How to deal with the midlife crisis?

I often meet some people and always say that I am bored and empty. Especially in middle age, it is easier to get bored. After all, career is hard to think about. In life, stability is also stability. Emotionally, cheating is also cheating. Those who don't want to cheat are basically neither dead nor alive. Maybe this is the so-called midlife crisis.

I have a classmate who is over 40 years old. He was in the officialdom, and it was difficult to get promoted again, so he began to learn Buddhism to calm himself down.

There is also a classmate who lost his job because of layoffs in enterprises. As a result, it's been almost a year, and he's unemployed, decadent and almost a family chef. It's terrible to think about it. There are old people and young people in the world. Unemployment is the saddest thing at this time. He wants to take the exam again. After so many years of neglect, it is difficult to change his career. It is difficult for him to find a suitable job, so I sincerely hope that he can get out of this middle-aged crisis as soon as possible.

I know a friend who was the boss eight years ago. As a result, his company went bankrupt because of gambling and product sales problems. As a result, he has been living on his laurels for years. He always wants to get rich, but he has never thought about his ability. He still works in the factory until now. Seeing him makes people decadent.

So people's choice is very important. Don't take the road that doesn't suit you easily. If you go wrong, it's hard to turn back. After all, you are middle-aged and have no capital to start over.

Think of life before middle age as a growing process, from learning knowledge, accumulation, employment, career, marriage and having children. But after middle age, life seems to enter a process of constant loss, such as the deterioration of health, the marriage of children, the end of career, the indifference of marriage and the changes of the times. Such as laid-off, unemployment, economic crisis, children's problems and so on. What is more important is people's sense of loss and frustration, which is very inappropriate.

This crisis of middle-aged people's mind is particularly serious in modern society, which makes middle-aged people feel depressed and gloomy for a long time.

How can we make some adjustments? I suggest the following:

1. Although people reach middle age, they should still face life and society with a positive and enthusiastic attitude and make positive contributions. Even if this life is very tired, I am happy inside.

2, middle age is not the end of life, and ability and literacy can still be improved. People should look forward, not stagnate.

3. Morality can sublimate a person's life realm and make a person live a higher life. Therefore, the continuous cultivation of morality is also crucial.

Middle-aged people are relatively mature and not aging, so they should put forward higher requirements for themselves, so they should not wait passively, but should continue to work hard, continue to struggle and continue to improve their knowledge and skills.

Stabilize fixed income sources, and at the same time obtain passive income and increase new income sources in multiple ways to ensure that income growth and growth rate are greater than household consumption.

When people reach middle age, they want to live in a house because their children are studying, so-called savings. Without hard work, nothing will be achieved, and we will continue to struggle. Try to realize what you want, and don't wait until you are old to regret your life. Middle age is the age when we are afraid of wolves and tigers. We want to do everything, but we can't do anything.

Life will always move forward in the cycle of high tide and low tide, and each stage will encounter some sudden difficulties or natural small twists and turns; The midlife crisis mostly happens to men aged 39-50. Simply put, this stage of life may experience career, health, family, marriage and other crises. What I want to tell you below is the true story about my father and the way to deal with the crisis:

In short, my father is my godfather. As one of the few college students, he has always been a big shot in our hometown, or the pride of our hometown. He has a good job in a city, and as the management of the company, he is well paid. In 2003, he decided to go back to his hometown and develop a real estate house with friends. At that time, our small city began to vigorously build a new urban area, and the formed residential building just started construction. The prospects should be good. Now the house price has reached more than 4000 yuan, which is already very high in the same type of cities. However, three fatal accidents occurred, and the partners were also recovered for falsely reporting the profits of rural household appliances going to the countryside. The project was asked to stop, and they were insolvent. Later, the house was once an unfinished building, but now they still survived, sold the house and paid their debts, and the family lived a happy life with plenty of food and clothing. Since we can't avoid the crisis, let me tell you how to solve it:

First, all parties concerned should have the skills of war decision-making and firm personal beliefs; Learn to take the initiative when you encounter something, and bravely stand up and take responsibility. The construction accident was originally contracted by the construction team. It is reasonable to say that you don't have to bear the responsibility for the accident, but they chose the helper to provide compensation to the families of the victims. This is the way to win people's hearts, that is, the money was given at the insistence of the godfather. Later, these foremen were willing to stick to the construction even if they could not pay for the project. In fact, I also hope that everyone will not care too much about the immediate gains and losses, because life is quite good.

Second: family members should never give up and be the most solid backing; Men need to stand up and be the pillar of the family, but women can also hold up half the sky and are men's best assistants;

During this period, many people advised godmother to divorce, but she strongly disagreed, so she stayed with her children. 13 years, my brother got married with the help of relatives. Although there is a house, after all, the current bride price will really discourage many people. In fact, think about the changes in a man's family and marriage when his career is depressed. It's really a rainy night, and it may really be defeated by the middle-aged crisis;

Third: Maybe my example is a bit extreme, but in fact, the middle-aged crisis of ordinary people is nothing more than getting older and getting older. The old man's illness drags down the family, his son's marriage makes the family poor, his body is threatened by illness, his work is frustrated, he can't be promoted, his wife complains about his low income and poor quality of life, and so on. When these things happen, I don't think it is necessary to be breathless like a mountain. Just relax。

First of all, we must have a good attitude. Everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things, but to find a solution to the problem, the elderly should try to follow the advice of hospital doctors. It is human nature to be born and die. If the job can't be promoted, take the initiative to find a leader to fight for it. If your wife complains, communicate with her. After all, happiness is to be created together.

Second, think about it from another angle. The middle-aged crisis may be just our own summary and the invisible pressure imposed on ourselves. Children and grandchildren have children and grandchildren. Don't worry too much, we can always find the right one. The so-called spoony parents have a long history, and sometimes they just can't find their own direction in life. They live not just for their children.

Fourth, since the middle-aged crisis may be a false proposition, there is no need to directly relate it to the above when we encounter some minor difficulties and setbacks. Difficulties will always be solved in the end.

We can't be trapped by this so-called crisis and can't extricate ourselves from it. We should face up to these difficulties, and standing in front is another kind of scenery.

These are my little suggestions for the middle-aged crisis. Nothing can't be overcome, just be strong and brave, don't exaggerate the crisis itself!

Middle-aged crisis is a hurdle that most people must face. Let's first analyze what a midlife crisis is. How did this thing come about? A clear understanding of these two points may help to overcome the midlife crisis.

First, when the average person reaches middle age, his career path has been set, and it is predictable how far and how deep he can go in the current career field. Some of the goals he/she had set seemed unattainable, so naturally he/she gave up pragmatically, so he/she lost the goal and a sense of crisis came quietly.

Second, after middle age, you are not allowed to work day and night like you did when you were young, and your physical fitness begins to decline, such as hyperlipidemia, hypertension, fatty liver and so on. At this time, the body will tell us all kinds of problems in its unique form: for example, some teeth begin to fail; Vision has decreased; Memory has deteriorated; Cervical or lumbar vertebrae are also beginning to trouble us; My hair is falling off. ...

All these messages emphasize that the body is declining, so we should pay attention to maintenance, fitness, healthy eating and the balance between work and life should be adjusted.

Therefore, in this context, it is impossible for us to change our professional field, and it is difficult to have the courage to set goals for ourselves in a strange field, so the sense of crisis comes quietly.

Third, middle-aged people, old and young, have also entered a turning point. Old people at home are old, and there must be physical problems, which will constitute psychological pressure and economic burden; When people reach middle age, the children at home also begin to enter the university and prepare for employment. As parents, they have to worry about it. Psychological pressure and economic burden will also follow, so it also forms a part of the crisis.

Fourth, the crisis of self-confession.

How to survive the midlife crisis?

In fact, there are still many paths, because a happy mood can dilute the sense of crisis, and a sense of accomplishment and existence outside work and career can also cover up the sense of crisis.

Photography, get a SLR, have a simple training, feel the world with your heart, record the world, properly file your own photography, and gradually get to know a group of like-minded people, which will definitely establish a happy mood;

Painting, calligraphy, this can not only cultivate sentiment, but you may also discover your talent for painting through this. Don't worry that no one knows the goods in the internet age;

There are so many platforms for writing, all kinds of self-media and online novels. You can find one that suits you and write from now on until you have a grandson. No amount of money can buy that great sense of accomplishment.

Fitness, do dumbbells or push-ups every day, draw tables to record exercise data and weight data. As long as you persist, you will definitely bring a sense of accomplishment and pleasure.

As long as you are willing, there are many hobbies that can be developed, and you may inadvertently become "slash middle age".

I am middle-aged. The so-called middle-aged crisis is often encountered by many middle-aged people. Different industries have different sense of crisis. When people reach middle age, their energy and physical strength are not as good as when they were young. At work, it is often a stressful working environment. There is no room for promotion. Earning money has stabilized to a certain extent, and there are more and more places to spend money. Parents are old and need to take care of them slowly. Children spend a lot of money on schooling. Car loans and mortgages stimulate sensitive nerves. Some people's jobs are still unstable or hard. This is all a kind of mental and psychological pressure.

As for how to face it, it is to face it calmly and accept this reality. Exercise moderately to ensure good health, otherwise, once the body collapses, there will be nothing.

There is no need to work so hard. Do your job well. No matter how hard you try, you can't beat young people. They can work overtime and stay up late. And middle-aged people obviously can't stand it.

Yeah, midlife crisis. At first, I thought that only people who failed in life would have a "crisis" in their fifties and sixties. Now, it seems to be a common "disease" for middle-aged people.

Think about it carefully, in fact, the so-called middle-aged crisis or the responsibility for gains and losses are all mishandled, right? I think life should be around 50 when you are 40, and around 60 when you are 50 ... At least, when you reach middle age, you will be relaxed and no longer worry about the success or failure of your life.

Be prepared, be prepared, and you won't lose your mind. Think thoroughly and you won't lose your balance! Middle-aged crisis, to put it bluntly, is unwilling. If you have money and power, you won't give up. If you don't have money and power, you won't be willing to be "dull" all your life! Of course, there are also helpless bodies ...

Habit is a kind of psychological enjoyment. After a long time, it's like addiction, money or power, or indulgence or drunkenness ... are you willing to give up? Will you let go? Also, watching people singing and dancing, watching people's mountains and rivers recover, thinking that they are ordinary, I am not reconciled.

Middle-aged crisis, be prepared physically and psychologically early. Or dull, or really ordinary, once and for all, all beings are equal, and sitting in Jinshan Beauty can't take away a little bit; Money without money is just empty and light, and you can't even think about inequality! Why, why do you want to fuck your own heart? It's strange to be tangled, tired and not sick.

Middle-aged people regret, middle-aged people regret. Remember, when you reach middle age. People are not middle-aged, pay attention!

Thank you Wukong for inviting me to ask questions: when it comes to the topic of middle age, many middle-aged people have something to say. First of all:

1, middle age is an embarrassing age, and a series of things, big and small, such as family, marriage, children and work, have to be undertaken by middle-aged people. They are old and young. When the elderly are healthy, the pressure will be less. If the elderly are in poor health, they will have more difficulties.

2. The career is thriving. In terms of work experience and dealing with people, these people will be very independent, but they will be embarrassed in terms of promotion. In the eyes of some leaders and colleagues, although these people have a good job, they will soon face retirement, so they can't get on or off.

3, they have to support their parents, educate their children, family pressure and work pressure, all of which make them breathless. Faced with these, I think middle-aged people are the most amazing.

Because China people have the strongest endurance, they have received revolutionary traditional education since childhood, know how to respect the old and love the young, and can endure hardships, so when the crisis comes, they can't be defeated.

The gift of time to everyone is to make you grow old day by day. Everyone goes through middle age. At this time, you should face it calmly, spend more time with your family, give more care to your family and be kind to your friends.

As a middle-aged man, I know more about beauty, and I am by no means a sloppy person. I know the importance of health, know how to be filial to the elderly, educate children, and forget all the achievements and unhappiness in my past work.

When people reach middle age, it is best to learn more life skills, read more books and use more brains. We always hear some parents ask their children not to lose at the starting line. In fact, middle-aged people don't lose at the starting line. When I say the starting line, I don't mean to compete with anyone, but mainly not to be eliminated by family or even society and keep up with the situation. People get older day by day. Thought must not be old.

No face is the best face. When people reach middle age, they are experiencing the whole life, with pressure and gains, and their careers are maturing with life. Of course, people are doomed to be unfortunate, and there are many unhappy people. What can it do? Face the reality!

Happy-go-lucky, laugh at life.