For the rest of your life, learn to please yourself

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For the rest of your life, please remember to learn to please yourself.

Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

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Pleasing yourself

Sanmao once received a letter signed "Unhappy Girl".

In the letter, the girl explained that her life was very unhappy and unsatisfactory. She also felt that she was worthless and was quite poor in material and spirit. She wanted to ask Sanmao for advice, what is the purpose of life? How can we be happy while living?

Sanmao said in the reply:

Next, Sanmao comforted her in the reply. In fact, she is not mediocre. If you want to be happy, everything can start from actual changes. .

For example, paint the room bright white, make yourself a beautiful curtain on the window, make a bookshelf in the corner, replace the light bulb with a warm and cozy lampshade, spend some money on yourself Buy a nice new dress, get a new hairstyle, go to activities, meet new friends...

Happiness is actually very simple, just start with small things, and you can see it slowly To change.

"Don't rely on others to give you happiness. Decorate your room first and force yourself to do it. You will find that things are not as difficult as you think. Moreover, you can pursue your interests. Try here and there. Give it a try, and if you decide you like it, cultivate it and make it your pastime after get off work. ”

Find fun and please yourself.

For the rest of your life, please learn to please yourself.

Wang Xiaobo said: "People who wait for others to give them happiness often live unhappy lives."

Only by knowing how to love yourself and having the ability to make yourself happy can you truly live a happy life. happiness.

When you are tired, take a break. When you are annoyed, just be quiet. When you are angry, comfort yourself. When you are sad, give yourself a hug.

Pursue your dreams

Live yourself

On his 70th birthday, comedy superstar Chaplin wrote a poem - "When I Learned to Love Myself" , one of which impressed me deeply:

Everyone is born unique, do what you love, don’t remember the past, don’t worry about the future, just live in this moment.

Pursue your dreams and live your life.

My friend Xiao Jin comes from an ordinary family. His father failed in business and was in debt.

Everyone in her family hopes that she will live a stable life and become a teacher or a civil servant.

Everyone said: "Girls, being a teacher or civil servant is the most popular, and it will be easier to find a partner in the future."

But she has always had a dream of English in her heart, and she is not willing to give up. Peaceful, with a distant future in mind.

During her college years, she studied English hard, participated in English competitions, and took time off from her busy schedule to work as an interpreter for foreigners at the Convention and Exhibition Center.

Slowly, her English got better and better, and she was recommended by her friends, so she stepped onto a bigger stage and translated for many celebrities.

Later, she became an English self-media blogger. With the money she earned, she traveled to many places and was admitted to a prestigious foreign university, realizing her dream.

She said: "Others say we should live a stable life, but my personality doesn't like that. I follow my heart and do what I love. This is the meaning of life."

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If you bloom, the breeze will come.

Don’t chase a horse. If you use the time you spend chasing horses to plant grass, when spring comes, you will be able to attract a group of horses to come running towards you.

To have an interesting soul and live a meaningful life is not about how old you live, but about truly following your heart, even if it is like a shooting star, it will bring its own light even for a moment.

Reject others

Obey yourself

Sanmao once said: "Don't be afraid to reject others. If your reasons are legitimate, when a person makes a request When he arrived, he had already prepared the answer in his heart.

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Internet celebrity Li Xueqin, who graduated from Peking University and revealed that she suffers from depression, also shared her experience of not knowing how to refuse.

She said in an interview that after becoming famous, She received many invitations and private messages, but because she didn’t know how to refuse, she kept herself busy and eventually broke down emotionally.

In another interview, she said: “I can refuse others, but I learned to apologize. and compensation. "

Li Xueqin's answer was: "You have come to me, and my rejection of you is hurting you. "

This sentence also expresses the sentiments of many people - the fear of rejecting others.

My friend Xiaoxi used to be afraid of rejecting others. When shopping for clothes, the sales The staff kept recommending clothes to her. She tried on a few and found that she didn’t like them, but she felt that it was taking up other people’s time, so she was embarrassed to refuse and bought them. As a result, she didn’t wear the clothes after buying them, which was a waste of a lot of money.

When her friends asked her to help, she would agree even if she had things of her own to do. She often helped her friends with things, which made her feel exhausted both physically and mentally.

Later she discovered that even if she was right Her friends helped her unconditionally, but they didn't pay special attention to her.

So she changed her mind and couldn't always obey others for their own preferences.

Although she would at first. She felt uncomfortable all over, but slowly she gained freedom of mind and a mutually respectful friendship.

Now she dares to speak her mind, dare to reject others, and will obey. What you really think in your heart.

Bi Shumin said: "Our lives do not exist to please others. ”

Establish good boundaries between yourself and others. If someone puts forward an idea or request that you don’t want to do, express it directly.

There is a sentence in "Silent Confession": We will eventually His life is to get rid of other people's expectations and find his true self.

There is no need to look at other people's eyes, and there is no need to blindly please others; instead of caring too much about others, it is better to care more about yourself.

< p> Make life simple, not complicated, wait for the flowers to bloom and listen to the rain.

Eat healthily, dress cleanly, be tidy on the outside, and have less troubles on the inside.

Parents are healthy. , life is comfortable with your lover by your side.

Click to see. May you please yourself for the rest of your life, pursue what you love, continue to cultivate your heart in peace and loneliness, and be as colorful and brave as a flower. !

About the author: This article was first published by Uncle Fuji (ID: dashu259), a single and beautiful man who combines reason and emotion, is funny and warm-hearted, and focuses on weaving dreams for girls at night. The copyright of the pictures in the article belongs to him. All rights reserved.