The influence of childhood experience on present life

There are various explanations for childhood experiences. Sometimes it seems to be an unfortunate experience, but the experience it brings is not necessarily unfortunate. In the face of unfortunate experiences, people often have three manifestations. The first person never pays attention to the experiences that make him unhappy, so these experiences will not affect his outlook on life, but only provide him with a warning. He will make up his mind to change and not let his children have similar experiences. The second kind of people think that they are not the darling of God, but unfair God who makes them suffer, so they are often hostile to others. After becoming a parent, the third person will say to the child, "Your parents lived like this when they were young. Why can't you stand this? " This kind of person feels that his unfortunate childhood experience is an excuse to make mistakes now. Three different understandings of unfortunate experiences are completely reflected in their behavior. Behavior always follows people's understanding of life. Only when understanding changes will behavior change. Therefore, whether a person can succeed has nothing to do with his life experience, even if he has experienced unfortunate experiences. Some people will not learn from this experience.

However, we are often influenced by various life experiences, so in the process of determining the meaning of our lives, we often make the mistake of taking past experiences as an important factor in determining the meaning of our lives. The meaning of life does not come from our experience and environment, but from the meaning we give to the environment and our own experience to determine the meaning of life. This is especially reflected in the experience of early childhood. Some special experiences in childhood usually make people have the wrong meaning of life. Adults who are influenced by special experiences and have a wrong meaning often become losers in life.