This is my first time as a mother. Why can't I have children?

Xiaoqiu is a little girl who lives across the hall from my house. She is in the second grade of primary school, cute and smart.

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This is my first time as a mother. Why can't I have children?

Xiaoqiu is a little girl who lives across the hall from my house. She is in the second grade of primary school, cute and smart.

Xiaoqiu's mother is the proprietress of the clothing store downstairs. She probably has such a carefree and competitive daughter. She is more and more enterprising in business, even more eloquent than the matchmaker who reversed black and white before.

However, Xiaoqiu's mother is not the kind of vulgar woman who pulls everyone to talk about her daughter. Not only that, she rarely basks in her niece in her circle of friends, and even she is extremely shameless about sunbathing in her circle of friends.

In her words: "Be a low-key, low-key ..."

However, Xiao Qiu Ma, who always greets guests with a smile, has not been in the mood to receive her customers recently. My mother stood in front of the mirror and looked at the clothes while listening to Xiaoqiu's mother.

Ma Xiaoqiu is a member of the parents' committee, so she added many parents' WeChat messages, including Ma Xiaolin.

Xiao Lin's mother is old, and she is a madman who basks in babies. The records of the circle of friends are flipped through at will, which is simply a super full version of Kobayashi's growth diary. This annoys Xiaoqiu's mother who can't stand sunbathing.

"You say, she has nothing to bask in? I just signed up for the Rubik's Cube class, and I can't even level 3, so I bought a bunch of strange Rubik's Cube for my son and sent it to my circle of friends. What is there to bask in? "

"Didn't her son just finish his calligraphy homework? His handwriting is not good. What is there to bask in? "

"In the student skipping competition, her son jumped 160 times. How dare she bask in such achievements? "

"To have a parent-teacher meeting, the teacher didn't praise her son, but our family Xiaoqiu has been praised. I haven't even had a tan. How can she bask in it? "

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At some point, Xiaoqiu's mother couldn't help but lift her face slightly, and her nose made a contemptuous "hum" sound, with a disdainful face.

"You said please don't hate, send this stuff every day!" She handed my mother a new trench coat and asked herself.

"Yes, very annoying. Why not block such people? " My mother carefully compared the clothes in her hand, half perfunctory and half confused.

"This kind of person, a see be too spoil children, uneducated. For example, she sent a message that day ... "Xiaoqiu's mother didn't hear my mother's question or deliberately avoided it, and angrily accused Xiaolin's mother of all kinds of behaviors of drying babies.

I sat in the soft chair in the shop, holding my chin in my hands, listening with interest to Xiaoqiu's story and thinking about all kinds of new women and good mothers of the times.

In Xiaoqiu's various fancy examples and crazy spit, I only summed up two points in Xiaoqiu's thought-

First, there is nothing to bask in children's daily life.

Second, Xiaoqiu is a hundred times stronger than Kobayashi. I haven't basked in it. What qualifications do you have to sun it?

I have to say that Xiao Qiu Ma's logic is so powerful that people and gods are angry.

Despite Xiaoqiu's mother's disdain and disdain, I carefully looked at Kobayashi's circle of friends' duplicity while not degenerating. I really laughed at Xiaoqiu's spit.

First of all, I don't say that Xiaolin's mother is an old child, and she loves her children very much. I believe that every new mother who is a new mother will not want to miss the footsteps of her children's growth.

Occasionally, I will flip through old photos with my parents. I was born in the late 1990 s, and photography has not fully entered thousands of households. The digital video camera in my memory is also a newly added equipment after primary school. Only then did we get the first photo of our family.

Open the photo album. The first photo was taken when I was one month old. My chubby cheeks were wrapped in thick clothes, half-open for the camera, and I barely smiled.

The second picture shows me as a toddler, with my hands stretched forward, as if to reach something, and my short leg lifted off the ground and made a gesture of stepping.

Two photos that have missed so many years of growth are placed on the same page, only separated by a vague dividing line.

Mother rubbed the photo and couldn't help but feel "pity".

The conditions at that time did not allow her to record the moment when I grew up gradually, nor did she record the joy of witnessing my growth. Although she tried to describe me as a child, she always lost some warm interest because she was too abstract. In the TV series, the scene where the old man took out a thick photo album and pointed to the photo to tell the child a childhood story can only appear in her imagination.

Maybe it's a pity that my childhood memory is missing. Now my mother's mobile phone is full of photos of me, traveling, doing housework, pretending to be cute and ugly. ...

The circle of friends is originally a semi-closed platform for individuals to record life moments. I believe that Xiaolin's mother didn't maliciously brush the screen and didn't mean to show off. What she did, just like my mother when I grew up, tried her best to catch the tail of time, record every meaningful moment of the child, and remember the present years with photos and short words.

Secondly, I really don't understand why Xiao Lin can't compare with Xiao Qiu in some aspects, and why Xiao Lin's mother should be ashamed of her behavior of drying her baby.

Every child is an angel of parents, and every child is unique in the eyes of parents. Perhaps the fact is just like Xiaoqiu's mother said, Kobayashi's grades are not as good as Xiaoqiu's, and Kobayashi's hobbies are not as extensive as Xiaoqiu's, but what's the harm?

No matter how good other people's children are, they all belong to other people's families, and they can't envy them; No matter how bad your child is, it's your own, and you can't force it. Achievement and specialty may be one of the criteria for others to evaluate their children, but they should never be one of the criteria for parents to love their children.

Xiaoqiu's mother never sunbathes in a circle of friends and criticizes others for sunbathing, but she still can't help peeping at others for sunbathing, guessing what her children have learned and what they have learned, so that their children will not lose at the starting line.

Xiaoqiu's mother said "to be a low-key person", but she sought stronger psychological comfort from the disadvantages of other children and earned that weak sense of superiority.

She preached "don't compare with other people's children" all day, but forced her children to become other people's children. She peeked at other children in the circle of friends, and when she saw something better than her own, she couldn't help being sour, and when she saw something worse than her own, she was complacent.

If you ask me, there is nothing wrong with sunbathing. If you are willing to share other people's happiness, you like it; If you don't want to be wrapped in other people's information all day, it's not rude to block that person's circle of friends.

What is really disrespectful and disgusting is to peep tirelessly for psychological comfort and make irresponsible remarks behind your back to show high profile.

Finally, being a mother for the first time, let yourself and others go! Most importantly, let the children go.