"I have no money, but I want to marry a wife."

After reading the topic, you will definitely say that in this day and age, marrying a daughter-in-law still costs money, vulgar! Vulgar!

However, in this era of rapid economic development, the gap between the rich and the poor is getting bigger and bigger, and many things are far beyond our imagination.

I read a book these days and was deeply shocked.

Ma, a photographer of National Geographic, wrote "Marrying a Wife in the West", "Walking in the Jianghu for 30 years, recording the bizarre and tortuous experiences of two farmers" marrying a wife "at zero distance, and the ups and downs of a small person in a big era."

What is "recruiting a wife"?

He is a bachelor with the hope of the whole family, holding a pile of RMB in his hand. Ten years ago, it was 10,000 to 20,000, and a few years ago it became 60,000 to 70,000. To "buy" a daughter-in-law is actually a bride price.

But this time it's not kidnapping women.

Because they went to Xihaigu, Ningxia, one of the poorest areas in China.

Lack of water and food was rated as "the most unsuitable area for human habitation" by the United Nations. The extremely backward economy has brought rampant patriarchal ideas. Even if it is strictly forbidden to check pregnant men and women, the bad habit of "more men and less women" here is far more serious than in the city!

Those 18, 9-year-old girls, who should have enjoyed their college time, usually left school early and went home. Their family conditions are very poor, and they can only hope to marry a young man who is not a local and comes from a better place. For them, this is the only way to change their fate and stay away from this remote place.

As a result, some people are willing to buy, others are willing to sell, and this market of "taking money to marry a wife" is thus formed.

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What impressed me so much was another reason-

Because I am the son-in-law of Xi Gu Hai, I take my children back to visit my grandmother every year. Of course, we fell in love freely in college, but we didn't get a wife, hahaha.

After reading the book, I have doubts. Is it really that poor? At least I don't feel so strong about poverty when I go back.

It happened that my brother-in-law came to Beijing to play these days, and I took him to tell me about my hometown. Is it true that everything mentioned in the book is submerged by poverty?

My brother-in-law told me several true stories about poverty, and I was completely shocked.

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There is a neighbor, a family of three, with only one brick house as the living room and one earthen house as the semi-leaky kitchen.

The only source of income for the whole family is farming.

A very ordinary peasant family, isn't it?

Not exactly.

There are three people in the family. My son is almost forty and he has no wife. Lying at home watching TV all day, only letting parents do farm work.

Why not marry a wife?

Because it's too poor. The local bride price soared from 1 10,000 to 20,000. After more than ten years, the minimum has now reached150,000.

This is absolutely unaffordable for a peasant family.

Of course, parents pay first-class attention to their children's marriage, but without money, it is useless to pay attention.

Family conditions have not changed, or income can't keep up with the rising speed of bride price. After such a delay, my son is already forty.

This deep-rooted marriage concept of "parental responsibility system" makes the communication between parents and sons almost zero. A family of three is not happy, but miserable.

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A friend of my brother-in-law, who is twenty-five, is finally getting married this year. At the age of twenty-five, I haven't married a daughter-in-law, and I am already an older unmarried young man in the local area.

But full of twists and turns.

Matchmaking, finally decided the bride price170,000.

However, when the two families sat together and talked about the money needed for marriage, such as "three golds" and new clothes, the two families fell out completely.

The woman's family asked the man to buy 10 thousand pieces of "three gold", that is, gold earrings, gold necklaces and gold rings, and buy a new suit for relatives of the whole family who are close to 10.

But the man thinks that the bride price is enough, not so much.

You come and go, bargaining, and finally because of the heart gap of about 5,000 yuan, the two families decided not to be in-laws.

Actually, you don't have to be in-laws. Let's get together and leave.

As a result, the man asked for a bride price deposit of 20 thousand yuan, which has been given to the woman. The woman thinks that since you have proposed and given the money, there is no reason to go back.

Ask for money, don't give it, say no, sayno. Finally, the man took the whole family to the woman's house to make a scene, and the two families were heartbroken. In the end, they refunded 10 thousand yuan, which was a compromise solution.

Ten thousand dollars, why bother?

But if this 10 thousand yuan is a patchwork of life-saving money, how can it not make people despair?

Or because you are too poor.

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There is a family in the village with three daughters and no son.

Actually, more than three daughters.

In the countryside, if you don't have a son, you will be looked down upon.

So, be sure to have a baby.

But life is a daughter, and rebirth is a daughter.

On the fourth daughter, the couple decided to sell her daughter.

Run to the county hospital, obstetrics and gynecology have specialized in this business, a child sold thousands of dollars.

To the fifth, or daughter, also sold.

I wonder, will that mother be heartbroken and regret it?

I think, yes, every mother will be heartbroken and her children will be taken away.

But in such an environment, it is better to give it to others if you can't afford it, and you have become someone else's child before you enjoy your mother's arms.

Is this happiness or pain for the hungry child?

It may not be true. Maybe the family they brought is in good family conditions?

You don't have to suffer with them anymore.

Because of poverty, the pain of those families may be more easily numb or even lost.

6、

There is an old lady in her seventies in the village.

Single, childless, but with ten daughters.

Ten daughters are not biological, but they are all adopted by themselves.

Why only raise daughters?

Because the son is raised, it still costs money to marry a daughter-in-law, and the daughter can get a lot of bride price when she gets married.

Therefore, the old lady is actually doing the human flesh business.

However, for those daughters, they may also be happy to be sold as human flesh.

Because all the people who come to the old lady's place have extremely poor family conditions, their parents can bring their daughters here, feed them and get thousands of dollars.

Although the old lady spent thousands of dollars on her children, she kept them for ten years. As soon as the children got married, she got hundreds of thousands of bride price, and the investment rate was dozens of times.

I asked my brother-in-law: Is this kind of thing left unattended?

Brother-in-law replied: they are all poor like that. Zf doesn't care, it can only wait for death and can't sell them.

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The story is over.

When we enjoy the dividend of this era of peace and development, don't forget that there are still so many people struggling in poverty.

We despise the rural people's preference for boys over girls, their greed for money and their low quality.

However, have we ever wondered what we can talk about if we live in such a bad environment?

Lack of money sometimes breeds the evil of human desire for money.

Similarly,

Being rich also breeds human nature and despises the evil of not having money.

It's done.