Which expert proposed that you only remember 200 people in your life?

Huang Bo. Huang Bo: I only remember 200 playmates in my life. Develop my artistic cells Source: Youth Weekend December 18, 2009 08:33 Let me say a few words (0) Copy link Large, medium, small, large, medium, small, large, medium, small ◎ Text/Reporter of this newspaper Yan Xueling◎Photography/our reporter Lu Jiazuo On December 7, a reporter from "Youth Weekend" had a long talk with Huang Bo for an hour at an apartment club in Chaoyang District. This was three months after the initial interview invitation. He has been very busy in the past two years, starring and guest-starring in many movies, and attending many programs and events. In his own words, "I can be found everywhere." Now, the "model worker" has finally become the best actor, and he became the Best Actor at the 2009 Golden Horse Awards. When the reporter arrived at the interview location on time at 1:30, Huang Bo was already sitting there. He looked sleepy and tired, because he hadn't slept all night again. "Since I returned to Beijing on December 2, my teachers, classmates and company have been celebrating with me. It was Changying Factory again last night... which is also a happy thing." Huang Bo said. Hou Hsiao-hsien told me not to lose my simplicity. "In Hainan, I lay on the beach without thinking about anything. I was in a daze and read a book. The busyness in the previous period made me suddenly discover the preciousness of leisure." Huang Bo said that the biggest thing for him now is Happiness is a moment of leisure time with family and friends. Even in the suburbs of Beijing, where he used to film every day and never felt happy, he found new pleasure in leisure. "Some time ago, I gave up all the fun and went to the suburbs with my friends. We fished, dazed, and threw away the phone. What a joy!" ■Work has become a "job" and it's boring. Youth Weekend: After winning the award, you Just sleep when you say you should, and do whatever you need to do. After years of hard work, can you maintain such a calm mind? Huang Bo: Before going to the Golden Horse Awards ceremony, I didn’t think it was such a big deal, nor did I have high expectations. Come on, you can tell from other people's attitudes that this is a big deal, haha. It's okay, what can you do? Not much at all. Youth Weekend: You are a “model worker” to begin with, but you may become even busier in the future? Huang Bo: A while ago, one movie followed another, with almost no gaps. At the end of the year, when I watched it, almost every movie had me in it. Many are guest appearances. This is not okay, it is tantamount to overdrafting the trust of the audience in you. Really need to slow down. It's impossible to accomplish a lifetime's worth of work in a few years, so take your time. I once wanted to do everything in one go, but later I discovered that things can never be done. The best way is not to do it! Youth Weekend: You said, "Nowadays, people have become busier, and there are fewer and fewer exciting moments." Huang Bo: For more than two years, I was filming every day, almost without a day off. This in itself should be a job that I like, but it gradually turned into a "job". This is no longer interesting. Youth Weekend: Has work become a “job”? Huang Bo: Let’s film. I can’t stand filming one after another. I'm not the type of actor who can't get out of a play, but there has to be an entry stage. The process of pondering and figuring out the character before each play is quite painful, but it's also where this job brings you happiness. If all of this is gone and you just come back, without knowing whether it’s good or bad, then what’s the point of acting? Just to make money? ■If you understand it, you will fall easier. Youth Weekend: People are so contradictory, right? Huang Bo: Yes, this thing is a siege. Now if you tell people this, they might say, then why are you working hard? Isn't that pretending? People have asked me a long time ago, do you want to be famous? ——Think about it, being famous in this industry means you are successful. But there are a lot of things that come with it that I don’t like very much. Youth Weekend: This may be what Guan Hu said is the most valuable "simplicity" in you, right? Huang Bo: When I was filming his first movie, he let me establish a good concept, that is, acting should be simple. He said you must not imitate some people’s mistakes in acting, and don’t “act”. He said that none of you are tall and powerful, and none of you are tall and handsome. The most precious thing about you is simplicity. Later, after the performance, everyone's affirmation of me was also of this quality. When I went to receive the award this time, director Hou Hsiao-hsien also said that it’s time to make money, but don’t lose your natural simplicity. Youth Weekend: Simplicity is also a state of mind... Huang Bo: It's amazing, it suddenly became popular. But I’ve seen a lot of people before who got very excited all of a sudden, and then became quiet again after a while. Does it mean a lot? After a moment of glory, the rest of the time will be so painful. Once I was having dinner with a guy. He had long since stopped being popular, but he still insisted on asking for this or that. You still have to hold it there, but in fact there is nothing left. I figured this out quite early, but that's all. When I went to Beijing Film Academy, I was surrounded by many old artists. They were very popular when they were young. When they are old, they dress very simply to buy groceries and haggle, which is quite satisfying. If you understand it, you will fall more gently. I am a Virgo and I don’t know how to say no. Before today’s interview, Huang Bo kept drinking coffee and tea to refresh himself because he was too tired. After the "Youth Weekend" interview, he has two more interviews. He often couldn't remember how many things he had to do every day, and he had to rely on his agency and assistant to remind him, but he remembered the gatherings with friends very clearly. "I'm going to be a guest at Guo Tao's house tonight," Huang Bo's tired voice and demeanor became brighter when talking about Guo Tao's son who was less than three years old. "Oh, you know, his son is growing up too fast. Young man.

real! …” ■The only thing a person can remember in a lifetime is 200 people. Youth Weekend: You said you want to slow down, can you really do it? You seem to have a lot of friends, and there are many people who invite and ask you for help? Huang Bo: You Looking at my phone book, there are at least 600 phone numbers in it. When I saved people’s phone numbers in it, I must have interacted with them. In fact, I can remember about one-third of the people in it. That's not bad - then I read a book, which said that there are only 200 people we can really know and remember in our lifetime. It's true - sometimes when I get a phone call, people will say: Huang Bo, What are you doing...I asked, I'm sorry, who? He was still very enthusiastic: I, so and so... I still can't remember. What should I do? It's hard to refuse when a friend asks you, right? It’s my problem, I’m not very good at saying no. I’m a Virgo, I’m quite hesitant, and I’m embarrassed about everything, so I was busy with too many things some time ago, and I frowned at my plans every day. Oh, I forgot about this. Sometimes someone asked me to do a movie, and I said I'd wait and see, but in the end I didn't go, and they said you might as well refuse me. In fact, I was confused. After getting married, I suddenly heard from others that you have become his best friend. It's normal for everyone to do this. It's better than everyone hating you. Youth Weekend: Do you know how to say no now? Huang Bo: Later I was too busy and had no choice but to say no. Then I found that it was good to say no. : You said that you have met a lot of people over the years, good people, bad people, stingy people... You were talking about this in a playful manner, but it was actually not as easy as you said, right? Huang Bo: It must have been that way at the time. It's painful and angry, but after you become more objective, it becomes fun. Some people were completely unreliable. When I talked to someone, the person said: I will pay 10 million. You release an album and then promote it, 2 million! ... When I heard it, wow, what a big boss. After the negotiation, he said, if you give me some money, I will give you a ride - that's what happened at that time. Very angry: What should I talk about with this kind of person all night? But looking back, this is also a fortune. Isn’t this a comedy life? Huang Bo: It’s okay. I subconsciously like to observe and imitate others. When I sang in the evening, we always talked about who was on stage and who was doing something ugly, such as who stuttered and who pretended. ...Everyone was very happy, and it became the entertainment item in the evening. Later, I used it all for acting. ■My childhood playmates developed my artistic talents. Youth Weekend: When you are young, you go to the singing hall and, in your own words, make your way in the world. Over the years, I have met all kinds of people. Is it difficult to maintain a positive and simple attitude? Huang Bo: I have had this idea before: how powerful my eldest brother is, and how he is followed by a bunch of younger brothers; or I think it is great to have money and drive a good car. Later, if you are surrounded by angry young people or enterprising people, they may subtly change you. Slowly come into contact with more thoughtful people, they will tell you a lot of things and reorganize your thoughts. I am very grateful to Zhao Li, a very popular singer in the 1980s, who sang Teresa Teng's songs very well. Haven't seen her in years. At that time, we were still in the singing group "Blue Wind Sand", and we were looking forward to the future but also confused. She gave us a lot of encouragement. She is very peaceful and maintains an optimistic attitude towards the future no matter the good or bad times, which helps me a lot. Besides, people still have their own nature. Youth Weekend: Only with optimistic friends and an optimistic attitude can we persevere... Huang Bo: It's okay to say that I have suffered so much before. If you can persevere in singing, you will always have greater expectations. At first I wanted to go to a singing club, but then I thought Qingdao was boring, so I went to other places. I went to Guangzhou and then wanted to go to Beijing. Before arriving in Beijing, I always felt that there were things I didn’t know about, and I always felt that the future would definitely be better. This support is quite important. The only uncomfortable thing is being in Beijing. When I arrived in Beijing, I discovered that it was the same. It was time to sing in a singing hall, but your dream of signing with a company and releasing a record was still far away, and the fire in your heart was extinguished. Beijing is your last place. You can't go to Hollywood, right? At that time, we could sit there for half an hour every day: What am I doing here? I'm very scared and don't know where the hope is. This is the most uncomfortable. Walk? That means you will leave your dream forever; won’t you leave? It really can't give you anything. Youth Weekend: How did you survive it? Huang Bo: Gao Hu encouraged me a lot. Including starting to take me to film, recommending me to play Guan Hu's "Get in the Car, Let's Go", my film and television debut. He even took me to school for exams. He graduated from Chinese Opera that year. In his eyes, everything is hope, and he also passed this emotion on to me. Youth Weekend: Choosing your neighbor makes sense. Huang Bo: It’s strange. Originally, my family was not suitable for the growth of an artistic talent. When I was a child, my father could only turn off the tape recorder at home, but not turn it on. He really can't stand me listening to music at home all the time. But my best playmate when I was a kid lived on the same floor as me. He liked to draw, and he had a bit of a literary bent. He would draw one hundred and eight generals when he had nothing to do. That may be quite important, it was my early artistic development. Singing was my only recognized merit back then. "What I get is always above my expectations, so I'm very happy." Huang Bo's mentality is very peaceful. It turns out that after more than ten years of hard work, in his eyes, the joy outweighs the pain.

He said that he has had this McDull spirit since he was a child, very "2" and very optimistic. Speaking of the "suppression" he has suffered since childhood, Huang Bo's favorite word is "get used to it." He is not a good boy in the eyes of traditional parents. He has poor grades and keeps getting into minor troubles. Finally, in the second grade of junior high school, I found "the only recognized advantage", which was singing. After finally wandering on the road of literature and art for many years, Huang Bo returned to campus in 2000 and became a good student. "I have been in society for so many years and then came to school. The excitement is different from that of being admitted directly from middle school." At Beijing Film Academy, Huang Bo felt that every day's rehearsals, going to the cafeteria to eat, and going back to the dormitory to sleep were all special. good. "At that time, I attended every class, from the photography department, from the art department..." There was a lot of information that he didn't understand every day. He also handed in seven sketches a week. He didn't just think about it, he had to edit it, and he had to arrange it. "That state makes me feel very happy." Youth Weekend: When you are in trouble, you have friends to encourage you. Where is the family? Huang Bo: Actually, the pressure mainly comes from family members. My sister said you can't keep fooling around like this. Later, taking the exam for the dubbing department of Beijing Film Academy also gave me a reason to stay in Beijing. Be honest with yourself and others. Youth Weekend: Did you take a different path than your parents expected? It seems that after you played "Crazy Stone", your parents said, didn't you make a fool of yourself? Huang Bo: My mother is a teacher and my father is a government cadre. He is very serious and educational. When I was a child, I woke up and saw a note hanging on the light cord that turned the light on and off. I opened it and read: "Time is money. Cherish every minute and every second, kid." After reading it, I went to the toilet, washed my face, had something to eat, and sat down at the table: Well, there was another sign in front of the pencil case, "There are roads in the mountains of books, and diligence is the path, and there is no limit to the sea of ??learning, and the boat is hard work." Youth Weekend: They didn’t expect you to be involved in singing and performing. Huang Bo: Singing was the only thing that could be recognized by others at that time. My parents have really high expectations for me. But I haven’t been good at studying since I was a child, and I still shop blindly. He skipped classes, signed his own names, and even set a mountain on fire in our park. Fire trucks came. I didn't expect to get into such a big trouble. In autumn, there was a pile of hay on the ground. I was short of hands, so I went to light it. Unexpectedly, it started to burn as soon as the wind blew. My classmates and I were so scared that we ran away. It even made the news. My parents always scolded others when they went to work, and when they came to our school after work, they were scolded by our teacher. So when he came back at night, he beat me up. My dad broke the belt. Youth Weekend: What does the teacher say to you? Huang Bo: In the past, our teachers did not provide encouraging education and criticized you until death. I suffer the fate of Xi'er every day. I was always late. I was afraid of being grabbed by the dean when I walked in from the door, so I climbed the wall. Once I parked my car next to a wall and jumped off the wall, right in the middle of our principal, dean and class teacher. When I looked up, I was confused. The three of them were stunned when they saw me. Then there is a round of "praise" from the whole school. Youth Weekend: Did you feel depressed at that time? Huang Bo: I’m used to it. One time I scored over 80 points in the exam, which was a lot better than the previous score of over 60 points, but I still ranked last. When I got home, I said I had made progress, but someone had to be at the bottom. Because of these words, he was beaten again. My expectations for myself have always been pretty low. It wasn't until I attended the school's New Year's Day party in the second grade of junior high school that I sang a song "Looking Back Again". All the teachers and students in the school were in the audience, and everyone responded well. Singing gave me confidence, and nothing else had given me confidence before... I just kept going.