My boyfriend became cold after he went on a trip. Is this a sign of a breakup?

If you really get to know your boyfriend’s true face through travel, and his behavior is significantly different from his usual interactions, you can choose to break up with him.

I believe this sentence very much, so the year before last I proposed traveling to another place with my ex, with the purpose of seeing him clearly. So on the way, I deliberately made him angry over little things to see if he would still take care of me and comfort me when he was tired from traveling.

As a result, he was not as gentle and considerate as before. He kept a straight face and felt particularly cold. Later, we didn't go to several of the scenic spots we had agreed to see. We were not having a great time and even got into a fight.

After that trip, he and I naturally broke up, clean and tidy. The other party didn't look like he wanted to redeem himself at all. Finally, I couldn't help but ask him, why is he so bad-tempered when traveling?

He said: "Traveling is the best way to see a person clearly. When you are traveling, you will lose your temper over trivial matters and show your face to me. You are particularly difficult to take care of. This is not like you at all. I I finally see it clearly."

What is this...

During the journey, it is inevitable that things will happen; more importantly, when you are away from home, there will be constant interactions between people. The way they get along with each other breaks away from the tranquility of daily life. After being busy for more than half a year, they can't help but relax their usually sanctimonious nerves. As soon as a few clues come out, whether it is communication style, emotional management ability, or problem-solving skills, it can be seen at a glance. Compared with strangers who form a temporary group, intimate relationships face more tests. The truth of adversity and adversity escalates. Once you slack off, your previous dignity will seem so unreal. Those who are mature and secure partners will be even more vulnerable. It’s easy to get the other person’s approval.

Travel is full of accidental factors, and it may not be wise to rush to define your partner's behavior.

Therefore, traveling does not necessarily have to be a relationship curse. The accidents that everyone wants to avoid during travel may also become a turning point in the relationship. The key is whether to focus on the other person and take into account the other person's needs. My feeling is that I still put too much emphasis on myself and put too much emphasis on myself - I am not traveling alone, but "we" are traveling.

If you want to wait and see about an intimate relationship without being disappointed, perhaps the safest way is not to throw away your perfect assumptions about life and your partner on a hurried trip. If your boyfriend is not gentle and considerate during the trip, you don't have to rush to break up. First understand why this situation occurs and the specific reasons why your boyfriend is not considerate, and then decide whether to break up.

1. Your boyfriend is distracted by work or other things

It is understandable if your boyfriend is not as considerate as before because he is distracted by other things. After all, not everyone is guaranteed to be perfect every moment. If you have been under a lot of pressure recently or have some worries that make you feel a little different from before, this is normal. Slow down and think about it, if it were you, would you ignore your boyfriend's feelings when you are busy at work, or under great pressure, or in a bad mood?

2. Your boyfriend is thinking about someone else.

If your boyfriend is thinking about other girls, he will naturally not care about you. In this case, you need to communicate in advance. For a moment, if your boyfriend's attitude towards you is still not as good as before, then you can consider breaking up, but don't be decisive or do anything that will make you regret. If you still like him very much, you can try to see if there are any ways to get your boyfriend back. If you really can't get him back, you are considering breaking up.