What should I do if my boyfriend and girlfriend quarrel while traveling after being together for a month?

I don’t think we should break up based on this alone. In an environment of two people, if something goes wrong and they fail to implement the plan as planned, many people will blame themselves and start to think that they can't even do this well. When more and more mistakes are made, people will I started thinking about it in the opposite direction, why was it that I was traveling alone, why did he seem so relaxed? At this time, the person in charge of the itinerary began to feel resentful, and later became angry. At this time, friction between the two people began to break out, and both parties He began to blame the other person, and the conflicts gradually intensified. The gentleness he had shown when getting along before turned into a kind of deception, and he became more and more convinced that this person was who he was, and everything before was all an illusion.

But have you ever thought that beauty is the moon in the water, and unhappiness is the normal state of life. If you take a person's character state in a stable life as a benchmark, then you subconsciously think that this person should be like this in any situation. This kind of thinking is actually very dangerous. What you see is the upper limit of a person's character. Once you encounter some difficulties, if the person maintains it, it will be fine. If the person does not maintain it, it will collapse. In all likelihood, the relationship will break up. .

It’s actually nothing if we break up. The problem is that when most people encounter setbacks and difficulties, their personality state is much different from usual. If you always use the upper limit as the criterion, you will only be the one who is sad in the end.

I have always believed that one of the hallmark psychology of moving from liking to love is that I know what this person is like, but I still accept it. The essence of this sentence is that you not only know the upper limit of this person, but also know the lower limit of this person, and accept this person's lower limit. The first step for many people to accept the lower limit is travel.

In the known strategy, facing the unknown journey and unknown difficulties, everything encountered during this period may be unknown, and this is the right time for you to understand the lower limit of a person's character. After the journey is over, you know the side of this person's personality that is not acceptable to you. What you have to do besides being sad is to calm down and think about whether I can accept the lower limit of this person's current display.