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In Mao Mu's novel The Veil, married Katie and married Tang Sheng have an abnormal relationship. When Katie's husband Walter stumbled upon their relationship, he gave Katie two choices:

Either let her lover divorce and marry her within a week; Or let her follow her to practice medicine in a cholera-ravaged village in China.

Katie is sure that no one loves her, but Tang Sheng just wants to keep her distance at the moment to protect her reputation. He even suggested that Katie go to that dangerous place in China to get her husband's forgiveness.

Mao Mu understands human nature. He knows that in most extramarital affairs, true feelings do not exist, only desires. This kind of extramarital affair, which ignores morality and family responsibilities, has undoubtedly been spurned by people.

From ancient times to the present, the public's moral condemnation and public criticism of extramarital affairs have left no feelings. However, the film The Bridges of Madison County released on 1995 is an exception.

This film is based on American writer Robert? James. Waller's novel The Bridges of Madison County was adapted. After the film was released, the popularity lasted for a long time. It also triggered a divorce frenzy in American society, which broke people's cognition of the discrimination and limitations of extramarital affairs for the first time.

I saw this film when I was in college. At that time, I cried for the scene where the hero and heroine separated in the rain. Many years later, I got married and reread the original work before I really understood the deep meaning behind the story.

This is not a simple cheating story, but a story about love and marriage, others and self, morality and responsibility choice.

First, the shortcomings in marriage are common to all.

The story happened in 1965. Francesca is the wife of farmer Richard. She has a quiet and busy family life, a pair of lovely children and an honest and steady husband, and her life looks stable and happy.

In August of that year, my husband took a pair of children for four days. It was in these four short days that Francesca had an unforgettable love affair with Robert, a photographer from afar.

Francesca didn't leave with Robert because of family responsibilities. But the charm of love is so beautiful and moving that after parting, they miss each other for the rest of their lives. After their death, they scattered their ashes under the Roseman Bridge on their first date and will never be apart again.

The context of the story is not complicated, but the thoughts and choices about marriage and love presented in the story have poked many people's hearts.

Because the shortcomings of the hero and heroine in the story are also the shortcomings of many people.

Living without a fixed address and traveling far and wide is Robert's life background, and his work and personality doomed him to have no stable life in the first half of his life. Going out for a long time was also the main reason for the end of his first marriage.

So when he met Francesca, who was full of family warmth, he felt that after so many years, he was lonely, tired, searching and confused, and now he had an answer and a home.

When the old hunter came back from a long journey and saw the light of the bonfire at home, his loneliness melted? .

Besides, Francesca's married life. Francesca has her own vision of life. She said to Robert, this is not the place I dreamed of when I was a child. ? Although her life is stable, it's not what she wants.

Richard has rough feelings and doesn't understand love. His world has no poetry and distance, so he has no ability to pay attention to and understand Francesca's feelings and world.

When Francesca burst into tears in the car because Robert left, Richard just asked her what was wrong. Turn to look at her, shake your head, and then turn the radio to the animal situation radio program. ?

I can imagine how lonely Francesca and Richard are together. These two people are physically close, but they live in two worlds at heart.

Richard gave Francesca a stable life, but she could not meet her emotional needs. There is no in-depth communication, only trivial and mediocre surface daily life.

This is what people call pseudo intimacy. People have lived under the same roof for many years, but they may still know nothing about each other.

Love is a profound understanding and understanding, and how many couples are just business partners, living the same life as this person and living the same life as that person. Love has only been heard of, but never seen. Tired life has been overwhelmed. Who needs so-called romantic feelings?

For some people, spiritual life is as important as real life, but life is not perfect. On the contrary, it is always full of shortcomings.

It is this that resonates with people. There are people around, but the feeling of loneliness is lingering. How many people have spent a long night in this marriage, and how many people feel the same way about this in the plot.

Second, I am your dream.

I love you not only for who you are, but also for who I am when I am with you.

Francesca in Robert's lens is obviously a romantic girl, unlike a peasant woman in her forties. When Francesca told Robert that this was not the place I dreamed of when I was a child. Robert said the old dream was a good dream. Even if I don't have it, I'm glad to have it.

More than 20 years of family life has suppressed Francesca's expectations and dreams of life. Because of family and responsibility, she is willing to confine her life to her family, but she can't close her heart.

Richard doesn't want to talk about sex. He thinks it's obscene and dangerous. He and Francesca only meet once every two months, and they are still casual and unemotional; Husband and wife share the bathroom separately because Richard is interested in her feminine products? Too slutty? ; There is no intimacy or desire between them.

But Robert understood her, appreciated her and accepted her. In sincere feelings, people will strongly feel the existence of themselves. Francesca is confident and stretched in front of Robert, and her self has awakened.

At this moment, she is no longer the peasant woman regardless of gender, but a charming woman, a beautiful woman who is loved.

She said, I am like another woman now, but more like myself than before.

She prepared her own private bathroom for Robert, put on her husband's thin metal earrings, sprinkled perfume and put on a light pink strapless dress, which she would never do in front of Richard. Because Richard can't accept and appreciate all this, and all this is exactly what Francesca likes.

Robert is her dream. Everything that has been suppressed, neglected, neglected and excluded in ordinary and numb life has been cherished and recognized by Robert here. Flowers, perfume, beer; Rivers, forests and bonfires;

Ye Zhi's poem Freedom and Distance resonated wonderfully and harmoniously, and now the old dream of girlhood is presented to Francesca, with breathtaking beauty.

Their love makes the simple kitchen shine like never before because of candlelight and dancing together. The short four days and four nights together warmed and comforted Francesca for the rest of her life, which was the spiritual light that supported her to live a lonely and boring farm life.

You can condemn their deviant love, but you can't deny that there is true love outside marriage, even if it is criticized.

Third, this is a game between reason and emotion.

The short four days are coming to an end, and the two have had the last inevitable conversation.

Robert hopes to take Francesca far away, but Francesca has returned to reason and reality at this time. She has a husband and children. If she really elopes with him, her husband and children will be criticized in this isolated town.

Her child is in adolescence, and her husband is not at fault. If she abandons her responsibility and leaves at all costs, the pain of guilt will make her a different person, not the romantic and charming one now.

Robert loves freedom by nature. She doesn't want him to give up freedom and stay with her.

In other words, this relationship is beautiful, but? How about missing each other? .

Colorful clouds are easy to disperse, glass is fragile, and beautiful things are precious and easy to disperse. Some things are only suitable to be stored in memories, not to be played with.

Perhaps, choosing to leave at the most brilliant and beautiful time, although cruel and painful, is the only way to make this relationship last forever.

The conflict between the three views and personality, the intrusion of various relationships, and trivial matters have not yet reached this relationship, and the memories left for this relationship are all halo and beauty.

Francesca and Robert chose to seal this relationship with parting and memories, but perhaps neither of them thought that this love that touched the soul was too shocking and profound, and the pain of choosing to part at the most affectionate time was too strong, so that they would remember each other for life until death do us part.

What a shocking picture of parting in the rain. Robert stood in the rain with mixed feelings in his eyes. Francesca opened the door with restraint and pain, which said it all. The picture at this time made me see the difference between movies and words.

Robert respects Francesca's wishes. He left the town and never came again, but when he wandered around the world, he always took a necklace with Francesca's name engraved on it, left a will and sent his belongings to Francesca after his death.

If you have loved someone, you will understand that staying away is not because you don't love, but because you love deeply. I can't stay with you forever, but I will protect you in my own way. Even if you are not with me, as long as someone protects you, as long as you are calm and happy, I will feel at ease.

Francesca also left a will on the first date and scattered her ashes on the romantic bridge. We can't get together in this life, and we will never part in the afterlife.

Man is the most complicated animal. If it weren't for people struggling in similar marital situations and feeling lonely in marriage, I'm afraid they would have criticized this unfaithful extramarital affair to pieces.

Actually, it doesn't matter whether you cheat or not. What matters is whether you clearly realize what is most important and meaningful to you in your current life.

Francesca knows how to choose. Her choice is to do her best, to be considerate of her family, to miss the distance, and to do her best to hurt people around her.

No choice is perfect and full of regrets. This is life.