Yinchuan photography studio

Lori is a typical literary young woman. Since the day I met her, her Weibo signature is:

"My lover is a world hero. One day, he will wear a golden robe and drive a colorful auspicious cloud to marry me. "

She is a movie fan. After watching classic movies such as Red Sorghum, Xinlongmen Inn and A Chinese Odyssey, she has always had special feelings for the northwest region.

She said that she agreed with herbal tea that she must go to Ningxia in the future to see the shooting place of Star Ye's "A Chinese Odyssey" and let herbal tea propose to herself in the vast land of northwest China. She said that she even chose a place, that is, the tower where Xia Zi and Supreme Bao were reincarnated and kissed at the end of the film. She said it was beautiful just to think about it.

She and herbal tea are college classmates, different departments, and have been in love for more than three years in college. I have been in a different place since graduation, one in Beijing and the other in Shanghai. They have accumulated a pile of air tickets, train tickets and movie tickets back and forth, and have been using mobile phones and the Internet to keep each other warm. However, in their second year in a different place, herbal tea broke up and said he was sorry. He really couldn't stand the pressure at home.

Six months later, Herbal Tea got married, and the bride was what his parents called "the right person, knowing the root and the bottom".

On the night when I saw the wedding photos sent by the circle of friends of herbal tea, Lori called me for more than two hours in tears. She said that she was almost ready to abandon everything in Shanghai and go to Beijing to find him. She said that she had discussed it with her parents. Why can't we wait for her?

That night, she talked until her voice was hoarse and her mobile phone was dead.

I lost my mind for a long time after that day. Either the copy was written in a mess, or I copied the attachment by mistake when I sent the email. Several times later, I received a complaint email from my customer. The boss is getting darker and darker, scolding her for not wanting to quit, and losing a love will not kill her. Either she puts everything down and goes to work, or she comes back from vacation radiant. Don't sit there half-dead all day eating and waiting for death.

After three weeks, she replaced all the overtime accumulated in the past six months with rest. A total of ten days, she packed her bags and went to Yinchuan, Ningxia, where she always wanted to go.

She said that she would spend ten days banishing herself, burying her love and reopening it when she came back? Let's begin.

I said yes, I will wait for the Queen's triumph in Shanghai. I know very well in my heart that she just found a reason to escape from life because she can't let go. Even if she comes back from a trip, she may not be able to let go.

In those ten days, she saw the picturesque Helan Mountain surrounded by sand lakes from a distance, passing by the "half lake and half desert" south of the Yangtze River. Smiling like a flower in the blue sky and white clouds and reeds, sitting on a camel with bright fur and strong body, crossing the vast and desolate northwest desert. Walking into the tragic and vicissitudes of Zhenbeibao, I wandered back and forth on the narrow streets made of loess mud bricks. Touch the loess wall eroded by wind and rain, low-hanging wine flags, gaudy masks and ancient dead trees. ...

Everything is exactly the same as she once imagined, and everything makes her move, but no matter how beautiful the scenery is, it can't fill the gap in her heart. Like Xia Zixian, she didn't guess the ending of the story. Maybe she will meet someone else in the future, but the person who protects her will never be herbal tea again.

Before leaving Yinchuan, she put the movie tickets and train tickets accumulated when she fell in love with herbal tea in a chocolate tin box. It took her half a day to find a hidden corner and bury it under a crumbling earth wall. This is how she buried her love and memories.

Back in Shanghai, it's already 20 14 12.

She pretended to clean up all her memories of herbal tea and left all her sadness in Yinchuan. Go to work and get off work happily every day, afraid of doing something wrong because of distraction, and check every email, every document and every PPT repeatedly before each handover. Go shopping, eat, watch movies and chat with me on weekends.

But all these disguises were defeated by the bell of "the love of my life" when I was squeezing the subway home from work one day.

When she got home, she took off her shoes and lay in bed for an hour. At 8 o'clock in the evening, she got up, turned on the computer and changed Weibo's signature to:

If you have a prison in your heart, it doesn't make any difference where you escape.

(2)

The advertising circle is a magical place, where grass grows on her head when she is free, and Lori can be tired into a dog when she is busy.

Shao Ming and Kaige have been working hard in the Shanghai advertising circle for three or four years. One is the account manager and the other is the project manager. Both of them are abused by Party A every day, and they have no friends when they work overtime.

At a party last year, they got drunk and hit it off, waving bottles and screaming that they didn't want to hang out in this circle, and vowed never to be advertising dogs again. At the end of June, the two sent emails to the bosses of their respective companies, and Shao Ming's email was written into the composition of senior high school students. Brother Kay's words are concise, and the central idea is-I quit.

They "naked resignation" together, and they spent half a year playing all over Southeast Asia.

They bask in the sun, blow their hair, pick up girls, rent yachts to go fishing, worship Buddha, wander around Thailand, scouring handicrafts, and linger in Ho Chi Minh City, which is full of French architecture, wearing hats, riding motorcycles, drinking Saigon beer, eating Vietnamese spring rolls, and taking a lunch break against intertwined old trees.

There are only a bunch of overtime dogs left in Shanghai, watching them pretend to cross Qianshan, all kinds of envy.

After 65438+returned to Shanghai in early February, Brother Kai summed up a sentence: In the process of playing, one word was "cool", and when he came back, one word was "sad".

Originally, the two made an agreement before leaving Shanghai, and then bid farewell to the advertising circle completely, but after all, life is not a movie, and it will not be performed every time according to your written script.

Shao Ming was very good and easily achieved his goal. With the specialty of playing SLR for many years, he quickly found a job in a photography studio. After people saw his works, they asked him to report every other month.

Brother Kay, I stayed at home for a long time after coming back and thought about it for a long time. I don't know what to do in the future.

He studied chemistry in college, and he got low marks in his four-year undergraduate course, so he retaken the elective course. Plus, he entered the advertising circle as soon as he graduated, and he completely forgot about chemistry. It is unrealistic to engage in professional-related work again.

Other skills, he can only play games, but the level is not professional enough to be a professional gamer and earn money to support himself. By the end of the year, I had almost squandered all my money, and naked resignation's six-month chic had already vanished, leaving me with a sad face every day. The job introduced by a friend is also the position of an advertising company, either a project manager or an account manager, which is not much different from his previous job.

Finally, after a long struggle, he went to an advertising company introduced by a friend and returned to his old job.

After a while, the relationship between Shao Ming and Kaige became very delicate.

Whenever there is a party, Brother Kai always seems to deliberately avoid Shao Ming. One day, I couldn't help it, so I ran to ask Brother Kai what was going on. He didn't say anything, but being friends was boring. He planned his retreat before he left Shanghai, but he went around and returned to the original point.

I was silent for a while and said, "Brother Kai, didn't you hear a word? People's calmness comes from never worrying. "

Brother Kai made a big question mark expression and said, "I don't understand. Don't turn over the text and tell people."

I said, I really can't blame Shao Ming for this. Although at the party that day, I watched you two play with wine and hit it off, Shao Ming mentioned in front of us a long time ago that he would play photography instead of advertising, which was his way out. And you were so determined to stay away from the advertising circle. We thought you had plans, but you didn't ask.

His depression seemed to dissipate a little. He said, "Well, I didn't have any plans at that time. Is added less than half a year's class, IQ is almost smooth, just want to get out of this circle, escape from this life ... "

(3)

"There must be at least two impulses in a person's life, one for desperate love and the other for travel." This sentence written by American writer Andy Andrews in the best-selling book "Go to Heaven and Go to Hell" once swept the Internet, bewitched a large number of confused young people and liberated their restless hearts.

When a person encounters a problem that he can never understand, his instinctive reaction is to escape.

In modern society, people's favorite way to escape is to travel. Travel seems to be a kind of prozac. No matter the setbacks in life, emotional trauma or work, everyone's first thought is to leave everything life has given and stay in a completely strange place. It seems that as long as you leave your original post, all the problems that bother you will disappear.

But they forget that no matter how many strange roads they have traveled, how many beautiful scenery they have seen, how many strangers they have met and how many interesting stories they have heard, they will eventually return to their original lives.

Shao Ming's trip is to relax, explore and experience, so his trip is the happiest, and he is happy from beginning to end.

And Lori and Kaige, one is because of emotional injury, want to escape from work and life; One is that they want to escape from the original circle because of too much work pressure, but even though they have exerted some courage and courage, they have not returned to the original whirlpool in the end. What can't be forgotten can't be forgotten. Those who should work overtime still have to work overtime.

If you travel just to escape, it's the same everywhere. Because if a person's heart is bound by shackles, no matter how far he goes, he will only struggle in this round place. If the motivation to leave is just to escape from the existing life, then even if the journey is wonderful, the outcome will be the same after coming back. Because the mentality is wrong, what you understand and feel is also wrong.

-This article is taken from Lin Xia Satsuma's new book "I'm in my twenties. Why are you afraid it's too late?"