What's it like to have parents and children 40 years apart?

My children and I are 39 years old. When she was young, I felt very good. I thought I gave birth to her at the age of 39, so I would be more patient and meticulous than my young mother. Take good care of the children. Because of late marriage and late childbirth, the economy is relatively better. Because before I got pregnant, my wife and I made plans to have children, especially financially. So the arrival of the child, for us, everything is so calm.

My self-confidence and pride only lasted for about three years, that is, in the year when my children went to kindergarten, I obviously felt sorry.

Since the birth of the child, I have been taking care of her personally and devoted all my enthusiasm and love to her. Take her very seriously. I was 42 when my children went to kindergarten. But her classmates' mothers are all 20-30 years old. What makes me even more embarrassed is that the grandmother of one of her classmates is 45 years old. Every time I pick up my children, I feel a faint sense of inferiority in front of a group of young mothers. Children of this age will certainly not feel inferior. She is happy every day. She thinks her mother is the most beautiful and beautiful mother.

I thought that my anxiety and inferiority would be relieved when my children went to primary school and junior high school. Later, I realized that it was wrong. It was all wet. There may be a generation gap between other people's children and their parents, but the difference between me and my children is the generation gap. The child's primary school is ok, but after entering junior high school, the child obviously doesn't want us to attend the parent-teacher conference, especially his mother. Later, once, the child secretly told the tutor that other children's mothers were so young and their mothers looked like grandmothers. She felt very embarrassed. So she is more afraid of holding parent-teacher conferences. I know that my age has brought a certain sense of inferiority to my children.

By this time I was over 50, and my energy was getting worse and worse. I can't follow you like I did in elementary school. So I hired a tutor for her. Instead of being a mother, I helped her with her homework. Therefore, every month, the family will spend one more item. You can also pay people to do your homework, but in many places, others can't. And my obvious ability, energy and knowledge are obviously out of date and can't keep up, which often makes me feel overwhelmed and owe my children. When the child is an adult, I will be 6-70 years old, and there will be even less places to help her. So my biggest feeling now is that people had better do what they should do. Obeying the laws of nature is the best arrangement. The age to get married, the age to have children.

Friends, colleagues, relatives and young people around you will always suggest that if you are not ready to be single, then choose to get married at the right age. If you are not ready for Dink's life, you'd better choose to have children at the right age. The most important thing in life is to do the right thing at the right time.

Dad graduated from college in the 1950s, and he is an honest and frank science and engineering man. He was once classified as a rightist and got married late. He didn't have my eldest son (first child) until he was forty-one.

When I was a child, my father taught me to swim, ride a bike and play table tennis. But never take me to play basketball, football, roller skating and other sports that are easy to collide with people.

Materially, I am superior to many peers around me. Dad will ask my uncle in Shanghai to send me milk powder, candy and children's bicycles. When he comes back from a business trip in a big city, he will buy me a small kettle, a white fat mask of Tang priest and a complete set of picture books. The most interesting toy in memory is a photo bear that can move, lift its arm and flash. In 1970s, it was a luxury and fashionable toy. He saved all these expenses. But he seldom buys me the Monkey King's masks, knives, guns, clubs and other offensive toys.

I remember when I was in primary school, he often talked with other parents about their children's future hopes between attending parent-teacher conferences. He wants me to be like him, so he is satisfied.

When I was in junior high school, I was playful and my academic performance declined. My mother who is a teacher is ashamed, and my father will attend all the parent-teacher conferences. But in my memory, I was beaten by my father once, not because of my poor grades, but because I lied to him.

When I was in a science class in high school, it was the biggest contradiction between my father and me. I like literature and hate reason, and my grades are obviously high and low. But my father insisted that I study science, and I couldn't beat him, so I had to bite the bullet and chew math and physics.

In the college entrance examination in the 1980s, half of the graduates had to be eliminated first. When I got the college entrance examination volunteer form through pre-selection, my father didn't discuss it with me at all. He did not hesitate to fill in his alma mater and major in the first choice column of key universities. This is the most stubborn manifestation of patriarchy, and I finally understand that he wants me to have the same meaning as him. He just wants to follow in his father's footsteps and make me a technical person who eats technical food.

Helpless, it's hard to get the ducks on the shelves. I failed the college entrance examination for the first time in Sun Shan. As a result, it seems that the blow to my father is greater than mine, and my father will never interfere with my studies again. Later, I changed my profession. I graduated from college in the 1990s and became a policeman through public recruitment.

Although I didn't become a technical man who eats technical meals, my father was quite satisfied with me. Especially after his retirement, his previous company declared bankruptcy, and his pension was greatly reduced. After he changed from enterprise pension to social security pension, he was glad that he didn't force me to apply for his major in the end.

My mother died early, and my elderly father has been living with me. After I got married and got married, I let my father move out of the old house in the factory. After changing rooms several times, I took my father with me to take care of his daily life and help him take care of human feelings.

My father died at the age of 80. So far, I am the eldest son of my elders and relatives.

What happens when father and son are forty years apart?

When his son was young, his father loved him very much.

The son has not fully grown up, and the father is old;

When the son enters the society, he can only wander by himself, and the father can do nothing;

When the son finally matures, he can repay the old man and continue to be filial, but the father has left.

I can only hope that the father-son relationship will continue in the afterlife. ...

Hehe, I have the most authoritative answer to this question, because I gave birth to a second child when I was 4 1 year old. I haven't wanted to have a second child yet, just because the second child policy is late! Now, the boss is a freshman and a junior just turned two. Feeling, just tired and happy! And I think this little two is the best gift from God, because his arrival will not make me feel lonely and helpless because my boss was not around when I was in college, and will not be empty and bored because I miss him. I think it may be easier to have a second child because of the boss's parenting experience. As for the others, such as how old he is, how old I am, and what parent-teacher conference the school holds, these are all things in the future. It's no use thinking about it now. Now, I just want to take good care of my second child, let him grow up happily and healthily, go to a favorite university like his brother, study his favorite major and choose his own life, so that I can complete my task!

Bauer and I are only 38 years apart. When I first started having an unexpected pregnancy, I felt that the sky was falling, because I was the last person to understand those who had a second child.

Because one day the first child was born, and the one that hurt was sour and refreshing, I secretly vowed that I would not have children after giving 5 million yuan, which was too painful.

Later, at the age of 28, I got cervical erosion and had liposuction knife surgery. When the doctor asked me to sign, he asked me, "Do you have any children?"

I replied, "Yes!"

The doctor said, "OK, then you can sign it."

Just because the doctor and I asked these questions and answered them, I misunderstood that I would be infertile after this operation.

So 10 years without contraception, and then suddenly pregnant at the age of 37. I think it's incredible because I haven't been caught for 10 years. How could I be pregnant?

Finally, my husband and I discussed the issue of abortion. Everyone agreed that we should have an abortion in the hospital because we felt that our financial situation was not suitable for raising two children.

Unexpectedly, on the last day, my husband made a 360-degree turn and said it was fate. 10 was not pregnant, and she was pregnant that year, and the policy of releasing the second child was about to be introduced just after she got pregnant.

My family advised me to be born and have Dabao as my companion in the future.

In this way, I somehow gave birth to Bao Xiao. The difference between her and her sister is 13 years old.

From birth to two years old, children are very abrasive. She stayed up all night, coaxed the children six or seven times a day, fed and changed diapers, and then wet the towel with warm water to squeeze out the leftovers.

Anyway, the whole person is almost depressed, and I have been regretting it. He thought he was crazy and got himself a second child to torture himself.

Every time the child disobeys, he cries with anger and feels that his life is not good. After other children are born, they all eat and sleep, which is very easy to raise. Only when I meet a sleeping baby do I feel a little bitter.

Later, when the child grew up, the biggest fear of taking the child out was being misunderstood as the child's grandmother. Fortunately, everyone I met outside, whether on the playground or on the bus, never misunderstood me.

Then the child went to kindergarten, afraid of being misunderstood by the teacher as grandma. Fortunately, there was no misunderstanding between the teacher and the director, and then they chatted with the director. The director thought that I was the first child, because I said that Bao Xiao was rather delicate, and she said that the first child was normal.

Then I found a job as a nurse now. In fact, the parents I contacted did not belong to particularly young mothers. Many of them gave birth to a second child, and they all looked older than me, so I don't think such a young child has any inferiority complex at this age.

Now the eldest daughter will take the college entrance examination immediately, and the youngest daughter will go to the kindergarten middle class. Although my youngest daughter always likes to get sick in kindergarten, fortunately, she has a glib tongue and is very sweet.

I often say, "Mom, I want to be with you forever. When I grow up, I will be a painter, a chef and earn a lot of money. I will buy a big house. You can have everything you want in the house. "

Sometimes when I am lying on the sofa watching TV after work, I will cover me with a small blanket and say, "Mom, I'm afraid you'll fall asleep watching TV and catch a cold. I'll cover you with a blanket."

Anyway, it is very, very special to say something warm-hearted, and the emotional intelligence is super high.

Even if I am tired, it makes me feel happy.

So I think I haven't realized that I'm 38 years old and almost 40 years old, which is different from ordinary parents.

However, I feel that when I hold a parent-teacher conference in primary school or junior high school in the future, I may encounter embarrassment and will inevitably be framed together with the parents of the younger generation. At that time, polarization may be particularly obvious.

Answer this question seriously. My two daughters, the eldest daughter 19 years old and the youngest daughter 13 months old. I am 45 years old. Last year, my family played a joke on tiles and had another daughter. . . When I grow up, I take care of my children. My mentality is completely different from that of young people. I have a peaceful mind, no anxiety and embarrassment in my life, and only endless love for my children. The eldest daughter has gone to college and has been studying in thousands of books. Now I encourage her to go to Wan Li Road to learn about society and experience life with her own eyes. My little daughter is by my side, warming us like an angel.

The archangel spread her wings and soared in the sky. Her mother is her strongest backing, encouraging her and helping her create a better life.

The little angel is by her mother's side, and we accompany each other and grow up happily with you. . . . . Forty-five years old, because of you, my lovely daughter, I will not grow old. I will try my best to enrich myself and learn more knowledge. My daughters and I will grow up happily together. . . .

This question is best answered from the perspective of my mother, me and my two treasures.

My mother was born at the age of 39, with two brothers and one sister. When family planning started in the 1970s, I was almost planned. I am the youngest and my health is not very good, so my family is a treasure. My parents have devoted more efforts to preparing me for school until I get married. I have also become the pride of my parents. I am the only one of the four girls who graduated from college. Now, my parents are old, and my old father just celebrated his 82nd birthday. I find it difficult to repay my parents' kindness. Because my mother had an operation and it was difficult to go upstairs, I changed the house for my parents twice. At first, I lived in a small high-rise building in Xishan. My mother was too hot to turn on the air conditioner, so she bought a small high-rise building with an elevator on the sixth floor. Now my father pushes my mother to the street park every morning, and I walk to work. White-haired parents are looking forward to turning 40 this year. At present, I basically take care of big and small things at my parents' place, and my brothers and sisters also consult me about anything. It seems that I have become the backbone of my extended family. Therefore, the age gap is not a problem, as long as the hearts are similar.

17 years ago, my wife and I had a lovely daughter. At that time, we wanted to stay with our wife and daughter all our lives. After we let go of our second child, we always wanted another boss's companion, but my wife was busy in the company and failed twice. /kloc-in June of 0/7, I booked a house with four bedrooms and two living rooms, which was already very good at that time. Unexpectedly, Bauer is a healthy and lively little girl. I am forty-five years old and my wife is forty-four. This little guy is a gift from God. Every morning, when Bauer smiles at you, his heart is sprouting, tired and happy, and my wife and I are more energetic in starting a business. Therefore, the age gap is not a problem, as long as you really love her (him).

After the renovation of the new house this year, four old people put together, wife, Dabao, Bauer and me. What a warm picture!

I am 45 years old, and my second child gave birth to a son. I'm five years old, just 40 years old [covering my face]. I feel good. Compared with my impatience with my daughter, I am gentle now and have more room to express my love. Plus, I'm young and can play with my son like crazy, so I don't think there's any problem! I just want to live a long life and be with him for a long time [cute] [yeah]

When I was born, my father was 40 years old, which was rare in those days. At that time, there were not so many parents' meetings, and I didn't feel the gap between my parents. Maybe when I graduated from junior high school, suddenly my classmates began to fall in love. A large group of students shouted for food and drink in their home from the first day to the fifteenth day of the first month, only to find that their parents were quite young, but their appearance was not obvious. My parents look younger than their peers. I found it from many families and a little brother and sister. When I went to college, the contrast was even more obvious. Students come from all over the country, and some rural parents are 20 years younger than my parents. At this stage, I feel particularly afraid of losing. I realized that there is a separation between life and death in the world, and I was particularly afraid. I don't think I have grown up yet, so I'm afraid of losing them suddenly. It was really a sentimental time. I remember one night I was worried that my parents would go downstairs and cry all night ... In recent years, maybe it was because my parents exercised a little hard when they were young, and they were much younger than their peers, with bright ears and strong bodies. At that time, the parents of many classmates and friends left one after another, and their parents were single. My parents are in good health and have come a long way to accompany me. Now you can see a bowl of soup from a distance. Although my mother's cooking is not as delicious as before, it still smells like childhood memories. That's it. Although I was independent at the age of three, I didn't have the childhood of many peers, and I was often separated from my family, but later life compensation gave me more love. I am glad that people can still enjoy the feeling of children around their parents when they reach middle age! Really grateful! I wish I could spend more time with my baby's father.

Personally, I think I should have children or be old enough to have children, unless I always miss Dink, except those who don't have children all my life. The best childbearing age is between 25 and 30, which is good for both children and parents.

This situation is very common when there are many children in our age group (after 50 s and 60 s). My parents gave birth to their youngest sister at the age of 45 and 4 1 respectively. My sister is four years younger than me! The difference between the mother's first child and the youngest sister is 23 years old! A colleague's parents gave birth to ten children. The youngest was seriously ill and died shortly after birth. She grew up on the breast milk of her eldest sister, who is several years older than her!

Parents are 40 years older than their children, which is not surprising in our time! My parents are still relatively old, and I was still in good health until my sister and I got married and got married. Although my family was poor in the early years, my parents and sisters were very good and took care of each other, but my youngest sister and I enjoyed more care. In some families with many children around them, if parents die early or brothers and sisters are not close, especially in families with many boys, children are born late, and some even have a hard life and can't even get married because they don't have the care and care of their parents!

My brother has a friend who is the eighth child in the family. His mother died shortly after he was born, and his father died after he was ten years old. At a young age, I can only live alone with a bachelor brother. Fortunately, "the children of poor families manage early", so he is sensible and willing to work hard. Later, he worked hard by himself, but the brothers above enjoyed his care!