What are the engagement customs in Longwan District, Wenzhou?

1. The parents of both parties meet to discuss the engagement matters

The main thing is to set the almanac and the amount of the groom’s betrothal gift, which depends on the financial conditions of both parties. The gift money received will be returned according to the woman's financial conditions. If the woman's conditions are good, she will directly accept the entire gift money and buy a car for the man.

2. Choose a date

Generally in Wenzhou, you need to take the birth dates of both men and women to an expert in the Book of Changes. The expert will give you several permutations and combinations for you to choose. It is recommended that the engagement date be chosen a little later, because there are many things that need to be prepared otherwise it will be very rushed. The wedding date can be closer to the engagement date, so that this tiring period will not be prolonged too long.

Then the engagement date does not have to be on a weekend or a holiday, but the wedding date is best on a weekend or a holiday.

3. Set an engagement banquet and a wedding banquet

In Wenzhou, engagement banquets and wedding banquets are generally hosted by both men and women, so the number of tables should be at least 20. Therefore, the engagement wine should be ordered three months in advance, and the wedding wine should be ordered one year in advance. Only then can we choose a hotel that everyone is satisfied with.

4. Purchase items needed for the engagement of two people

The man gives the woman: a set of gold jewelry: including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings, and diamond rings One piece. Nowadays, many young people don’t like to wear gold jewelry, so except for pairs of rings and diamond rings, other items can be replaced with gold bricks that are easier to maintain their value.

Wedding candy: including a pair of candied golden apricots. (Tangjinxing is made by dyeing white sugar red, frying it into thick juice, and then pressing it into a pomegranate shape with a mold, and then cooling it. This is a specialty of Wenzhou’s engagement ceremony, and you can’t see it in other places) Wenzhou The wedding candies are divided into different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candies that the woman needs, including the red envelopes inside the wedding candies.

5. Engagement Day

Both parents and close relatives and friends held a banquet in a hotel to get engaged. In the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's home dressed up to greet her and her parents. After arriving at the hotel, serve tea to both parents and toast to relatives and friends to witness their love.

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Notes on engagement:

1. Choose a location

Choose to meet at home, and you will feel like you are a respectful guest. The host is the host and one party is the guest. Of course, the meal will be more intimate and no outsiders will disturb the conversation. It is a highly private place. For a social place like a restaurant, it is recommended to choose a private room that is convenient for conversation. Of course, there are also requirements for the overall environment and dishes of the restaurant.

This traditional Chinese way of communication - food culture emphasizes talking while eating. In such a place, both parties have equal status, and there is no distinction between host and guest.

2. Makeup and grooming

For men: Never wear long hair or a sloppy beard. The most important thing is to leave a sense of security to the other parent and make them feel relieved to leave their daughter to such a man. Then, you will be more than half successful. Men should pay more attention to details. Their nails must be clean and free of dirt. Leather shoes must be polished.

Girls: Long hair shawl, kind and charming, pay attention to details, be perfect, dress dignifiedly, extra points for the impression. For example, don’t paint your nails too strong in color, and don’t make up too much, you can put on some makeup appropriately. Just light makeup to show your spirit. Never dress in anything too flashy or revealing.

3. Dignified clothes

Dignified clothes will add a lot of points to your first impression. Parents: The first meeting of parents of both parties. Of course, in addition to the good impression left by the newlyweds on each other's parents, the image of the parents is also particularly important. The mother's appropriately curly hair, the father's glasses and his amiable smile can all leave a good impression on each other, which is not only conducive to communication during the first meeting, but also facilitates getting along in the future.