A top ten thousand sentences

Originally, I saw the title of this book, and I think this book probably uses a story of a native China to illustrate a truth. There is a golden saying that is worth 10,000 words, and this wise saying can make readers realize. But I was wrong, totally wrong.

The background and characters in the book do have strong characteristics of the times, telling the lonely life under the background of a specific era, but the story is extremely simple, as simple as telling ordinary people around us. After gossiping about this family, let's go on. From Henan to Shanxi to Shandong, the fates of those who sell tofu, donkeys, pigs, mourners, water carriers and steamed buns are intertwined. Looking at the whole story makes people read a little heavy, but also some understand.

The whole novel has only one theme, which is called "easy to get along with but difficult to get along with". It is more useful to say one word to people who can get along with each other than to say 10 thousand words to people who can't get along with each other. This is the general meaning of the topic. I chose two parts from the book that I personally found particularly interesting to share. It sounds like a rotten old saying, but it explains unexpected new meanings.

One,

Two thousand years ago, Confucius wrote a sentence, "It's a pleasure to have friends from afar." We all thought we were old friends from afar, and we were very happy. But one Mr Xue in the book explained, "None of you understand Kong's mind. Whether this distant person is a friend or not still needs to be said, but because it has nothing to do with yourself, you can rest assured that you can tell him what you are thinking. If you say it from the heart, you will be comfortable. "

Does this explanation mean anything against common sense? We can find some examples in and out of the book to prove it. First of all, in the second half of the book, the protagonist Niu Aiguo thinks that there are three people in this world. "It's not that you can borrow money from them when you are short of money, but that you can ask them for advice when you have something, but when you encounter something difficult or don't understand, or make up your mind. Or if you don't have anything specific to say and feel sad, you can sit with them for a while. When you sit down, you can express your worries and unload a lot of burdens from your heart. Mourning is not specific and rambling. I can't say it if I want to. I will say nothing, sit for a while or say something else, and my heart will be much easier. " One of these three people, Feng Wenxiu, who lives in the same town as him, Du Qinghai, a comrade-in-arms in the army, and Chen, a resident cook at work.

Later, when Niu Patriots reached middle age, they didn't point to Feng Wenxiu, who was closest to them, but chose Du Qinghai, thousands of miles away, to tell their frustrations. There is no reason in the book, but it is obvious from Kong's words and the reason why he broke up with Feng Wenxiu completely later. Feng Wenxiu is two people when he is drunk and sober. Once he is drunk, there is no door in his mouth, so when Feng Wenxiu is drunk, Niu Aiguo generally doesn't talk to him. Later, Niu Aiguo's mother died. She bought ten Jin of pork from Feng Wenxiu's pork shop, but forgot to pay when she bought it. But that night, Feng Wenxiu's wife was good at asking for money, and Niu Aiguo was prejudiced. First, I forgot to pay the money just because I had something on my mind, and I really forgot, and I didn't mean not to give it; Second, even if there is no money, isn't his friendship with Feng Wenxiu worth ten catties of pork for many years? So Niu Aiguo told the people around him about the injustice in his heart after getting drunk that night, and this was passed to Feng Wenxiu's ear through others, which was naturally another taste. Two people come and go, from one thing to another, one thing can pull out eight things, pulling out all the concerns of the other party about their sincerity for so many years, so the two people no longer associate.

This is the best explanation of Kong's words in the book. Whether people far away are friends or not has to be said. He has little to do with himself in the distance, so it doesn't hurt to say something from the heart. The relationship between Feng Wenxiu and Niu Aiguo naturally brings a lot of personal entanglements, so it is not surprising that they have a bad relationship. Next, let's look at Kong Old Master Q's words from the recent examples around us.

In life, we are not like this. When talking to acquaintances, we have to weigh some inappropriate words in our hearts. It's not that we are afraid of hearing what he said coming out of his mouth, but that we don't know what people think, so naturally we dare not tell them all the truth. On the contrary, chatting with strangers online is just a hot topic. Anyway, who also don't know who, dare to say anything from the heart. In the past, Renren.com and Intranet were so popular that such a big school flourished under the guise of empty-headed alumni. However, if you look at real-name registration system at first, you have forcibly turned the net friend relationship into an acquaintance circle, so everyone began to talk carefully again, but they had to say something, so they made great efforts to take selfies, post and post. These things really take up a lot of thoughts, which naturally blocks the efforts to say something confidential. Do you think those netizens on intranet and Renren are really your friends? I do not think this is necessarily the case. But you can tell him all your worries. Are you happy? That is absolutely happy. So what you said about the hole is explained like this?

Second,

Next, let's talk about things that can and can't be said. In fact, there are two kinds of books that can be said and can't be said. One can chat with friends, and the other can chat with women. But even if you meet someone who can talk, you won't keep talking, because people will change; Sometimes, even if you meet someone who can talk, you will miss it for various unexpected or unexpected reasons. These words have been kept in my heart and accumulated slowly. In the end, they killed life and corrupted people, so I had to continue wandering and looking for them.

Niu Aiguo thought he had three people who spoke well, but later he couldn't even say one. With Feng Wenxiu, the stubble of ten catties of pork triggered a series of reactions, while with old comrade-in-arms Du Qinghai, the idea of giving himself and his wife Pang Lina was crooked, and there would be no more below. It was a long time before Chen, the chef he knew, broke up naturally. Of course, Niu Aiguo later met some other people who can be said, but once these three people who can be said most in his mind can't say anything, it will inevitably be a little sad over time.

There are many words in the book that describe what I said to my friends, so let's take a passage and let people taste the story between saying and not saying.

"Niu Aiguo met Du Qinghai in the middle of the night when he was a soldier in Jiuquan. One patrols from east to west, and the other patrols from south to north. I met him in Zhenkou, checked the password, borrowed a lighter to smoke, and the two met. They chatted casually, and the more they talked, the more they talked. After the first conversation, the two chatted until midnight and went straight to the camp to blow the wake-up call. When thousands of troops came back from the resurrection, blood samples poured out in the east.

Niu aiguo was a little confused when he was a child. When he says something, he doesn't know where to say it. It's easy to say one thing to another, or one thing to two things, or two things to one thing. Du Qinghai speaks slowly, but clearly. He finished one thing and said another. You say one thing, bones are bones, meat is meat, and they are neatly packed. Niu is in trouble in the army. If he can't think clearly, whether it is feasible or not, and can't make up his mind, he will save it. A week, I can always save some trouble; On Sunday, I went to see Du Qinghai. They are on the Gobi desert, driving or sitting by a weak river. Niu Yi said one by one, Du Qinghai peeled the meat and boned it one by one to help the cows make it clear. Du Qinghai was in trouble and told Niu that he was patriotic. Niu Aiguo will not let go, but will only say, "What do you say?" Du Qinghai had to let it go by himself. Put a piece of code and ask Niu Aiguo. Niu Aiguo said, "What do you think?" Du Qinghai will release it himself. A few "what do you say?" Du Qinghai also made his code name clear, and both of them were much lighter.

Later, two people were demobilized, one in Shanxi and the other in Hebei. Niu got married and had children, and his wife Pang Lina had an affair with Xiao Jiang of East Asia Wedding Photography City. Depressed, she took a bus more than 1000 miles to Hebei and found Du Qinghai. After dinner, in the evening, Du Qinghai put on clean clothes and led Niu Aiguo to the Hutuo River. This day is the fifteenth day of the lunar calendar, and the moon in the sky is so big. The water of Hutuo River flows quietly in the moonlight. Two people seem to be back to five years ago, in the army in the Gobi desert, sitting by the fragile river, talking to each other.

Three years later, Niu Aiguo realized that Du Qinghai's advice about Pang Lina was fundamentally wrong. "

Another kind of conversation is with women. Niu Aiguo doesn't like to talk, and neither does his wife Pang Lina. Everyone thinks he is right. They have been together for two months, and they feel right. I got married, had a baby, and started seeing each other without saying anything. At first I thought there was nothing to say, because they didn't like to talk. Later, I found that not talking and having nothing to say are two different things. When you don't like to talk, you still have something in your heart. Nothing, nothing in your heart. Pang Lina had an affair with Xiao Jiang and was caught by Xiao Jiang's wife Zhao Xinting. She told Niu Aiguo that she waited outside the hotel room in the middle of the night and heard everything. "They talk more in one night than in a year."

It was not until Niu Aiguo met Zhang Chuhong that he knew what it was like to talk to a woman. At that time, Niu left home and drove in Cangzhou for a long time. Zhang Chuhong is the daughter-in-law of Kun Li, the owner of Lao Li Food City, a restaurant on the way. She is twenty-four or five years old, with almond eyes, high nose, pouting, fat and full breasts. She often goes to dinner at a critical moment and gets to know the couple. Once, the car's water tank was broken, so he had to stay. Kun Li is not here, and the waiter is off duty at night. Zhang Chuhong invited him to drink together. It was the fifteenth day of the lunar calendar, and in front of him was a big moon. Two people were talking while drinking, half drunk and chatting for a long time. Later, they chatted in bed. The moon shines on the bed and feels as hot as the sun.

In the future, when Kun Li is away, cows will stay overnight. Being together is not just for sleeping, but for chatting. Not only for talking, but also for the intimacy, atmosphere and taste when we are together. Another night, they want to make out three times. After making out, don't sleep, hug and chat. Niu and anyone can say anything, so can Zhang Chuhong. If you can't remember with others, you can remember with Zhang Chuhong. The number of ways of speaking is different from that of anyone else. They are like themselves. The two said happy things and unhappy things. Talk to others, happy things say happy, unhappy things say disappointed; But when Niu Aiguo and Zhang Chuhong are together, they can be happy when they are unhappy. After a while, I was going to bed, and a man said, "We are talking about something else." Another person said, "If you say something else, say something else."

Later, Zhang Chuhong wanted Niu Aiguo to take her away from this place. Because Niu Aiguo was timid, afraid of killing himself, afraid that he could not support two people by himself, he secretly ran back to his hometown alone. Later, Niu Aiguo figured it out and got bold, but he couldn't find Zhang Chu Red anymore. He kept looking, because there was something to tell her, even if someone died, it was worth it. Although I don't know what this sentence is, and I don't know if Niu Aiguo has found Zhang Chuhong, this sentence has changed from being easy to say.

How many people have never met anyone to talk to in their lives? How many people have even met but didn't recognize them? How many people approved it but didn't grasp it? When you wake up, you're long gone? Therefore, how important and lucky it is to meet someone to talk to in this life.