Why do people who are reluctant to spend money also reluctant to love you?

On New Year's Day in 2009, India was still a very niche route. For safety reasons, I dragged my friend along and signed up for a group trip from Guangzhou. When I arrived at the airport, I was dumbfounded: there were 8 people on site. Four aunties from Shanghai who went to India to worship Buddha and buy medicine, two photography enthusiasts from Jiangxi who were traveling together, and the two of us. Because there were few people and there was no tour leader, a man in sunglasses came to collect a tip of US$35. When we thought there were only so many people in this group, two blind men came over. There was a man in his 50s, wearing a diamond-encrusted gold ring, a large square diamond ring on his ring finger, a RIMOWA silver classic flight suitcase, and an H-buckle belt. I tried to find a non-brand-name hot item on him, but failed. The uncle was full of the aura of going to India to show off our country’s prestige. The other is a young man, handsome and elegant, who looks like an uncle's secretary. He has a brand-name control that is lower than that of the rich man.

The two of them stood in the tour group, like a pair of financial sponsors. Everyone arrived and set off. Because they were strangers, each other was very reserved. The uncle and secretary disappeared after getting on the plane. They were upgraded to first class on the spot. When we arrived in New Delhi, the situation was worse than expected. The tour guide was unreliable and was more than 20 minutes late. His Chinese was poor. He introduced his Chinese name as "Lotus" with a playful smile and he had two girlfriends. The four aunts were frightened by the black bear-like "lotus". They lost their sense of security when they had to be with such unscrupulous people for the next six days. They complained loudly and discussed whether they should contact the travel agency to refund their money and return home. After nearly 6 hours of flight, everyone else was exhausted and just wanted to rest in the hotel. The aunts were still discussing relentlessly, and everyone was very irritable. At this time, Tuhao said: "It is fate that we are together, and Xiao Du is My secretary is a graduate of a prestigious university and speaks English well. Don’t be afraid. If there is no tour leader, Xiao Du will be the tour leader and negotiate terms with the tour guide so that everyone does not suffer. When you go out to play, it depends on your mood. Spending money will not make you feel bad. , you are at a big loss.”

His Shaanxi dialect was so impressive that it completely overwhelmed his aunt’s Shanghainese. Everyone followed the charlatan to the hotel obediently. Only Xiao Du looked very complicated.

As soon as he walked out of the airport gate, the cold wind was biting. The local tycoon was excited and asked Xiao Du: "Isn't this the tropics? Why is it so cold?" Xiao Du said with a bitter face: "I told you about the cold weather in northern India and China. It’s almost cold in winter. If you don’t believe it, just bring spring and autumn clothes.” Tuhao waved his hand and said, “I’ll buy it tomorrow! The heating will be fully turned on tonight.” The tour guide in Lotus said in awkward Chinese: “Our air conditioner is only cold.” Silent, his money was defeated by reality, and his lonely look was very cute. I silently handed over two warm babies: "You have a fever 24 hours a day. Let's make do with it first." He flashed his big eyes: "What should you do? Save others and save yourself first." I rolled my eyes: "I have a hot water bottle." The rich man said I smiled and said, "You're a nice girl. I'll buy you something tomorrow to thank you." I grinned and said, "I want something expensive." He hahaha: "Of course you have to buy something expensive to thank someone. I hate cowards who don't talk about money and only talk about feelings." People." My literary heart was shocked.

In the next few days, the rich man kept his promise. Xiao Du became the temporary team leader, coercing and tempting "Lotus" to fill in the gaps and maintain the basic standard of the trip. The four aunts bought the medicine with Xiao Du's help, and two professional photographers helped take pictures. They were very satisfied. People are in a foreign country, separated from their inherent environment, and feel relaxed and have no grudges. They think that they will be scattered across the world in a few days and may never see each other again. They are also willing to tell the truth to show their true feelings, so the whole group is happy and happy every day. When Xiao Du couldn't take care of me, the rich man followed me, wearing a brand-name cotton jacket that he finally bought in the tropical areas in winter. He bought food and drinks for me and my friends, and we explained the scenic spots to him. Both of us thought it was a good deal. Before returning, One day, the whole group went shopping in New Delhi to replenish supplies.

The rich man suddenly pointed at the Medusa portrait in the Versace store and asked me: "Who is this woman?" Although I am talented, the difficulty is how to explain Greek mythology clearly to a rich man. I thought about it and asked him: "Do you read martial arts novels?" He asked happily. I said: "This woman's name is Medusa, she is the Greek version of Li Mochou. She fell in love with a man, but was broken up by others. She was heartbroken. Like the white-haired witch, her hair turned into snakes overnight. She became a gorgon. She swore revenge and went to seduce other men. All the men who looked into her eyes would turn into stone..." The rich man interrupted me: "You girls are so scary. It’s easy to forget about love.” I found his serious expression funny, so I deliberately teased him: “Let me tell you a story. There is a rich man like you who fell in love with two women at the same time, one was his wife and the other was his first love.

The wealthy man was about to die. He left his property, cash, and career to his wife, and asked her to take good care of the children; then he called his first love in front of him, and tremblingly took out a book with a yellowed piece of paper in it. Leaves, the rich man held his first love's hand and said with tears, "This is the leaf that fell on your hair when I first saw you. I treasure it to this day. This is my most precious thing. I give it to you." "Does the rich man love his wife more or his first love more?" The rich man in front of me slapped his thigh: "I'm crazy! Of course I love my wife more, right? My wife said, where is the heart?" , Where the people are, the money is there. Just saying that I love you in my heart, but the people and money are not there, it’s nothing.

I curled my lips disdainfully: "To put it nicely, the money is where the heart is. Why didn't you take your wife with you to India?" The wealthy man lit up a cigarette: "We were both 20 years old when we got married. We ran the company together and she was very capable. But at home, one of us always wanted to be outside the family and the other was a family member. Later, she took care of her son and daughter at home and sacrificed her life." Very big.

Fortunately, now that our children are older, they can gradually share the work. She and I have been traveling around the world in the past few years. We have tried everything we have never been to, eaten or bought. We have been to all over Europe. , the United States, Canada, and Australia. She didn’t come to India this time because she really couldn’t get used to Indian curry, so I signed up for a group tour to take Xiao Du with me. You see, basically everything I bought was for her. "I remembered that the bags the rich man bought along the way were indeed women's. He put out his cigarette and said slowly: "Are the books and leaves you mentioned edible? Can I drink it? cannot. Eating and drinking are the foundation. If you don’t have the foundation, what kind of love is there?

Let me see, the so-called success of a man means that you are still working in the same company 20 years later, and the same woman is still standing next to you 20 years later. Your career and relationship are both long-term and benign. development. But men don’t understand much about these things when they are young. They always think that other people are doing well, and other people’s wives are good. Just knowing how to say nice things makes you women suffer. Emotions are not only nice to say, but also beautiful to do. "I was amazed by the rich man's profundity. He dug around in his shopping bag for a long time and took out a small Chanel carton: "After using so many of your warm babies and things I can't name, I bought a card bag. To express my sincerity, you are about the same age as my daughter, so don’t feel any psychological burden. You see, it is expensive enough and sincere. Remember, money is also a kind of sincerity. Men and women who are not willing to spend money for you will not give you much substantial help, let alone leaves. "

I never pretend to be polite or reserved. I took the small box and waved to the wealthy man: "Thank you. "The local tyrant waved his hand proudly: "Little girl, the people who support Chanel to survive today are not women like you who have inherited her spirit, but men like me who bought her bags for women. "Hahaha. I laughed so hard. This was originally the worst group I have ever participated in, but it became a special experience because of the different people. Where your heart is, where your people are, and where your money is, it may not be all about asking for it. The heart, the people, the money, but two words: "willingness". Only those who are willing to give up will be kind to others; those who are reluctant to give up are harsh on themselves, let alone others.