This is how women with high emotional intelligence fall in love

Women with high emotional intelligence can use these three tricks to make men fall head over heels for them!

It is divided into three steps:

1. Temptation

2. Surprise

3. Brainwashing

The first step is temptation - "creating role attractiveness"

The model of relationship between the sexes is actually the "sense of role"

A woman's ideal boyfriend role is "lover + father + Lan Yan + Husband”.

In other words, our ideal girlfriend role is "lover + daughter + beauty + wife".

Lover:

The characteristics of a lover are amorous feelings, sexual desire, and sexual power.

There is no man who does not love beautiful women. If you add the word "sexy" to it, this woman is simply invincible.

For men, the role of lover means vague charm, half-covered sexiness, and eroticism that is still lingering.

This is simply an irresistible temptation!

The lover living in a man's heart is actually a kind of psychological sustenance. Men will pin their dissatisfaction and longing for their wives on their lovers.

In a man's mind, the role of a lover not only possesses all the advantages of a wife, but also possesses something that a wife lacks (sexy power), and is a perfect existence in a man's heart.

Therefore, if you possess the qualities of a lover, men generally will not flirt with women in reality.

The "lover role" plays a huge role in maintaining marriage and love.

Daughter:

The characteristics of a daughter are dependence, protectiveness and coquettishness.

A man’s long-lasting love for a woman is sex and protectiveness.

The characteristics of a daughter are that she is loved and hated at the same time, and she wants to take care of her, which can greatly arouse the protective desire of men.

There is a good saying:

"The more a woman loves someone, the more she likes to make trouble with him, annoy him, annoy him, and bully him, but men will not pay attention to this. In According to the logic of male animals, only women who worship him, coax him, and act coquettishly, and are starry-eyed when they look at him, truly love him."

A woman who knows how to act coquettishly, It has irreplaceable charm for men.

Beauties:

The qualities of beauties are confidants, spiritual resonance, and emotional strength;

In most cases, the wife is A nagging confidante, while the confidante’s role is that of a “listener.”

The beauty will understand and feel the various emotional changes of the other person personally, and understand what the man really wants to hear.

They know when to listen and how to listen to make a man feel that they understand him better.

Wife:

The characteristics of a wife are comrades, companionship and support.

For example: When your man is criticized by his boss for something he does, do you encourage him or scold him? When his business fails, do you encourage and help him, or do you pat his butt and leave?

If you criticize him at this time, it is a sign of lack of support for him.

He will find you less and less sexy and less attractive.

When he is in a low mood, is not going well at work or is wronged externally, this is the time when his inner defense is weak.

He hopes to be accompanied by a "comrade-in-arms" who has the same goal, communicates with each other, and works together to accomplish one thing.

Behind every successful man is a successful woman, which means that this woman has strong support.

She is not a vase in the ordinary sense, that is, a woman who combines beauty, wisdom, and gentleness.

What’s more important is that we can work together with him in his career, give him a safe haven and support him when he is depressed, and be the strong little woman behind him.

The second step is surprise - "The charm of role reversal"

A man's ideal type is always the "new woman"

A man will If you like a certain type of woman, you will get tired of it one day. You know, men always have a constant pursuit of novelty.

So the core of reversal is the charm of role reversal. Be a versatile girl and constantly make him fall in love with you again.

The charm of the ever-changing woman comes from unexpected reversals. She can always show a different side of herself.

Being with such a woman is an adventure for a man.

For example:

You are originally a sexy beauty, but you say "Actually you just look sexy on the outside", but in fact you are very introverted and shy about sex on the inside. The reversal of;

You obviously look like an innocent little girl who is not deeply involved in the world, but unexpectedly you have your own clear views and opinions, and you know how to deal with others wisely;

You usually seem to be a capable and strong character, but suddenly one day, you reveal your clumsy, weak and emotional side in life. Men will have a desire to protect you, and even feel like "I can't do it without being by her side".

Do you understand the power of "role reversal"?

Of course, the girls are not asked to directly adopt roles that are completely opposite to their own settings, but to cleverly mix some contrasting elements into their main roles.

Only by equipping yourself with different reverse charms can men be curious and cherished about you forever!

The third step is brainwashing - "Let a man be devoted to you"

From the beginning to the end of a relationship, a smart "scumbag" will continue to brainwash the man.

And those good girls who have no strategy and do not know how to brainwash are often passive in getting along with men.

How to brainwash men?

1. Pursuit stage

You must establish your own "prize thinking", treat yourself as a prize, let men see it, fight for it, get it, and repeat it continuously to strengthen this process.

This will make a man fall in love with you like a man and feel that it is an honor to have you.

Only by holding the prize attitude of "If you are not sincere, I will not consider dating you" and constantly improving yourself to build enough prize will men cherish you more.

The key point of this step of brainwashing: you are a precious prize, not a cheap thing that can be owned at will.

2. Initial stage

The focus of this stage is to let him understand that he should devote himself to you wholeheartedly.

If you want him to treat you well and sincerely pay more for you, how should you brainwash him?

You should tell him more about the details of your relationship with your father or older brothers and sisters. You can talk about your father's thoughtfulness and love for you, and your little admiration for him.

Because a man is naturally competitive, and he likes you, you are not allowed to always speak well of other men in front of him, even though this man is your father.

Therefore, in his subconscious mind, he will have the consciousness of "competing" with your father or brother, and then he wants to treat you better, surpass your father, and steal your admiration and love for your father. .

At this time, the focus of brainwashing is: I have always been in a state of being loved, and I deserve better love, so you must be good to me!

This is the positive brainwashing of men.

You need to let him get used to the way you have been loved all the time, and tell him how you have been loved by others.

But if you always mention your experience of being hurt, he will slowly and unconsciously follow your past bad patterns in treating you.

3. Getting along stage

The brainwashing in the running-in stage is actually the construction of the framework.

Similar to the brainwashing tactics used by scumbag men, you can also treat them as follows:

① Occasionally suppress them to make you feel that they have earned a lot by having you.

② Deliberately say what type of man you like, such as being gentle and considerate, able to cook, and able to take care of men.

The purpose is to turn him into a good man who obeys your words.

③ Don’t love him enough, but pretend that you already love him so much that you can’t help yourself.

That is: strategically despise the opponent, and tactically attach importance to the opponent.

In fact, it is the technique of "fake giving".

"Fake giving" is to mobilize the other person's subconscious mind. Through giving to him, he will subconsciously feel that you like him very much and it is worthwhile to treat you well, and he will follow your actions as an example. Come and give more to you.

Men are actually more realistic than women. If you don’t give him any sweetness, he won’t be able to fully mobilize his enthusiasm!

So if you want the other person to pay more based on this mentality of a man, you must set an example and give him something sweet first.

Note:

"Fake giving" is real giving. It means that you don't like or love the other person that much, but you have already made a warm and affectionate gesture. This behavior will make the other person feel that you love him very much.

True giving means doing it. Most of the false giving means it is a bit like drawing a big pie. I will draw you a big pie, or I will give you only a little, or I will not give you anything at all. Make you feel that I am good to you.

Fake giving is very interesting. If used well, it can greatly enhance the "feeling" of love, reverse the situation of being chased by no one, and greatly increase one's self-confidence and charm in the relationship between the sexes.

A friend of mine, Xiao Ai, is a girl with high emotional intelligence and understands the principle of false giving.

She recently had a boyfriend, and he was very good.

She just had a crush on boys at first, but she didn’t really like them, and their chat was not very lively.

One time, Xiao Ai said to the boy, "I just had this flash in my mind." There was a scene where we were walking on the beach, walking on the sunny beach. I was wearing my favorite white dress, and suddenly you splashed water on me. It was so annoying.

The boy’s eyes lit up after hearing this, and he continued to ask what happened next very enthusiastically. I don’t know why, but the sun, the beach, the white skirt, and Xiao Ai being splashed with water always appeared in the boy’s mind. look.

Just because of Xiao Ai’s words, the boy began to pursue Xiao Ai very enthusiastically. Later, they actually went to the beach on a date...

How did he know that Xiao Ai It was by giving falsely that you planted yourself in his heart.

Love is a science. There are rational laws to explore and wonderful strategies to learn.

If you want to have a good relationship, you must understand a man's heart, and take the initiative to flirt with him while grasping his psychology, so that you can flirt with ease.

How do girls with high emotional intelligence fall in love?

Why did he say he liked you at the beginning, but then said he had "incompatible personalities" after getting along with you? Why are the two people obviously in love but unable to stand the test of time and drifting apart?

There may be only one reason. You have become a "disqualified" woman in love. Your emotional intelligence is not high enough and you don't know how to love someone correctly.

There are many girls with high emotional intelligence around me. The biggest thing they have in common is that they have a clear understanding of themselves and their love partners, what they want, and what the other person wants. what it is, and then decide decisively whether they are truly suitable for each other.

My favorite in "Ode to Joy" is Andy. She has high emotional intelligence and IQ, and she is always decisive and appropriate in doing things.

She speaks simply and directly. She met netizen Qi Dian for the first time. After a brief conversation, she asked Qi Dian: "Are you married?" It’s not polite, but in terms of personal interactions, I need this sense of propriety.”

I couldn’t help but sigh, this is a girl with high EQ and IQ.

Such a girl will probably never let herself get into some trouble that is constantly being sorted out and messed up. Because they know that while making others feel comfortable, they must also be able to protect themselves well.

Girls often ask me: How can I find the right person?

There is no single standard for "the right person" in love. It’s honey to one and arsenic to another. What others think is right may not be right for you.

Only by constantly cultivating your emotional intelligence, taste and judgment can you prevent yourself from missing out on a good fate or being indulging in a wrong love.

Reading countless people is not as good as reading people skillfully.

Instead of hesitating and waiting in the face of love, it is better to cultivate yourself into a girl who is "good at reading people".

01 Show weakness + act coquettishly (know how to release needs and guide the other party to meet their needs)

In fact, showing weakness and acting coquettishly are not a personality, but a skill.

When you have a need, and the other party cannot satisfy you even after expressing it explicitly or implicitly, on the one hand, you will feel a little resentful, thinking that he may not love you enough if he does not do this; on the other hand, Next time you encounter the same thing, you might just bypass the other person and do it yourself. Anyway, it's a waste of words to find him and you'll end up feeling angry, so you might as well just do it yourself.

The more this happens, the easier it is to give the man an idea - it turns out that if I don't do it, my girlfriend will do it on her own. Slowly, you do more and more, and your boyfriend does less and less. The deeper your resentment becomes, the less your boyfriend thinks you are needed. If there is another one at this time who can be coquettish and coquettish, it will be a real "green tea bitch" ", your relationship is over.

Why is he unwilling to help you when you ask for help?

It is very likely that you are asking for help in the wrong way. Next time you can try the "green tea" trick: showing weakness + acting coquettishly.

Showing weakness and acting coquettishly are intertwined, and the core is "you don't know how + specific plan + irreplaceability + expectations".

For example: If you want a boy to buy you a ticket to a popular concert, you can say this:

"Dear, this ticket is really popular. I bought it before I tried several times but couldn’t get it (you don’t know how). You are very good at computers, and I heard that your friends are also very good. Can you help me get the ticket? (Specific plan), no one around me knows how to do it. , I can only think of you (irreplaceable), I know you will definitely help me, right? I am your favorite little sweetheart... (expected)"

The top hat has been given to him I put it on, do you think he will pick it up? Men can't get used to it, something will definitely go wrong if they get used to it.

02 Emotional Management Ability

Many times, when our tempers rise, we often ignore them and dislike everyone we see. We like to overturn a boatload of people with a bamboo pole, and our lovers are the closest friends. Existence, of course, is always on the sidelines.

"The world is as black as crows! You men all behave like this!"

"Don't think I don't know what you men are thinking!"

" If you hadn’t failed to live up to your expectations, why would I have quarreled with others over this matter?”

(Man: .......)

Do you think you’ll be done with it after losing your temper? It's over, I feel good. I guess he will be fine. He is a manly man and won't be angry with me over these trivial things.

But the words you say are like a knife, piercing the other person's heart bit by bit.

Believe me, stable emotions will benefit you a lot, whether in life, work or emotional relationships.

03 Balance the proportion of love in life

A female friend I know, after falling in love, wants to be with her boyfriend every second, including her best friend and best friend. , colleagues all forgot about it.

What’s even more frightening is that in the process of their sinking, they will eliminate all non-essential matters that conflict with love, such as friends, hobbies and other things, and only their boyfriends will really be left. Men will do this too, but men will only do this during the period of love. After the period of love, men will definitely return to this society, return to work, and return to the world that men should have. In this way, women It usually feels like the man has changed his mind and no longer loves her.

On the other hand, Green Tea is devoted to the whole process of falling in love, but at other times she dances, sings, illustrates, plays the piano, draws, and plays with her best friends. She is so rich that she does not need it. At this time, it was the boy who was anxious, "Why did she say she was unavailable when I asked her out? Didn't I do a good enough job?"

At this point, you should take out your own notebook and list your An interest that I once wanted to do but never realized.

Such as feminine interests (yoga, flower arrangement, dance, cooking), masculine interests (basketball, football, King of Glory), gender-neutral interests (photography, movies, mountain climbing, hiking), get moving and let They enrich your spare time life.

Here is a useful piece of chicken soup: Doing these will not only allow you to have an independent personality in your emotional life, but also moderately reduce your needs and expand your social circle, so that the pattern will improve.

The reason why Green Tea is a bitch is because they always hope to use their own charm to maximize their interests, and these interests are often lethal to others.

But a sincere girl who learns these high EQ love skills will definitely not be looked down upon by others. On the contrary, you can become a better lover and get a better love.

In a relationship, your emotional intelligence determines how comfortable the other person is with you. A woman with high emotional intelligence is more important than having a beautiful face and a perfect body. For a man to choose, a woman with high emotional intelligence is more likely to be liked by a man. Do you know what behaviors can improve your emotional intelligence and make your relationship more comfortable?

Don’t complain and blame, be passionate about life

When two people get along, they often behave like a complaining woman. Women who are often negative and complaining and blaming are the most incompetent for men. Endurable. Emotions are contagious, and no one wants to live with a negative energy body. If you encounter some unsatisfactory people and things in life and don't know how to put yourself in someone else's shoes, how can you understand others? Everything is relative. Don't judge a person or thing easily or complain to your partner. A woman with high emotional intelligence is not without worries, but when she faces worries and difficulties, she will divert her attention, maintain a positive attitude and lifestyle towards life, and will not let negative emotions overwhelm herself. .

Give more support and encouragement, learn to communicate and communicate

Women with high emotional intelligence know that what men need most is support and encouragement, and they are very good at making the other party feel warm during the communication process. There are always many advantages in the man you like. If you can explore more of his strengths and tolerate his shortcomings, he will be a great man in your eyes. No matter what difficulties he encounters, a woman with high emotional intelligence is always obliged to provide support and encouragement, so that the other person is full of motivation to face the difficulties. At the same time, in communication, you know how to hide your negative emotions and not affect the other party. The communication between two people is more about emotional communication. If you know how to provide him with good emotional value, you will be the most important person he relies on.

Know how to listen and take responsibility

Two people cannot have exactly the same thoughts. Everyone has their own unique opinions on things. Women with high emotional intelligence will not choose to argue when they have different opinions. Instead, they will choose to listen and try to understand the other person's thoughts from a different perspective. When a man encounters difficulties, a woman with high emotional intelligence will not choose to escape, nor will she easily promise to help him. Instead, do your best, bravely take on responsibilities, work together with the man to advance and retreat, solve problems head-on, and silently assist him.

The above points are all behaviors that women with high emotional intelligence can do to make men feel comfortable and warm in love. They can always control their own emotions, take care of each other's feelings, and make the other person get along best with them. Comfortable and comfortable. Such women and men always gradually develop a high degree of intimate dependence and become increasingly inseparable partners.