Nowadays, some college students ignore the financial difficulties at home and live a pseudo-refined life in school. What do you think?

With nothing to do, I clicked on WeChat and saw many Moments posted by former students. Most of them are now students at well-known or unknown institutions. In the circle of friends, you can vaguely see their living conditions. In a word, they live a very "exquisite" life, or in other words, they pretend to live a "exquisite" life. The boys showed off their expensive sneakers and sweatshirts. A pair of sneakers cost more than 2,000 yuan, and a gaming keyboard cost a thousand yuan. The girls posted photos of their daily lives. They had to collect all the lipstick colors, watch their idols’ concerts, and eat. Eating steak and drinking coffee?

If you didn’t know their family situation, you would really be happy for their exquisite and ritualistic life. After all, your students can live a high-quality life. Life as a teacher is also very honorable. However, when we know that their pair of sneakers may be their parents’ living expenses for a month; when we know that their steak eats up their father’s food expenses for a month; when we know that a ticket to a celebrity concert is their parents’ When I get my monthly salary? Can I still be happy?

Life requires a sense of ritual, and the pursuit of high-quality life is human nature, but it is by no means excessive consumption. It is not "spend tomorrow's money to realize today's dream." Classmates, the money you spend is not earned by yourself. Behind your exquisite life is the embarrassment of your parents sweating profusely. When you use your parents' hard-earned money to sing "Mom in Candlelight" and "My Old Father" at KTV, have you ever thought about how much sweat your parents have to pay for this night's consumption? When you are consuming steak and coffee in a high-end restaurant, have you ever thought about your parents bargaining with the vegetable vendors for fifty cents at the vegetable market? When you are traveling around, posting photos, looking at the beautiful scenery, and sighing: "The years are quiet and good", Have you ever thought that your parents in your hometown are carrying the burden for you?

Behind the exquisite life is the squandered youth. How many students take out naked loans or even sell their kidneys and eggs to buy a mobile phone; how many students spend a month to buy high-end cosmetics. Steamed buns and instant noodles, you don’t hesitate to max out your credit card in order to buy a brand-name bag? Dear classmates, it’s great when you show off in front of others, and the bright life in your circle of friends is also very enviable, but the sacrifice and price behind it are really Is it worth it? Today's circle of friends seems to have become a stage for performances. No matter how miserable life is, we must show our best in the circle of friends. We spare no effort to dress up and perform. We live more for others to watch. The circle of friends is like our gorgeous coat, wrapping ourselves elegantly. But no matter how exquisite a coat is, it is still just a coat, and we have to return to reality.

A truly exquisite life does not necessarily require brand-name bags, Western food and red wine, nor does it necessarily require high-end cosmetics and brand-name sneakers. There is no need to chase stars and travel everywhere? Real exquisiteness focuses on the inner . It is not just those luxurious coats on the surface, but truly confirming oneself from the heart, understanding one's own value, and not losing oneself. Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: Take a bath, look at a flower, and eat a meal. If you feel happy, it is not all because the bath is clean, the flowers are blooming well, or the food is to your taste. It is mainly because you There is no worry in my heart. ?Such a life attitude that pleases oneself wholeheartedly is actually the original meaning of "exquisite life". What if you can’t afford to drink high-end red wine or go to a high-end hotel? Putting a flower, lighting a candle, and spreading a clean tablecloth is also a life full of exquisiteness and ritual; what if you can't watch the concert or travel? Isn't it simple happiness to make a cup of tea, open a book, and purify your soul?

Live your own life, not perform it for others to see. When we have the ability to be "delicate", of course we can make our life have some sense of ritual, but there is no need to do it just to make others look "delicate". Performance and consumption are beyond our ability and beyond the endurance of our parents. Classmates, your current "exquisiteness" is your efforts to pursue your ideals and beliefs, and it is your forbearance and restraint in the ordinary. Life really doesn’t need so much “pseudo-exquisiteness” and not so much “sense of ritual”.