How do you feel after watching the movie "Love Myth"?

Love myth is an urban group drama, which is different from the stereotyped image from the perspective of a male director. The film was shot by female directors, and the female images are vivid and charming.

The film is set in Shanghai and tells the story of three women with different personalities:

Miss Li, a single elite, has all kinds of gloria and exquisite female beibei. Because a Shanghai man is old and white, there are countless entanglements.

All three women like Lao Bai, but they don't want the dust to settle.

The conflict between their inner nature and love, the contradiction between safety and vagrancy, because of a romantic relationship, collided with an intriguing spark.

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Miss Li: a player on the edge of love

Miss Li is a single mother and her ex-husband is British. After the divorce, she took her daughter alone and lived in her mother's house.

She has a decent job and a good income.

However, trapped in the trivia and trivia of life, the desire for love in youth has been extremely realistic by life.

Under the glamorous appearance, she is full of worries about the house and children's tickets.

A man, who was once the only one in her life, has now become a seasoning.

Laobai is one of the men that Miss Li has seen. After watching the play together, their eyes conveyed a tacit hint.

Lao Bai is mysterious: Let's go.

Miss Li generously suggested: Go to your home!

As a result, the two had an intimate relationship.

Lao Bai is a divorced art teacher, and his attitude towards life goes with the flow.

Besides holding art exhibitions to satisfy vanity, my lifelong wish is to find a second life.

After a spring night, he thought he had found love, so he happily started a "love breakfast".

Unexpectedly, Miss Li didn't intend to continue this relationship at all. She had already slipped on her clothes and slipped away while Laobai was not paying attention.

That cautious attitude is like a "cheating" man.

Only enjoy the pleasure of love, not take the responsibility of love, many people think that this will only happen to men.

In fact, both men and women have the same dilemma:

I want to have the pleasure of romantic intimacy, but I don't want to bear the pain of conflict and dispute.

Psychologically, this is called "avoiding conflict": we are eager to get one thing, but at the same time we are unwilling to accept another thing that comes with it.

Just like good wine, drinking too much will inevitably make people hesitate under the consideration of avoiding it.

Miss Li's choice may also be the choice of most people:

Passion comes, accept, and let everything happen naturally;

Passion is gone, weigh the pros and cons and make the best decision for yourself.

It seems to be free and easy, but it is particularly sober.

Old white gave her a picture of her own painting, eager to impress her, she just responded:

When I was young, I would be tempted by this painting, but now I'm not.

The love of middle-aged women is just a timely glass of wine. After enjoying the happiness of drunkenness, they still have to face life alone after waking up.

As a result, Miss Li wandered among men, but refused to develop a stable relationship with anyone.

To her, a man is like a cigarette at the window in the dead of night.

Although intoxicating, after the fragrance is exhausted, only a faint sigh remains.

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Gloria: Flowers that dare to love and hate.

Gloria is an old white student, although there is a layer of "teacher-student love".

But she publicly expressed her affection for Lao Bai and made no secret of her inner enthusiasm.

She has a charming appearance and a sweet voice, calling "Lingling", which makes people feel numb to the bone.

Gloria has a husband, but she is missing.

She said to the old white:

My husband is handsome. He was kidnapped for engaging in illegal transactions, and the kidnappers demanded a ransom of 25,000 yuan.

The ransom figure became the money she threw out when she bought Lao Bai's paintings in order to get rid of the relationship with Lao Bai after the spring breeze.

Twenty-five thousand, that's the weight of a man in her heart.

"Rich and idle, her husband is missing", Gloria lives a comfortable and unrestrained life.

After a one-night stand, she will give money to men and help Lao Bai prepare exhibition venues. It seems that she is the strong party in the relationship.

But this movie is three-dimensional:

People have no strong side. Vulnerability and strength are always two sides, and they go hand in hand.

Gloria will talk to Laobai, pour out her bitter feelings, and be eager to be understood.

But when Laobai really tries to get close to her, she will put on the mask of "Hua" and isolate the true feelings with charm.

She likes a maverick life, but she is also easily influenced by the outside world.

When she sat at the same table with Beibei, Beibei sarcastically said: It is incomplete for a woman to have no children in her life.

She replied:

It's a lie. I can make it up. A woman is incomplete if she has never lived for herself all her life.

Gloria, like a beautifully packaged gift box, forcibly broke into a man's world with her body, but never gave her heart to the other person.

She can show men how exquisite and unique she is, but only she knows what's in the box.

For Gloria, the most important thing in life is not men, but self-esteem, self-confidence and self-love.

She longs for a high-class life, even at the expense of loneliness and vagrancy.

Therefore, even if her husband is missing, she is not alone, but loves her and smiles happily.

Live a life you like and pay for a moment of passion, which means "I am responsible for my actions".

If a man can't be responsible for her life, he must be responsible for himself. Isn't this firm outlook on life a wonderful gesture of independent women in the new era?

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Beibei: a woman with budding independent consciousness

Beibei is Lao Bai's ex-wife. She is a delicate woman. After the divorce, she was addicted to tango.

Is also a nostalgic woman, always obsessed with old white.

About the reason for their divorce, the film gives an ironic truth:

Beibei said, "I just made a mistake that men all over the world will make."

Cheating after marriage, this tragedy always happens to women and men.

Lao Bai was very unhappy when he heard this, but you and I both smiled in front of the screen.

Both men and women are lonely, lonely and confused, which makes the process of growing up inevitably accompanied by mistakes.

But even if the intimate relationship breaks down, it doesn't mean the relationship is over.

Beibei knew that she had done something wrong, out of guilt and compensation. She didn't draw a clear line with Lao Bai and appeared in his life from time to time.

Beibei's boyfriend is from the north. She doesn't like her son looking for a girlfriend in the north, saying that "northerners and southerners don't get along."

Old Bai heard this and said angrily, Your lover is from the north, too.

Visible beibei is not really in love with her boyfriend, but her boyfriend let her find out:

There are all kinds of relationships in this world. Marriage is just a relationship. It is an elective course in life, not a compulsory course.

Therefore, Beibei does not intend to remarry with Laobai, although it is not practical to look at Laobai's admirers.

Deliberately choking Miss Li and Gloria "have been with me for decades, and once they are separated, they become hot items".

But deep down, doesn't she want Laobai to be happy? The former mother-in-law wanted them to remarry, but Beibei said that Laobai wanted to find another marriage.

The torsion bar is real, stingy and atmospheric. Beibei, like a polyhedron, truly shows the complex psychological activities of middle-aged women.

And her rejection of marriage and love is a way out for women to grow up.

After decades of marriage, I realized that I didn't love the person in front of me. How many women have the courage to stop loss in time like Beibei?

Beibei is not infatuated with Laobai, but appeases her past self by taking care of Laobai.

It seems nostalgic, but in fact it is to bid farewell to the past. After decades of marriage, she finally became herself. Beibei is eager to explore a life path of her own.

Some people say:

There is no love, there is no myth in love myth, only sober self-consistency after love is broken.

I am convinced.

Whether it is Miss Li's rationality, Gloria's free and easy, or Beibei's growth, the three attitudes towards feelings have nothing to do with love.

In other words, they didn't put love in the supreme position.

It is good to have love, but it is not bad without love. Because I can love myself, weigh the relationship between sex and love in my favorite way, and live a good life.

Self-knowledge, enjoy yourself.

Perhaps this is the charm of middle-aged women:

Knowing that life is full of broken and struggling, and still moving forward in the broken, we must break through the routine and find our own way.

All three women had a late rebellion, like a dark fire, which quietly burned the grassland.

At the end of the film, three women watched the classic film "Love Myth" together, but they were sleepy, adding some words to break the theme of the film:

In the life of middle-aged people, love is no longer lofty. Even if they still long for love, they can switch between love and life with ease.

The only constant is to love yourself.

There is no need to crowd the wooden bridge of "marriage" with thousands of troops. No matter how much you invest in a relationship, it is better to apply nutrients to yourself.

Loving oneself is like planting a fruit tree, gradually degenerating and subliming, growing its own shape, and the final harvested fruit will inevitably add color and fragrance to life.