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Two friends went to a long-cherished company for an interview. The interview was good and the major was right, but both were rejected. The two people reacted differently to this.

Friend A: Am I bad enough for this company? No I graduated from a prestigious school, and the interviewer is definitely not good. Not choosing me is a loss to their company.

Friend B: What's the reason for their refusal? What experiences and qualities do they value? I want to find out and learn from it. Call and ask, "What kind of experienced people do you recruit?" ? If I want to apply for your company again next time, what aspects need to be improved? I would appreciate it if you could give me some suggestions. "

After the person in charge asked him about the situation, the company finally agreed to admit him. It turned out that the rejection at that time was just a matter of thought. I appreciate his initiative and give him extra points. Finally, my friend B got into this company as he wished.

The above two different modes of thinking lead to two completely different results, which one do you prefer? Test and see if you agree or disagree in the following four sentences.

1 and 2 belong to fixed thinking mode, and 3 and 4 reflect growth thinking mode. Which mode of thinking do you prefer?

Carol Dwek, a psychologist at Stanford University, discovered the power of thinking mode. In her book Lifelong Growth, she shows that we have two different thinking modes: fixed thinking mode and growth thinking mode.

Thinking set believes that intelligence and talent are innate and fixed. If you are smart enough, you don't need to work hard at all. Setbacks mean failure. Poor grades, losing a game, being fired, being rejected … all these show that you are not smart enough and talented enough.

Growth thinking holds that personal ability can be changed and cultivated through learning. Hard work can make you smarter and more talented. Failure to grow and give full play to your potential means failure.

Note: the basic cognition of fixed thinking mode is that ability is fixed; Growth thinking is just the opposite, thinking that ability can be continuously improved.

There are many examples of fixed thinking and growing thinking in life, such as:

There are also many people who are "geniuses" in our view. They were not valued before they became famous, but they didn't expect their abilities to be so fixed, but they finally reached the peak in their respective fields through their own efforts.

When Darwin was a child, his academic performance was average and he was considered an imbecile.

Ben hogan (a famous golfer) was completely uncoordinated in his childhood;

Cindy sherman (photographer) almost made the list of the most important artists in the 20th century, but failed the first photography class.

Gilardine Peggy (a famous actor) was once advised to give up his dream as an actor because of his lack of talent.

Michael Jordan, a basketball superstar, was eliminated by the school team in high school, and neither of the two NBA teams who originally chose him signed him;

1, brain plasticity

Scientific research shows that the brain is as plastic as our muscles. When learning new things, neurons in the brain will establish new connections, that is, the dendrites of one neuron in the brain are connected with the axons of another neuron. If you strengthen your study on a certain knowledge, these synapses will be strengthened through constant stimulation and repeated reinforcement.

When we realize that we have made a mistake or encountered a challenge, our brains will be extremely active. In other words, making mistakes to promote the development of the brain is a process of better shaping yourself. We should change our attitude towards mistakes, from being afraid of making mistakes to being brave in trial and error.

In addition, the plasticity of the brain can last for life, that is, our thinking mode and intelligence can always be shaped and cultivated through training.

2. Deliberately practice and cultivate growth thinking.

Step one: accept? Accept your fixed mode of thinking.

Each of us has some fixed thinking patterns. Our mode of thinking is a mixture of growth and fixation, which is nothing to be ashamed of. But this does not mean that we should accept the fact that it appears frequently and accept the harm it brings to us.

Step 2: Observe clearly what motivates your fixed thinking mode.

When will the personality who abides by its fixed thinking mode come?

When I am under great pressure;

When I feel anxious and sad;

When I procrastinate;

Step 3: Name? Give a name to a personality with a fixed mode of thinking

Give a name to your fixed thinking personality, and then describe what it looks like, when it appeared, and what influence it has on me.

For example, when I am in trouble, my Duane will appear. He made me critical of everyone, arrogant and harsh;

Step 4: Education

Now that I know what triggered the fixed thinking mode, I have learned painfully about my fixed thinking mode personality and what it will do to you. He has his own name. So what we have to do now is to educate it. Educate it with a new way of thinking. Tell it: "Listen, I know it may fail, but I'm willing to try. Can you be patient with me? "

Fixed thinking mode personality is originally to protect you and make you feel safe. But it didn't find any way to do it. So it can educate it with a new growth thinking mode, let it accept challenges, never give up, make a comeback after setbacks, help and support others to grow up, and thus help and support you.

Finally, let us all have a growth-oriented thinking and let ourselves grow continuously!