What books should you read if you want to improve your temperament and knowledge?

Because of my work, I come into contact with many people every day. Everyone has different words and deeds, and these words and deeds convey to me different feelings, and these feelings are people's temperament.

For the most part.

Science-type people give people a calm and calm temperament.

People who do business appear to be talkative and active in thinking.

People who love sports have a tall and straight posture and a healthy temperament.

People who are more vulgar appear to be arrogant and mean.

Those who are particularly wealthy appear to be very low-key, very comfortable to get along with, and are obviously well-educated.

Students are quite innocent, with a youthful atmosphere.

If you have a temperament that makes people like you, you will not come across as aggressive, mean, bitter, or vulgar when you get along with them...

If you have a temperament that makes people dislike you, the opposite is true.

Your question is about what kind of books to read, right?

Answer, reading is just one way to improve your temperament.

Temperament refers to an individual’s relatively stable personality traits and style.

Once you understand this, you will know how to choose the direction of reading.

Make up for whatever is missing.

Improving temperament is a long-term battle, fighting against inertia, against desire, against fear...

First of all, I personally believe that "improving knowledge and temperament", reading is only one aspect of it.

Let me talk briefly about my own reading experience simply from the perspective of reading books.

First of all, you should pay special attention to your professional field. For example, people in accounting will take continuous exams and study for tax accountants and certified public accountants. It is certain that they will spend a lot of time studying systematically.

Secondly, there is the non-professional field.

Psychology should be involved, but just reading books is not of much use, just like the saying "It is better to have no books than to believe in books." What impressed me the most was a book I read called "The Psychology of Heavy Flavors". Although the name is special, I can find the resonance in it and conduct self-reflection based on the logic of the book. (ps: Combining oneself and applying what one has learned is the most important thing)

Regarding law, there is a book called "Understanding Legal Common Sense in One Book". This book educates readers on the law from all aspects. Including property disputes, legal protection methods for trade secrets, partnerships, consumer rights, workplace sexual harassment, agency, joint and several liability, etc. It can be said to be good news for those of us who are legally illiterate, preventing us from stepping on the wrong side of the road in life and work. Highly recommend this book.

In addition, there are books chosen based on your own interests and hobbies. For example, on photography, there are "The Art of Photography" - Bruce Barnbaum, "The Tips of Mobile Photography" - Yang Pin, etc.

Others are books that moisturize things silently. Recommended books include "Entertaining to Death", "The Crowd", "My Leader, My Regiment", "Traveling to the South and Returning to the North", "Brief of Humankind" History - From Animals to God" etc. I personally believe that the ultimate goal of improving knowledge and temperament is to become a special and independent self.

When you can give your own opinion on a certain argument, it is not copying other people's opinions, but an answer independently formed by your own brain. By then, what you have gained is not just knowledge and temperament.

"The road is long and long," *** Mian!

This question is relatively large and general, and there are many types of temperament.

In my personal opinion, temperament has two aspects: innate factors and nurture. What is designed to be innate should be related to personality.

First of all, you need to understand your own personality. If an introvert has to show humor and coolness, wouldn’t he be imitating others and make himself uncomfortable?

Then there is acquired cultivation, which is related to one's own living environment and nature of work, strengthening knowledge within the scope of professional knowledge, and at the same time cultivating one's own public knowledge, such as Chinese elegance, health preservation, tea ceremony, etc. In the Chinese nation, a humble gentleman who is elegant, polite, and loves the people will not be disliked by others at any time. ***Mian[Prayer]

What books should I read if I want to improve my knowledge and temperament? I personally think that reading some books will not solve the problem. You have to read a lot of books and read all kinds of books, so as to increase your knowledge. Only when your knowledge grows in place will your scholarly temperament be revealed.

From the perspective of cultural attainment, the first two books recommended are "The Analects of Confucius" and "Zhuangzi Chanhua" by Nan Huaijin, a master of traditional Chinese culture. The Analects of Confucius teaches people the principles of life and philosophical thinking about career planning, and Zhuangzi teaches people how to To cultivate the state of mind required to face different living environments, Nan Huaijin's two sets of books are compiled in lecture language and are very easy to understand and use.

It is recommended that you read: 1. Modern communication etiquette; 2. Language and interpersonal communication. In addition to reading books, you should also pay attention to observing people you think have temperament, listen to their words, and watch their actions. Inspire yourself from it.

To improve your temperament, you can read poems and songs, which contain too many classics of traditional Chinese culture, which can make a person have strong cultural self-confidence and be full of poetry and calligraphy. To improve your knowledge, you can go to Study some basic science books, such as mathematics, physics, chemistry, biology, to enhance your understanding of the world, or some social science books, such as politics, economics, philosophy, etc., to learn to think from different perspectives.

1. Eileen Chang's "Love" 2. Margaret Duras's "The Lover" 3. Colin McCullough's "The Thorn Birds" 4. Haruki Murakami's "Norwegian Wood" 5. Junichi Watanabe's "Paradise Lost" and "This Thing of a Man" 6. Qian Zhongshu's "Besieged City" (Mirror of Marriage) 7. Lawrence "The Rainbow", "Women in Love" and "Lady Chatterley's Lover"

8. Rabindranath Tagore's "Birds" and "Leaves of Grass"

Simply put, I think a person's temperament refers to the external manifestation of a person's inner cultivation or accomplishment. Temperament is the inner unconsciousness. The exposure of breasts is not just superficial. If there is no ink on the chest, no matter how it is decorated with gorgeous clothes, this person has no temperament at all, but will give others a superficial feeling. Therefore, if you want to improve your temperament , to achieve outstanding temperament, in addition to dressing appropriately and speaking appropriately, you must constantly improve your knowledge, moral cultivation, and constantly enrich yourself.

Psychology books (a little knowledge is enough) , as long as you know various common psychological laws, you don’t need to think that psychology is very profound. In fact, it also has shallow things). You can read some beautiful articles, classics, and poems if you are interested, but don’t be too superficial. What stories will, Bosom friend, forget it!

Read more classics, more history, celebrity biographies, poetry appreciation and calligraphy works. Try the above-mentioned external temperament and internal cultivation