I feel so insecure. Who can teach me how to be confident slowly?

Once upon a time, there were two little frogs who sneaked into a farmer's house to play. When they stood on the edge of a jar and danced, they accidentally fell into it. It is filled with sticky oil, and they want to jump out. The oil is too sticky and they want to climb out, and the wall is too slippery. After several attempts, there was no result. Frog A thought while swimming, it seems that there is no hope today. Why can't he get out? Anyway, there is no hope. What are you swimming for? Thinking like this, the limbs are getting more and more immovable. As for frog B, I think it's too bad today. I can't get out, but I'll continue to swim and see if I can find a way. Although his limbs were very tired, he still kept swimming. While swimming, I thought, as long as I have strength, I will swim anyway. Just when it could hardly row, its hind foot hit a solid solid. It turned out that the butter solidified under the constant stirring of frog B. Later, frog B stepped on butter, jumped out of the jar and went home alone.

The end of the story: Two frogs were exhausted in the jar before the butter became solid, and two philosophers argued about it. A said, "Yes, they all died, but until the moment of death, frog A was sad and desperate, while frog B was full, at least not sad and desperate, because it had no time to be sad and desperate." Isn't the ending of each of us the same? The difference between people often lies in the difference of process.

The third ending of the story: Frog A is paddling his limbs wearily, while Frog B is still struggling to swim. He thinks that although the situation is very bad, I still have to do something. He swims next to A and finds that A's limbs are slow and mechanical, and he is resigned to his fate. He says to A, "We are in line, I am in the front, you are in the back, and the movements are consistent, and then we can switch places." B After it, it's much easier to swim in its way. A said while swimming, "I have never swam in oil. Today I know the taste of it. This is a good way to keep fit.". If we swim in it for a quarter of an hour every day, we can become the most fit frog. " As they talked, they sang their favorite "quack" song, so they forgot their fatigue and sang together. The peasant woman found them by singing, gently fished them up, washed them and sent them home.

Genius Experiment

People who specialize in intelligence in the United States did an experiment. They drew 2 students out of 1, students in the school, and then gathered all the students on the playground. The headmaster announced that this is the top scientist specializing in genius in our country. After long-term testing and research, it was found in our school that there were 2 geniuses, and the list was published. Then these 2 people came forward. Of course, these 2 students are very excited and excited. "Wow, we are geniuses, and we were tested."

After 2 years, all these people have grown up. What happened to these 2 people who were called geniuses at that time? Finally, it was found that some of these 2 geniuses became top entrepreneurs, some became the best professionals in their careers, and some became industry experts. No matter what field they are in, they live up to expectations, show their performance beyond the average person, and become the most outstanding group among these 1, students, because they will say that I am a genius wherever they go. But we all know that they are not really professionally tested. Since there is no real test, how can the final results really become geniuses? Because they believe they are geniuses.

what is the most important thing in life? The core of personality is self-confidence, which enables people to tide over one difficulty after another. I still want to emphasize the power of faith, look deep into my heart, and then find that all miracles are in yourself. Faith is the courage to overcome difficulties, and postgraduate entrance examination is also a severe test for everyone's life. Those who have experienced postgraduate entrance examination will understand the significance of that struggle. The process of finding a job is also a challenge. It takes courage, confidence and faith to get up again and again after being rejected again and again.

3 believe in yourself and edit yourself

There is a netizen's opinion:

Dead people don't need confidence. Self-confidence is to find a mode that you can live in the world. The risk performance of this mode is controlled by yourself without interference from others, so that you can live calmly.

Chairman Mao once said that if you have confidence in your life for 2 years, you will hit three thousand li with water. In "Red Star over China", he himself recalled: "At that time, beginners, summer water rose, and several people died. A group of people finally persisted until the middle of winter, still in the river. At that time, there was a poem that I forgot, only remembering two sentences: I am confident that my life will be two hundred years, and I will be a water hammer for three thousand miles. "

This poem reveals confidence and heroism in swimming.

What can be found is the following:

Seven Ancient Stories (Residual Sentences) In the winter of 1916

A confident life of 2 years will hit three thousand Li

"A confident life of 2 years"-it means diligence, cherishing time, and using night as day, so that you will have two life times.

4 self-confident quotes editor

1. Many people are not enough to rely on, and you have to rely on yourself to survive. -Napoleon

2. Self-confidence is the first secret of success. -Emerson

3. Look deep into your heart, and then find that all miracles are in yourself. -bacon

4. Everyone should have self-esteem, self-confidence and independence, otherwise he is a slave. -Xu Teli

5. Any point on the earth is equally far from the sun. -Burton

6. The confidence we have in ourselves will make others have green shoots of confidence in us. -La Rochefoucauld

7. Apart from personality, the biggest loss in life is to lose self-confidence. -Pershing

8. People with confidence can turn smallness into greatness and mediocrity into magic. -Bernard Shaw

9. Firm confidence can enable ordinary people to do amazing things. -Ma Erdun

1. Columbus discovered a world, but he didn't use charts. He used "confidence" to solve doubts in the sky. -Santayana

11. It is my confidence that keeps me floating in the mire of life without getting stuck. -Dante

12. In any case, "gossip" can't frighten me. -Lu Xun

13. since heaven gave the talent, let it be employed!, spin a thousand pieces of silver, all of them come back!. -Li Bai

14. He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. -Lao Dan's "Lao Zi"

15. The spirit of ambitious people should not be underestimated. -Zhuge Liang

16. It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on others. (rely on. ) —— "Han Feizi's Foreign Reserve" in the pre-Qin Dynasty < P > 17. There is a difference between self-confidence and pride; Self-confident people are often calm, while proud people are often arrogant. -Liang Qichao

18. I have no outstanding person, but I can't talk to people all my life. -Sima Guang

19. Self-reliance and self-respect, don't follow others' footsteps and learn from others' words. -Lu Jiuyuan

2. Self-confident people don't doubt others, but people also believe them. He who doubts himself does not believe in others, and people also doubt him. -The Classic of History

21. I will mount a long wind some day and break the heavy waves and and set my cloudy sail straight and bridge the deep, deep sea. Li Bai

22. A person can't bring confidence to others unless he has confidence; Only those who have been convinced can be convinced.

-Arnold Ying

23. As long as you are confident, there is nothing you can't do.

24. Skill plus confidence is an invincible army. -Herbert English

25. For those who are above fate, confidence is the master of fate. -Helen Kellermei

26. Decisiveness leads to confidence, confidence leads to strength, and strength is the mother of victory. -heinrich mann

27. Pride is blind, but confidence is sober. -Chen Biao

28. Self-confidence is the first requirement to take on a big job.-Jensenmei

29. People with inferiority always bury themselves in inferiority. Remember, you are the only one in this world.

-Wang Shaonan Middle School

3. There is no natural confidence, only the confidence that is constantly cultivated.

31。 Many people have achieved nothing because they underestimated their abilities and belittled themselves, so that their achievements were reduced.

-Donald Hilton Beauty

32. Confidence is a weak and thin line, which is easily broken; But when you are discouraged, it can also throw you into the sky and make you regain your vitality.

-Wilson Beauty

33. Confidence is a state of mind, and people with confidence will not be depressed in an instant.

-Helen Kellermei

34. Confidence enables a person to conquer what he believes can be conquered. -Bernard Shaw English

35. Confidence and ability usually go hand in hand. -Johnson English

36. Man is a tree, and confidence is the root.-Yuan Yang Meng Qiu

37. Victory will eventually belong to those who believe that they can succeed. -Richard Bach

38. Lack of self-confidence is often the main reason for weak personality and unsuccessful career. -Thoreau Chick Ying

39. The only obstacle to realizing tomorrow is doubt about today. -Franklin D. Roosevelt

4. Believe in yourself and your ability. Remind yourself that luck is with you and you will be invincible.

-norman vincent peale Beauty

41. The future belongs to those who firmly believe in their beautiful dreams. -Yan Yu is beautiful

42. People with confidence can turn smallness into greatness and mediocrity into magic. -Bernard Shaw Ying

43. It is God's will to try hard to do anything well, and what the result will be. Don't have no confidence at the beginning and make no effort. This is self-confidence. -Fang Haiquan

44. Be confident and then go all out-if you have this idea, you can succeed in everything in nine cases out of ten.

-Wilson Beauty

45. Without self-confidence, it is easy for a person to be suspicious and alert to the environment. The so-called "nothing in the world, much ado about nothing".

-Roland

46. A person can't bring confidence to others unless he has confidence; Only those who have been convinced can be convinced.

-Arnold Ying

47. Self-confidence is the first step to success. -Shakespeare English

48. Give me a fulcrum and I will move the earth. -Archimedes in ancient Greece

How to build self-confidence

① Specific methods to build self-confidence

(1) Choose the seat in front

Have you noticed how the seats in the back row are filled first in all kinds of parties in teaching or classroom? Most people who occupy the back seat hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason why they are afraid of being noticed is lack of confidence.

sitting in the front can build confidence. Try it as a rule and try to sit forward as much as possible from now on. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but remember that everything about success is conspicuous.

(2) Practice looking others in the eye

A person's eyes can reveal a lot about him. When someone doesn't look you in the eye, you will intuitively ask yourself, "What do you want to hide? What is he afraid of? Will he be bad for me? "

not looking at others directly usually means: I feel inferior around you; I feel inferior to you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding other people's eyes means: I feel guilty; I did or thought of something I didn't want you to know; I'm afraid that once I touch your eyes, you will see through me. This is all some bad information.

to look others in the eye is to tell you that I am honest and aboveboard. I believe what I told you is true, and I have no conscience.

(3) Speed up your walking by 25%

When David Schwartz was a teenager, it was great fun to go to the town center. After getting into the car after all the errands, my mother often says, "David, let's sit for a while and look at passers-by."

Mother is a wonderful observer. She would say, "Look at that guy. What do you think is bothering him?" Or "What do you think the lady over there is going to do?" Or "Look at that man, he seems a little lost."

it's really a pleasure to watch people walk. This is much cheaper and more enlightening than watching movies.

Many psychologists associate lazy posture and slow pace with unpleasant feelings about themselves, their work and others. But psychologists also tell us that by changing posture and speed, we can change our mental state. If you look closely, you will find that the movements of the body are the result of mental activities. Those who have been hit and rejected are dragging their feet and have no self-confidence.

Ordinary people walk like "ordinary people" and make a confession that "I'm not very proud of myself".

Another kind of person shows extraordinary confidence and walks faster than the average person, like running. Their pace tells the whole world: "I want to go to an important place and do very important things. More importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes."

With this "walk 25% faster" technique, walk faster with your head held high, and you will feel your self-confidence growing.

(4) Practice speaking in public

Napoleon Hill pointed out that there are many people with sharp thinking and high talent, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It's not that they don't want to participate, but just because they lack confidence.

People who are taciturn in the meeting think, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel stupid. I'd better not say anything. Moreover, others may know more than me, and I don't want you to know that I am so ignorant. " These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until the next time." But they know very well that they can't fulfill this promise. Every time these taciturn people don't speak, he is poisoned by lack of confidence again, and he will lose confidence more and more. On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence and make it easier to speak next time. Therefore, we should speak more, which is the "vitamin" of confidence.

No matter what kind of meeting you attend, you should take the initiative to speak every time, perhaps commenting, suggesting or asking questions, without exception. Besides, don't speak last. To be an icebreaker, be the first to break the silence. And don't worry that you will look stupid. I won't. Because someone will always agree with you. So don't say to yourself, "I wonder if I dare to say it." Try to get the attention of the chairman of the meeting so that you can have a chance to speak.

(5) grin.

Most people know that laughter can give them practical impetus, and it is a good medicine to cure the lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this, because they never try to smile when they are afraid. Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad mood, but also immediately dissolve the hostility of others. If you sincerely smile at a person Zhan Yan, he can't be angry with you any more. Napoleon Hill told a personal experience: "One day, my car stopped at a red light at an intersection, and suddenly there was a bang. It turned out that the driver of the car behind me slipped the brake and his car hit the bumper behind me. I saw him coming down in the rearview mirror and got off with him, ready to give him a good scolding. "But fortunately, before I could have an attack, he came over and smiled at me and said to me in the most sincere tone,' Friend, I really didn't mean to.' His smile and sincere explanation melted me. I have to whisper