What you don't know behind homosexuality

It turns out that "I'm hungry" is a very test sentence.

Say to mother, "I'm hungry." Mom will get up immediately and say, "I'll make you whatever you want to eat."

Say to dad, "I'm hungry." Dad would smile and say, "OK, let's go out to eat."

Said to her boyfriend, "I'm hungry." He would whisper, "What do you want to eat? I will buy it for you. "

Say to your girlfriend, "I'm hungry." She always answers, "Me too."

So more and more boys choose to find boyfriends. ...

At first, I was shocked by the bloody ending. However, in today's diversified life, this is no joke.

Some time ago, a girl added my WeChat through WeChat group. After a few words, she suddenly asked me inexplicably, "Are you gay?"

I answered clearly: "I am straight, and I have been straight all my life!" " ! ! "

She immediately apologized and said, "I'm sorry, because there are too many homosexuals in Beijing. Sometimes I have to make sure."

I wasn't angry at that time, because, as she said, there are really many homosexuals in Beijing, and they, like us, are struggling to grow up in this bustling city. I still remember the first time I met a gay man. I was a lesbian. It was in Zhuo Zhan Starbucks Coffee Shop in Wukesong. I sat under the window and drank a latte. I saw two beautiful women sitting in front of the desk and chair next to me, one with short hair, a cold beauty, and the other with long hair, but they made a surprising move soon. The short-haired woman naturally hugged the long-haired beauty's shoulder, and the long-haired beauty kissed the short-haired lips with great cooperation, and then they left hand in hand.

I left with a puzzled face, holding a cold latte in my hand and never taking a sip of coffee.

At that time, my worldview was about to collapse. What makes me sad is not that I saw gay show love with my own eyes, but that those two beautiful women are obviously the type that most men will like. Why not give us men a chance?

I think the love between two beautiful women is not only harmful to men, but also cruel.

That was the first time I saw homosexuality with my own eyes. It's shocking and I feel a lot, but I'll get used to it after watching it too much.

I remember when I was in middle school, I first heard about homosexuality. At that time, we thought homosexuality was an abnormal behavior, belonging to an abnormal category, with a small number and a case. So the word "homosexuality", like discriminatory words such as "you old glass" and "you are gay", has become a weapon to attack and insult others in a fight. Now these words are mostly just a joke between friends.

This is the way to grow up. Who didn't grow up looking at something they haven't seen before?

It's like when a boy confessed to me for the first time and scared me away. I chose to escape and deleted everything about him. I'll never see this man again. Later, another boy confessed to me that I would take this matter seriously and make my position clear. Please respect each other. The reason for this change is that I met someone later, so I have a more objective understanding of homosexuality.

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A few years ago, I attended a company's literary evening. During the activity, I met a friend named Chen Feng. I think he is a very positive person. He thinks I am a literary fan, probably because we have many interests and hobbies, appreciate each other and become good friends in the long run.

After graduating from graduate school, I have been engaged in film and television media. He is tall 1 m 78 and handsome. He is a male god in the hearts of many girls. When the two of us were attending an activity or a cocktail party at the same time, we met a strange girl, and more people always asked him for his phone number and left WeChat, which really made me envy. But he seems to have a quirk and doesn't like to give his contact information to a strange girl casually. Even if girls are beautiful, they often refuse, which is not my style at all.

Once, the two of us were drinking alone, and I gently advised him: "If a girl adds you to WeChat, you can tell others. It is not good to refuse directly, so others will have a bad impression on you. "

He said, "She's not my date. What do I want them to do with me? "

I asked faintly, "Have you ever been hurt by a girl?"

He said cheerfully, "Yes."

I had a drink with him, and then I asked, "Chen Feng, can you tell me the reason?"

He looked at me, hesitated, and finally told me briefly: "I once chased a girl, which was very beautiful." I loved her to the bone marrow and did everything for her, but later, she married a man who was richer than me. Since then, I have never liked girls again, as simple as that. "

He kept laughing when he said these words, which made it difficult for me to know whether his smile was much happier or more sad. Of course, I prefer his smile to be happy, a free and easy relief from the past, otherwise how could he know me with such positive energy now?

He taught me many things, such as script conception, media writing, photographic composition and so on. He is very enthusiastic, willing to help others, and also very capable. He knows a lot of things that I can't, so I always think of him when I encounter problems, and he is not too tired. No matter how stupid I am, I will teach me patiently.

I remember one night my computer broke down and I couldn't open the web video. It suddenly occurred to me that he had studied computer maintenance, so I called him. He detected something wrong with my computer system through remote operation and needed to reinstall the system.

Where can I find a computer repairer in the middle of the night? There are still papers to be sorted out tonight. I'm as anxious as a cat on hot bricks.

Chen Feng suddenly said, "Then wait for me. I really don't like your uncomfortable appearance. "

In the evening 1 1, Chen Feng takes a taxi to my residence, which takes about an hour from Chaoyang District to Haidian District. Then he helped me install the computer system. After everything was handled, it was almost three o'clock in the morning.

I said, "I don't think there is a taxi at this point. Why don't you stay with me and leave tomorrow? "

Then he said, "My 7 o'clock train is going to Chengdu on business. I must go back now, or I will miss the train."

I said, "What should I do? Can I still take a taxi now? "

He thought for a moment and said, "Don't you have an electric car?"

So he rode away on my electric car, never looking back, alone, free and easy.

As a result, there is not enough electricity. When I arrived at Tiananmen Square, there was no electricity. This buddy hasn't lost it. He even sent a Weibo saying, "I caught up with the flag raising today!"

After singing the national anthem, he left my electric car on the side of the road and took the subway to Beijing Station to catch the train.

Most people think I must be very touched. I stayed up all night just to help me repair my computer. What I want to tell you is that I didn't, because my electric car was still thrown near Tiananmen Square. Later, I abruptly pushed it back to Wukesong from Tiananmen Square and pushed it back! I will never forget this product in my life.

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The story seems to have changed in an instant. ...

I once saw him sorting out his graduation thesis in the office. I asked him, "haven't you graduated?" Why are you still writing your graduation thesis? "

He said: "I have never passed my graduation thesis before, and now I have to write it on a different topic."

I asked curiously, "Why can't I pass?" Can you show it to me? "

He hesitated and said to me, "Do you really want to see it?"

I deliberately said, "I'll help you modify it." Maybe it will pass, and there is no need to rewrite it. "

He said, "Then you should be mentally prepared. Then hand me a stack of printed graduation papers. "

I took over his graduation thesis, which was really a surprise. The topic of the thesis is: Research and analysis of the current situation of homosexuality in China.

I flipped through his graduation thesis at random and felt the air around me condense instantly. The short silence made me seem to notice something. Really ... so is he ... impossible ... I try to stay calm and pretend to be indifferent. I said, "This topic is a bit sensitive. No wonder it didn't pass. Ha, it's okay. I will definitely have another one. "

He didn't speak, as if he had seen through my pretending to be calm, which made me even more scared, because I couldn't believe and didn't want to believe that this handsome and talented Ucg, regarded as a male god by many girls, would be gay.

I forget how we said goodbye that day, but I feel that the brothers who were inseparable and like-minded in those days suddenly became so strange, as if they were separated by Qian Shan and Yin and Yang.

The next day, Chen Feng called me and said, "Do you have time now? I have something important to tell you. "

Hung up the phone and suddenly fidgeted and panicked. His words made me feel nervous and uneasy, and I guessed for a long time. Although I have long anticipated what the important words mentioned by Ucg are about, I am more afraid of injury. I'm not afraid that he will confess to me that he is gay, and I'm afraid that he will tell me that he likes me and so on. If he confessed to me, how could I refuse him? Can our friendship continue after rejecting him? All kinds of similar imaginations make me nervous.

Chen Feng chose the small restaurant where we usually eat, or drank 56-degree spirit Erguotou. He sat opposite me, but I clenched my fist nervously.

After a glass of wine, he finally spoke.

"Zuo, you are a very open-minded person. I think you can be worthy of confidence, so today, I want to confess something to you."

When Chen Feng said these words, my hands were sweating all the time, but I still pretended to be calm and said, "Say what you have to say."

Fortunately, he told me, "Left, I have a boyfriend. We have a good relationship. We are going to get married, but as you know, we can't get married. It is impossible now. "

With these words, his expression suddenly became dignified, but I secretly breathed a sigh of relief and felt relaxed.

In this world, as long as it doesn't affect other people's lives, we should choose respect. It's just that when something happens around you, you feel beyond a person's ability. It needs the help of all of us, and this appeal is urgent for our lives.

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Chen Feng said to me, "Zuo Xiaoqi, I want to quit my job and study English at Beijing Foreign Studies University."

I asked him, "Don't take such a good job to learn English. Are you crazy? "

He said: "I want to learn English well, and then go abroad to get married with my boyfriend."

At that time, I first felt a strong attack. It turns out that gay love is so bumpy and great!

Later, I consulted a lot of information, news and videos about homosexuality. I don't know if it's because of my understanding or because of Ucg. I used to think homosexuality is a kind of psychopathic behavior, but later I found that many homosexuals are more sunny than us and full of better expectations for this society. They seem to know what love is better than us.

Doesn't my favorite idol Leslie Cheung love him very much? As we all know, my brother Leslie Cheung came out. Before his death, he and her boyfriend Tang Hede openly held hands in Hong Kong and Taiwan, regardless of outside views. He has always gone his own way and lived among homosexuals. No one questioned his sexual orientation before and after his death, because he openly loved him.

Nowadays, when it comes to celebrities coming out, many people's first reaction is undoubtedly Cai Kangyong who exposed her sexual orientation as early as 200 1.

At the recording scene of the program after 14, Favor Cai felt that coming out in those years made him an example in the circle, even a "mentor" figure: "Anyone in the entertainment circle who wants to come out will ask me first. There are also many stars in the circle who are not so familiar with me. They will secretly send text messages through friends and say that he wants to come out. " Talking about this experience, Cai Kangyong quipped, "Then I'm out of luck. I am the only one who is still alive. " There is no lack of helplessness in banter.

However, he proved his words with practical actions. "The only thing I can do is to prove to my parents that we are not monsters and we can live a good life in the world."

16, 17 In May, Sun Wenlin, the plaintiff in the first case of gay marriage registration in China, and Hu Mingliang, a homosexual, held a public wedding in Changsha. Although the lawsuit was rejected by the court, they still held a wedding and got a marriage certificate.

Nowadays, more and more people express their understanding and support for homosexuality, and more and more countries have established legal provisions for same-sex marriage.

How many homosexuals are there in China? I can only say that there are many. Although the official statistics of China are blank, according to the international standards introduced by Wikipedia, many studies show that the global homosexual population accounts for 13% of the total population, so there are1400 million people in China. According to the ratio of 13%, there will be182 million homosexuals in China, equivalent to the total population of Japan, which is really shocking.

Since there are so many homosexuals around us, we should respect each other more, shouldn't we?

If you are gay, you should respect your homosexuality; If you are heterosexual, you should respect other people's sexual orientation. Don't look at others with discriminatory eyes, and don't joke about such a sensitive topic.

I have never laughed at Ucg, let alone discriminated against homosexuals. Just like Ucg is going abroad to get married, I think he knows more about love than I do.

Then again, although same-sex couples who have the financial ability can choose to get married abroad, some people will enter formal marriage, and some people will still enter heterosexual marriage. Since more and more countries in the world have legalized same-sex marriage, I think the demands of same-sex couples in China for legalization of same-sex marriage should not be ignored.

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Not long ago, I saw a widely circulated wedding robbery video on the Internet. When a man and a woman were having a wedding, suddenly a man came to rob the wedding and made a scene. Then the plot changed dramatically. The man who robbed the wedding didn't rob the bride, but grabbed the groom and ran with him. The bride is chasing her husband in a wedding dress. I don't think this matter can be laughed off as a public opinion, because the most important thing is that the groom really ran away with the man who robbed the marriage, otherwise the absurd thing of the bride chasing her husband on the road in a wedding dress would not have happened.

Seeing this video, many people will exclaim, this is really a world full of miracles, and anything strange will happen. But some people will say: it turns out that only homosexuality is true love. However, there is no relevant law to protect the rights of homosexuals in China. They still live in the shadow and can't see the light. Occasionally, a few people dare to stand up and defend their rights, but we regard it as news, as a topic, as a talk after dinner, and then go away.

After two presidential terms, Obama told everyone: "I am more optimistic about the future of the United States than before. I know that America is full of courage, joy and creativity. I know that America is noble and generous. African-Americans, Europeans, Latinos, Asians, aborigines, young and old, homosexuals, heterosexuals, disabled compatriots and all supporters of the Democratic Party all belong to us under the same proud banner.

Among them, Obama mentioned homosexuality and heterosexuality, both of which belong to the legal and normal right of human existence, and some parts of the United States have begun to recognize the legitimacy of same-sex marriage. Throughout the world, not only the United States, but also the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal and other countries also recognize the legality of same-sex marriage.

China still has a long way to go in dealing with homosexuality. Although this road is bumpy and the topic of homosexuality is sharp and complicated, it will never be the solution to stand by and wait for death. We should treat it positively from the perspective of human nature and give homosexuals a normal and legal right to exist.

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I think of my friend Ucg, who once thought about going abroad to get married. Suddenly one night he called me without saying a word, only to hear him crying on the other end of the phone ... We have experienced too many joys and sorrows, and now we are more and more indifferent to emotional setbacks, but Ucg's cry, like a sword, directly poked into my inner weakness when I was unprepared.

Yes, they broke up.

Under the pressure of family, society and public opinion, Chen Feng's boyfriend finally broke up and chose to marry a heterosexual. He may have fulfilled the expectations of his family and the national marriage law system, but he did not complete his love. Maybe he will have children and grandchildren in the future, but will he be happy in this marriage? I'm not sure.

If homosexuals are not recognized by law, then they can only live in the shadow, hide their sexual orientation for various pressures in life, and then find a heterosexual marriage and have children against their own nature. This is not only unfair to homosexuals, but also harmful to everyone.

There is no need to avoid it. Around our lives, there are indeed some people whose sexual orientation is different from others, but they are also working hard for this society. Homosexuals, like us, have the right to survive and develop in this society, and such rights should not be violated even if they are thoughts.

I am a straight man, I can't feel the hardships they have experienced, but I want to say to the gay people and the whole society. To paraphrase a phrase that we are very familiar with, I can disagree with your lifestyle, but I am willing to defend your right to live a different life from mine.

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