Mother wants 200,000 alimony at a time. What should I do?

The youngest daughter said, "My mother asked me for ten years' alimony this time, which is probably less than 654.38+ 10,000 yuan. Then I have a sister, and her alimony is almost 200 thousand. My mother took the money to travel with her sister. "

Mediator: "Have you ever asked your mother why she took so much money?"

The youngest daughter said, "She thinks that other people's children give their parents a lot of money, which is very beautiful and has a lot of face.

She thinks it's not enough for me and my sister to give her one or two thousand yuan a month. She has her own pension of more than 2,000 yuan, which adds up to four or five thousand yuan of pocket money a month.

I think my mother is becoming more and more ignorant. The older she gets, the more she loves to spend money. She always sings, dances and plays mahjong. She likes buying clothes very much. She bought more clothes than I did, and she didn't wear much after buying them.

She also bought a lot of jade and antiques, so she bought some bottles and cans, all of which were fake. "

Moderator: "If you insist on not giving her this 65438+ million, what will happen if you give her 1000 every month?"

Little daughter: "Cut me off and say that you raised me for nothing. It is better not to raise me. "

The eldest daughter said, "I don't agree with my mother, but she brought us up from childhood." I think she worked hard and my father died young. "

Mom worked hard to raise us, and she gave her money if she wanted me. If she wants to spend now, I'll give it to her. "

The youngest daughter said, "Because my husband's company is in a bad situation now, he still has parents to support. The child is less than one year old, and I have been taking care of myself. My sister is better than me, so she will accommodate my mother a little. "

After her mother came to power, she looked really fashionable. She said, "When my two daughters grow up, it is also appropriate to ask them for alimony. Everything I buy will be left to them in the future.

They think that it is impossible for the elderly to support them silently. We also have a variety of rich lives.

Give me alimony for ten years at a time, and then leave me alone. "

Mediator: "You know your daughter's financial situation is not good, why do you need such a large alimony at a time?"

Mom: "It's right to ask them for money. Once I give enough, they won't have time to take care of me. "

The eldest daughter: "Mom, sometimes, when you go out to sing, dance and eat, you pay for it. Your sisters follow you, and you buy this and that, so you pay a lot of money. "

In fact, mom, many people are greedy for your benefits, but do you think you have a lot of face? "

Mom: "How come? We are old sisters. I am happy to spend money. I know they don't like me, so they don't spend money on me. I need this money now. I am very happy! "

Daughter: "Last time she went out to travel, she went to my husband to get money. My husband's company was not good, and then she asked for 1 10,000 to travel. The husband wanted his mother-in-law to ask for money, so he had to give it to her. I took the money and spent it in a few days.

Mom, I appreciate you raising me so much and giving me a good education, but I really can't accept your thoughtlessness. "

Mediator: "Why do you want to get 200 thousand at a time?"

Mom: "You know, many old sisters around me say there is nothing left. I might as well take some money to be happy first. "

The youngest daughter was very wronged and said, "Everyone is very distressed about her daughter. Just like when I was confined, my mother never came.

My husband was very busy and didn't hire a nanny. My mother-in-law takes care of my seriously ill father-in-law, and I take care of myself.

My mother hasn't seen it many times. She always said that your sister got married, you got married, and then you asked for money. Can't feel maternal love. "

Daughter: "Last time my mother came back from a business trip, I went to see my mother. As a result, I heard from my neighbors that my mother often gets close to a star-like figure in the old singing group who is six or seven years younger than her. "

That man comes to my mother's house from time to time. I'm worried. Is this man asking my mother for money for this idea? "

But mom thinks it's normal for old people to walk around. Now that their children are married, they should be free to do what they want.

Emotional comments

Many times there are misunderstandings between parents and children, and there are often deviations due to communication.

What parents don't love their children from the heart? Just because the distance is far away, the number of meetings is small, and we have a knot with each other, but we can't find a suitable communication method, so we can only feel that the other party has changed.

Perhaps both mother and daughter are unwilling to speak and express their inner concern for each other. After a long time, they can't find a way to communicate, so my mother will make such unreasonable demands.

Mom knows that her daughter can't reach it, but she will try to communicate with her. In fact, she is taking a step back, hoping to have an emotional exchange with her daughter.

The daughter did not take into account her mother's feelings, nor did she consider her daughter's situation.

What a mother wants may not be 100,000 alimony, not that she doesn't want this daughter, but that her daughters can spend time caring for her, caring for her and spending more time with her.

The daughter also hopes that her mother can help and take care of herself.