After getting married, do you want to travel with your husband or by yourself and friends?

"Don't be bound by ordinary days."

I have always felt that my mother's life was particularly perfect.

She is in her 50s and still slender. As a mother, she has been in love with my dad for decades and has a son and a daughter. As a teacher, there is an endless stream of people coming to pay New Year's greetings to her every year. In the eyes of everyone who knows me, my mother is a model of successful women. My mother always says that she has nothing to regret in her life.

But one day, after dinner, she was mopping the floor as usual. A country's tourism advertisement is playing on the TV. She suddenly stopped, read it with great interest, and said softly: "I really want to go with you." Then she went to mop the floor again.

I don’t know why, but my heart suddenly felt sour. And I realized that my mother is actually a woman who really likes to play. I sing and dance while cooking, and on weekends I always want to invite everyone to try the new restaurant.

She is also a person who loves traveling very much. She often tells me about her grandparents’ experience of traveling around the country with her as a child. She also tells me that girls must travel more with the people they love.

However, since getting married and having us, my mother never seemed to leave the house. At that moment I realized that my mother didn't have regrets, it was just that no one cared.

No matter how old a woman is and how perfect her life seems, there will always be a little girl in her heart who dreams of traveling with her lover.

Haizi said, when you come to the world, you want to see the sun. Walk down the street with your sweetheart.

If you love her, you must take her to travel.

Traveling before marriage is the best way to test whether two people can go on together. The life problems exposed during travel will always test both parties in the relationship. For couples who have not experienced the oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, the choice of whether to get up early to see more attractions or simply sleep in will be magnified. "Does your worldview and mine fit together?"

What is the other person’s personality, good or bad temper, whether he knows how to solve problems, and whether he is considerate and caring, all these issues will be reflected during the trip. Whether we can get along with each other, or whether we are willing to get along with this person, depends on each other's patience during the trip.

If you have withstood the test of traveling before marriage, then you should travel more often after marriage.

We often say that whether a woman’s marriage is good or not can be determined by looking at her face. Every time I watch Gao Yuanyuan and Zhao Youting get married, they become more temperamental and charming, especially when she goes out to travel. In the photo, every smile and every frown is particularly charming.

She likes to travel, and whenever she posts travel photos on Weibo, many people always make joking comments: Where is my uncle?

Someone asked Zhao Youting: Why do you have to travel around with Yuanyuan World when you are not filming?

Chao Youting said: "Wherever she wants to go, I will accompany her."

In the comments at the time, I saw this sentence: Marriage is not terrible. , but people who regard marriage as a tomb. After they get married, they never go anywhere and crucify themselves at home.

I have seen many men cheat on each other after getting married; I have seen many women only focus on their children after getting married; I have also seen these married men and women, Complaining about everything at home all day long.

They stand in the position of those who have experienced it, telling us how terrible, plain and boring married life is, and say that this is the reality.

I think of my HR manager when I graduated. She was 34 years old and looked no different from 27 or 28 years old. She had a bright smile and had been married to her husband for 9 years.

When I first joined the company after becoming a full-time intern, I heard that the head of the human resources department had resigned. The reason was that the company was facing a critical stage of financing expansion and would not grant her leave to travel.

The day I gave my full-time job report was her last day in the company. In the conference room, she asked me: "If one day, work may seriously affect your life, what choice will you make?"

I particularly flattered the company and said: "You can't live without money. , Work is more important than life." She smiled lightly, and then said, "Okay, your work report has been completed, and someone will inform you of the results." Since then, I have never seen her again.

Later I heard from a colleague at the company that she and her husband had agreed to travel abroad at least once a year. I had just graduated from college at that time, and I couldn’t understand what traveling meant to her and her husband. would be so important.

Only later, when I saw many people around me getting married and living a boring life as a matter of course, did I understand why she defended her right to travel with her husband so much in the first place.

No matter how passionately two people loved each other, they will always find that life will fall into some kind of boring and trivial life at a certain stage in their lives. In the greasy fireworks, love blurs the appearance and wears away the passion.

Since we are willing to tolerate ourselves for the sake of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, why are we not willing to take a breather for the sake of music, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, wine and tea?

You no longer need to only talk about diapers, curse your boss, and settle bills. When you relax, you can recall the good times in the past, the dreams you once had, and those long-lost sweetnesses will come back to you.

Perhaps, in the heavy and trivial world, we have long understood the truth of life, but we still have to choose to believe in love; we have long understood each other's weaknesses, but we will not give up on the person who will accompany me throughout my life.

Maybe this is the reason why there are so many bad things about marriage, but everyone still wants to find a reason to live together forever.

If you love your child, take him or her on a trip.

My friend Xie Kehui wrote a story. When she traveled to Europe that year, she met a Chinese father and son. Because his father was on a business trip, he took his children to travel to European cities. The father of the children seems to be a doctor who has returned from overseas. You can feel the peace and calmness in him, and he has seen the world.

The father said something that impressed her deeply. He said: "I always feel that our generation has poor genes, does not have good material conditions, and has never gone out to see the world. . Such genes are limited by the limitations of oneself and the previous generation. Therefore, until adulthood, there will be a sense of insecurity about life, hoping to make money, hoping to get ahead, and desperately using materials. Decorate yourself. And I hope that the next generation will not be like this.”

So, he lets his children see the outside world and meet people outside as much as possible. His child is ten years old, dressed simply, can take a long-distance bus to Paris, and can also converse fluently in English with people, low-key and restrained.

A long time ago, I read a sentence by Hemingway.

“If you are lucky enough to have lived in Paris when you were young, Paris will always follow you wherever you go.”

Every city has its own Temperament, it will affect you at an early age, change you, and tell you that there are still so many ways to live in life.

There is a question on Zhihu: What is it like to have been to more than 100 countries? One answer has the most likes.

“Understand that there is no such thing as natural correctness and absolute political correctness in this world, and be able to accept other people’s different views and their derived ways of thinking.” In this world full of prejudice, incomprehension, and even misunderstanding, In an era where people talk harshly when people are different, how important it is to be able to accept that others have different views and different ways of living.

When the child really grows up, she will understand that she does not have to get married at the age of thirty, and a man does not have to be rich and powerful to be successful. If you love your child, be sure to take him or her on a trip.

Let him see how wonderful this world is, and let him, when he is the most innocent and pure, deeply engrave the beautiful memories of each city in his mind. When he grows up, even if he encounters something unsatisfactory, how can he give up on life?

If you love life, travel.

There was a passage on Weibo that has been forwarded millions of times - when you are staring at the computer, the Alaskan cod is jumping out of the water; when you are frowning in a daze, the golden monkeys in the Meili Snow Mountain are just climbing to the top of the tree. ; When you are squeezing the subway, the Tibetan cloud eagles are flying straight into the clouds;

When you are arguing with your boss, the Nepalese backpackers are already gathering around the fire with their wine glasses. In this world, there are some roads that cannot be walked in high heels, some air that cannot be smelled with perfume, and some people that you will never meet in an office building...

Many people blame everything on life. , shifting the blame to reality, so at a young age, he lives and dies in "home".

Marriage, family, and life are indeed very realistic. Each of us will face various pressures while living in this world.

It seems to you that in those families with happy marriages, the couple may not have spoken much for a whole year. To you, it seems that those born in the 1980s and 1990s who became founders and CEOs at a young age may not talk to each other every day. They were tossing and turning late at night for the next financing.

I have seen a local boss driving a luxury car and living in a villa. Who knew that he owed tens of millions to the bank and wanted to secretly commit suicide? I saw a sentence on the Internet, who doesn’t love life and want to die at the same time?

I dare not say whether marriage is the grave, but I know that life is a process that starts from birth and leads to the grave.

Life cannot be truly escaped. Just like a marriage that once promised to hold hands until old age, it will accompany two people until they grow old. We cannot think about divorce every time we have a trivial quarrel. , we cannot think of parting ways in the face of a partner who no longer has passion, and we cannot tie two people alive at home unable to move.

Just like every one of us living in this world, we are burdened with different pressures. We can name ten thousand reasons why we can’t leave, but we can’t stop and take a look forever. We cannot be restricted by life in a small space, and we cannot be bound by reality at a young age.

Even if we all know that traveling is just a temporary escape, even if we also know that after coming back, we still have to face the trivialities and pressures of life.

But whether we push the boat with the current or swim against it, in the end, we must reach peace with the water. I understand the suffering in life, but I still love it deeply. This is the meaning of life.

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