the uterus.

She didn't quit her job as a hostess, but her job was a way for her to vent her pressure.

In the face of the stories of these various interviewees, the guests and reporters are very calm and do not presuppose the interviewees.

What it looks like is what it looks like, without whitewashing.

So some netizens commented-

This is really the best interpretation of existentialism.

In more than ten minutes, the interviewee ate, drank, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate, ate.

As soon as the camera turns, we are presented with the inner world of every small and ordinary person without whitewashing and covering up behind the glamorous society.

As an observation program, Come to Your Home shows a variety of lifestyles.

I can still live like this.

In the corner that you and I have never seen, in the world that we have never set foot in, everyone has his own choice and trajectory.

It is also showing an attitude towards life-

It turns out that people still live like this.

The program group once filmed a mother and son who opened a shop in Lamian Noodles. The boss rented a place and set up a stall to sell Lamian Noodles every night.

Lamian Noodles's booth is small, but he made a pattern.

When chatting with guests, he will bring homemade gadgets and ask them a little question. If they get it right, they will be given an egg.

Sometimes the answer is the title of the song, and the song is his own.

This boss seems to have nothing to do with the lyrics, but he has his own lyrics book called Dream Notes.

I write lyrics because I want to sing by myself. This little hobby is that he has been insisting on it since high school (37 years old).

When he was in high school, he wrote a word called Footprints of Dreams, which he always liked, and now the lyrics can be regarded as his portrayal.

I left home for my dream.

The cold evening breeze makes me feel lonely.

I won't stop until I see the light.

The boss's dream is to open his own Lamian Noodles store.

At first, I worked in another Lamian Noodles store, and I was a novice.

When jiaozi was fired, he was fired backwards every time.

I wanted to be independent, so I quit my job in a Lamian Noodles store and started selling Lamian Noodles.

Go out every night, get home in the early morning, all year round.

But even so, the monthly turnover is 6.5438+0.2 million yen, and the net income is only 200,000 (about 654.38+0.2620 RMB).

There is still a long way to go before I open my own shop.

However, it is very touching that after a year and a half, in September of 20 18, the program group visited the stall owner in Lamian Noodles again.

By this time, he had saved money to open his own Lamian Noodles store.

Lamian Noodles store is still very interesting, not only the variety of Lamian Noodles has increased, but also a hidden menu has been set up.

After opening the Lamian Noodles store, the boss didn't stop setting up stalls.

The Lamian Noodles store is open from eleven in the morning to ten in the evening. After the store closes, the boss will drive to set up a stall until four in the morning.

2065438+In March 2009, the program group visited the owner of Lamian Noodles store again after half a year.

At this time, the boss has decided to open a new store, and the Lamian Noodles booth will be open until the end of March.

This is also a very attractive and exhilarating point.

It records the ordinary life of ordinary people and shows us all the random events that the program group has no preset in advance and what it sees and hears is uncontrollable.

Every interviewer is a point, moving forward on his own life track.

Through another visit, the program group connected the dots and told us, you see, he didn't stop.

For ordinary people who are still struggling, it is a great encouragement to see the return of life through hard work.

But in fact, going to your house doesn't stop there.

Piaopiao wrote a program before-Talking to Strangers.

Show the magical story of the real world by talking to strangers.

The interviewees of the program are all "extraordinary"-murderers, drunkards, godfathers who killed Matt, plastic surgeons, goddesses and PUA students. ...

It seems to be similar to "going to your home" in order to open the psychological defense of the respondents. However, in fact, it is more about directional communication prepared in advance.

If we say that in the conversation with a stranger, the process of strangers gradually revealing secrets in the interview shows us human nature.

Go to Your Home shows us the world.

There are elderly people over the age of 60 in the program. They are "house ancestors" who have not thrown garbage for 20 years.

There are also loving couples who have no children and travel all their lives.

There is an ordinary life of ordinary people, and there is also a quiet life of ordinary people. Under the surface, it is magnificent, and there are life stories of marginal people that we have never touched.

In this pluralistic world, the program has always maintained a calm bystander attitude.

Don't bother, don't interfere, don't evaluate.

Every lifestyle is an attitude towards life.

After all, walking in this world, no matter what happens, there is cause and effect, no matter right or wrong.